How much did you spend last month? How about last week? Yesterday? Some of us could probably provide an exact number, right down to the penny. Others have a pretty good general idea. Still others are clueless. This morning’s escape certainly includes managing money and spending, but it’s not limited to just that. If we’re going to see the value of this morning’s focus as we look at 1 Timothy, we have to be clear on what the real issue is. If we don’t pinpoint that, any one of us might end up concluding today’s message addresses an escape that really isn’t much of a problem for me. So as we continue looking at escapes to which turn for the real rest that only Jesus can provide, we want to be as clear as possible. Last week’s escape, chemical dependency, was rather straightforward. We talked about our relationship with drugs and alcohol and dug more into that topic in our small group discussion later in the week.
But how do we nail down today’s escape, which we’ve labeled as “consumerism?” Are we talking about our penchant for purchasing, our desire to shop and spend money? Or is this a greed issue that drives us to pursue more money and wealth? Or, do we need to take about an unhealthy obsession like hoarding and holding on to stuff unnecessarily? If we narrowed today’s topic down to any one of those categories or a number of others, then many of us would tune out, concluding that “I don’t care about getting rich,” or “I don’t even like shopping.”
So let’s summarize today’s theme and Paul’s words to Timothy in this way: our relationship with stuff. Every one of us has a relationship with stuff – the stuff we are inclined to throw out as being worthless, the stuff we hold on to that we can’t let go of, or the stuff we seek out when shopping – but we all have a relationship with stuff. And today we want to guard against becoming possessed by our possessions, against treating stuff as an escape, or looking to it for something it can never provide.
An indifferent or disinterested attitude toward the potentially destructive grip stuff can have on us simply ignores numerous warnings from Scripture. There’s a reason Jesus talked about money and possessions as much as he did. There’s a reason Paul is talking about money in a very candid manner with young pastor Timothy in the verses from 1 Timothy. And there’s a reason we need to talk about it today, too. Because we need to be reminded that the real problem with stuff isn’t actually the stuff at all: it’s rather how easily our hearts gravitate toward it. It’s how easily and subtly we put Jesus’ words from the Gospel to the test, as if we’re going to prove him wrong and show him that we actually can serve both God and money, that we can have it both ways (cf. Mt. 6:24). But no one has ever proved God wrong in that department, and you surely won’t be the first. So rather than pursuing that fruitless task, let us instead deal with the real problem and address our hearts.
Make no mistake, our relationship with stuff is an issue of the heart, a spiritual issue. Admittedly, however, we may struggle to see it as such. Why? Because of the way that stuff can make us feel, because of the rush we get when we purchase something. One author who’s consulted with Fortune 100 companies on the shopping habits of consumers contends that people don’t buy something because it’s necessary or even useful, but because of how it makes them feel. Some estimates suggest a 50% increase in online shopping during the pandemic. While certainly a good amount of that online shopping was because of limitations and restrictions to in-store shopping, there’s more to it. When so much of our lives were out of our control – online shopping provided a means by which we could still maintain some control. And it doesn’t matter who you are – male, female, young, or old – we all have different shopping patterns and have all experienced the same dopamine rush of “adding to cart” and “proceed[ing] to checkout” online or handing the cashier our CC or debit card after everything is rung up at the store. So the physical dopamine rush we experience when spending has a way of concealing whether or not a spiritual issue is the real concern. And the relationship we can have in general with certain material things – whether those items evoke fond memories of people or experiences – can cloud what can sometimes be an unhealthy attachment to things.
There is another feeling that drives us when it comes to clinging on to too much stuff or not buying enough stuff: a sense of loss. Our perception of stuff is that if we let go of it, then we experience loss. And, if we don’t buy something or fail to purchase it in time, we experience that same sense of loss by missing out.
That fear of loss is what makes Pauls’ words stand out. Do you catch the irony in Paul’s words in verse 6? “But godliness with contentment is great gain” (v.6). When it comes to stuff, particularly when we shop, we fear we’re losing out if we don’t get a great deal or get the newest, the latest, the greatest. When it comes to saving things, we fear we’ll lose something by pitching it or donating it or giving it away. But Paul says there is a way to experience not loss, but great gain without buying a thing! He calls godliness combined with contentment “gain.” How does one get more or gain something without spending a penny? What does that look like? We have to start somewhere, and often this first step can be the most difficult.
If you’ve ever taken a CPR class or been instructed in basic care, you know that when a person is bleeding, whether it’s a scrape, a laceration, or puncture wound, or some other injury that causes bleeding, the first step is always the same: stop the bleeding. But when it comes to overcoming consumerism as an unhealthy escape, long-term success can be a struggle because we never bother to stop the bleeding. We may establish some new habits – using a budget, actually planning our offerings, or looking for ways to be more generous – but we do these things while at the same time continuing to spend and sinking ourselves more deeply into debt. That’s like slicing your finger while cutting up something in the kitchen and deciding that going for a run will help. Yes, going on a run is good exercise, but it’s not going to do anything for your finger! So establishing good habits without stopping the shopping – without stopping the bleeding – won’t result in the great gain of godliness with contentment. And it isn’t just shopping; if I can’t sort through the possessions I’ve accumulated over time and let go of them bit by bit, I haven’t stopped the bleeding.
How do we decide how if this is a problem for us, or how challenging it may be for us to stop the bleeding and stop purchasing everything in sight? How do we determine if it’s really a spiritual problem that I have in hanging on to too much? We figure out what is behind these desires. What is driving them? To provide us with some more internal insight, let’s revisit the four questions posed last Sunday, the questions we want to keep coming back to as we seek to rein in our unhealthy escapes. #1 – Can I go without it? #2 – Is this a topic I can discuss with a fellow Christian? #3 – Am I avoiding a long-term solution in favor of short-term satisfaction? #4 – Am I looking to creation for something that can only be provided by the Creator? These questions help us expose if we have an unhealthy relationship with stuff.
We can also take the “if only” test. How would you complete this statement? “If only I had ___________, then I would be happy.” Now, whatever you’d fill that blank in with, I want you to imagine having it. Or, simply look back to the last time you did acquire that “if only” object. From that point on, consciously track how long it took or takes until the next “if only” pops up in your head. Because that’s the thing: another “if only” will always pop up. “If only” is a lie. “If only” is phony. Don’t fall for the phony “if only” when it comes to thinking stuff will ever satisfy!
Now then, once we stop the bleeding, whether that means cutting up our credit cards, disabling Amazon from all of our electronic devices, or simply sorting through things we’ve been hanging on to for too long, then we seek to replace that unhealthy escape with a healthy one. Paul provides us with a healthy escape in verse 12: “Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.” Doesn’t it feel pretty foolish when you find yourself looking for your sunglasses, only to have someone point out they’re on your head, or to frantically looking everywhere for your car keys – the ones in either your hand, your pocket, or your purse? It feels downright foolish to be desperately searching for something that you already have!
So it is with eternal life. Why search, spend, shop for stuff that will never ever add up in worth to what you already have in Jesus: eternal life? Take hold of it. Embrace what is yours. Find real rest in what you already have, not in the pursuit of more stuff. How often over the course of a month, a week, or even a day, do you stop to ponder the reality of the gift of eternal life that right belongs to you in Christ? How often are you washed over with the always-refreshing newness of knowing your salvation is secure? There’s no sale you have to seek out, no great deal to stumble upon, no financing needed – not a penny from you; just the faith to receive what God offers free of charge. Put your wallets away. Keep your purses at home. Your life has already been purchased, your forgiveness paid for, and your eternity earned for you by Jesus – the same Jesus who has washed away your every greedy desire to find in consumerism what can only be found in Christ: true contentment. Take hold of the eternal rest that is yours right this very moment, and begin to experience what it feels like to have contentment wash over you.
Paul restates this healthy escape in another way in verse 17: “Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment.” Put your hope in God. Wealth comes and goes, as does the enjoyment of it, but hope that is placed in God never disappoints.
And we show that our hope is in him as we seek to live out his guidance in verse 11: “pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness” (v.11). Do you notice something about these pursuits? They cannot be bought. They cannot be purchased. But they can be pursued. And doing so is great gain, for the more of these we have, the more contentment becomes a natural byproduct of these qualities. And the more content we become, the less we need to turn to stuff as an escape; for contentment leads us to realize that we already have in Jesus what no possession or purchase can ever provide: real rest.