DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Heal Broken Marriages

God of Marriage,
You instituted the blessed gift of marriage. Through it, you provide husbands and wives with an opportunity to experience from each other small samples of the unconditional grace and unwavering commitment that you show to believers. Sadly, when infidelity or adultery shatters a marriage, it turns one of your greatest gifts into one of the most painful hurts. Where husbands have caused this hurt, lead them to true repentance and work in them both a genuine desire to reconcile, and also a willingness to show it by their fruit. Where husbands have been on the receiving end of this hurt, heal their hearts, provide them with an abundant measure of grace and patience, and lead them on a path that arrives at forgiveness. Wherever possible, provide those involved with the strength and courage to make every effort to repair and restore the broken marriage bond, so that by your grace, it might be stronger than ever, and Satan’s plans fail miserably.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Faith

(Genesis 12:1-8)

What do we really need? In my last post/sermon, the answer was “a gift.” Anything that is going to make right our relationship with God that has been naturally shattered by our sin has to come from him, since we can’t earn it or fix it. It must be given. It must be received. It must be a gift, and it must be by grace. And it is.

But we need more than that. Why? Because, while salvation from God is entirely a gift, entirely by grace, and entirely through Jesus Christ, not everyone will benefit from it. Something else is needed. And, while we have a name for that “something,” you’ll notice we don’t see the word for it at all in our verses from Genesis 12. The word is “faith,” and you can search through Genesis 12:1-8 with a fine-tooth comb, but you won’t find it anywhere. The word “faith” isn’t even in our verses at all. 

But, while the word faith isn’t in our verses from Genesis, faith itself is very visible. We see what faith looks like. We see faith put into practice. We observe faith. So let us see it and celebrate it in Abram, and let us rejoice in it by reflecting it in our lives also, all while thanking God yet again for providing exactly what I need: faith.

What does God’s gift of faith do? Faith listens, it acts, and it is blessed.

Look at this gift in the life of Abram. Genesis 12 starts out with the words, “The Lord had said to Abram” (v.1). Here is the first point – rather obvious, I admit – yet without it, faith cannot exist. It has to hear the Lord speak. Abram didn’t have the Bible we do today. He didn’t have Scriptures to read, study, and digest in order to listen to God. God simply spoke to him directly. We can’t miss this easily overlooked point about faith. It listens. It hears. God speaks, and faith’s ears perk up to hear what God is saying. 

God doesn’t promise to speak to us directly, as he did to Abram. Nor does he need to. In fact, we ought to be relieved that he’s given us something more reliable to listen to than his direct voice: he’s given us his Word. That may sound backwards to some today, as a person might naturally presume that God speaking directly to me is more desirable than “settling” for his Word.

But if we bend our ears to some voice outside of the Word, how do we know it’s God’s? Are we sure it’s his, and how are we sure? Because we like what we hear? Because it validates what I’ve already made up my mind to do? How do we know it’s God’s voice and not our own voice? Or echoes from a movie we saw, a conversation we had, a speaker we listened to, or even the voice of the one who does his best to masquerade as an angel of light, Satan?

If I shared all of the times people told me that God directly spoke to them or told them to do something directly, and then compared all of those results, do you know what we’d have? Lots of confusion and chaos! And, God apparently changing his mind quite a bit and giving some pretty bad advice to some and new and improved guidance to others that the rest of us are not privileged to have!

On top of all of that, I realize how things like social media and all of our methods of communication have played games with my own memory (“Did I actually communicate with a person in real life, was I there, or am just remembering an update they shared online?”). That’s made it difficult at times to nail down reality within my own memory. Am I sure then, that I want to risk the uncertainty of God speaking to me directly and me mixing up the details?

Faith listens to what God says, and what God says is clearly laid out for us in Scripture. Let’s keep our ears tuned to the Bible and not look to or hope for other revelations. He hasn’t promised them.

For many of us, that’s where we’re stuck in our Christian life, right here at this step. This is where the growth needs to happen, by simply listening to God in his Word. I don’t know if anyone has ever written anything as profound as what I’m about to write, but… read your Bible.

Often. Daily. Frequently. More than you are.

That’s what faith does. It listens to God’s voice. Start there. If you haven’t done that yet, or don’t know how to start or how to get back on track reading the Bible, there’s no shame in acknowledging that, but… you should be ashamed of continuing to be OK with that if you do nothing to change it. No excuses. Because faith is inseparable from the Word. 

When faith grows, it moves on to the next step (while always continuing with the first: listening!). Faith listens and then acts. Following the blessing promised by God, take note of the short sentence that follows.“So Abram went, as the Lord had told him” (v.4a). He listened to what the Lord told him and went! See how listening informed the action Abram took? He didn’t just act in some form or fashion that he thought best, but went “as the Lord had told him.” Faith listened and then acted – as directed by God. 

Abram’s faith didn’t just stop there, either. Look at how else it acted each time he arrived at a new rest stop. When he arrived at the great tree of Moreh at Shechem, “he built an altar there to the Lord” (v.7b). Then, he arrived at the next stop, “with Bethel on the west and Ai on the east. There he built an altar to the Lord and called on the name of the Lord” (v.8).

Have you ever stopped to consider the effort that kind of worship required? We pat ourselves on the back for showing up at church on Sunday, but imagine the effort required in the construction project of building an altar every time you wanted to worship! And, at 75, Abram was no spring chicken! Abram’s faith acted, both in obedience to what God had commanded him to do, but also in the natural outflow of worship, reflective of a heart inclined toward God.

How does our faith look in this department? Where does it have opportunity to get put into action? Where does it obey? Where does it worship (not just on Sunday morning, but daily)? Again, for many of us, faith in action looks like the first step we already talked about – getting to know your Bible. That is a faith that is listening and acting. So start there. 

Others of you, though, are or ought to be more mature in your faith. God didn’t call you to faith to stay at the level of faith at which he called you, but to grow and mature. Faith doesn’t mature when faith doesn’t act. So ask yourself this tough question: where am I disobeying or disregarding God’s call to action for my faith that is keeping me from maturing? Wrestle with that question.

Then, as you uncover the answer – or rather, answers, plural – repent of them. When you’ve done that, turn to the gracious God whose love and forgiveness for you will never run out, and ask him to lead you on that path of a mature faith that acts.

Do you know where the confidence to carry out that practice comes from? It comes from the third thing that faith “does.” It’s blessed. When faith listens and acts, blessings follow, and low and behold, guess what happens when blessings follow? They prompt us to listen and act even more! It’s like some beautiful divine cycle that God had in mind. Listen, act, blessing, listen, act, blessing, etc. Do you think it’d be a good cycle to get your life on board with? I do! So does God. 

Hear again how God blessed Abram’s faith. “I will make you into a great nation, and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you” (v.2-3). Do you remember all of the achievements Abram had accomplished at this point to deserve such a gracious promise from God? Did you look at the preceding verses and chapters to see the record of Abram’s righteousness?

Oh, that’s right – there isn’t anything!

That’s because God was the initiator of this blessing. It wasn’t set into motion by Abram’s own obedience or righteousness. Rather, God promised it and prompted Abram’s own obedience and righteousness. 

That’s how it is with us, too, isn’t it? God doesn’t just promise to bless us when faith listens and acts, but he blesses us so that faith listens and acts in response. Yes, we’re sandwiched in blessings! God blesses us on the front end and the back end because that’s who he is. 

In fact, did you even know that this promise God gave Abram was about you? How did God bless all people on earth through Abram? Jesus, that’s how. Jesus would come from the great nation God promised Abram, and as his one divine descendant, all people would be blessed through the Savior, Jesus Christ. That’s you. Blessed by the gracious gift of salvation we talked about last Sunday – the gift that is exactly what you need. Blessed also by the faith to believe and receive that gift. Blessed to be called into the same family of faith as Abram and all believers ever since. Blessed to be washed in forgiveness through your baptism and fed and filled up with forgiveness in the Lord’s Supper. Blessed to have the blessing of the Bible dwell richly in our homes and lives. 

You have exactly what you need; you have faith. It receives the eternal benefits of everything Jesus did for you. But don’t shortchange it, as if that’s all faith was intended to do, to serve as the conduit by which we receive eternal life. No, it’s capable of much more, which is why God gifted it to you. God showed that to Abram, who listened, acted, and was blessed.

Will you let God show you what faith is capable of receiving from him? 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For the Blessings Received by Faith

Spirit of Life,
Thank you for the gift of faith, by which we have the sure confidence of our salvation, completed in full for us by Jesus. Faith that is healthy and growing is faith that is blessed. When we listen to your Word and put it into practice, we see and experience the blessings you promise. While this should not surprise us, we often react as if these blessings came out of nowhere and could never have been anticipated – even though you so plainly promise them! How much room our faith still has to grow! Increase our faith so that we boldly expect you to deliver on your promises when we listen and act accordingly. And, fill us with humble gratitude for how richly you still bless us even when we don’t.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For a Faith That Acts

Spirit of Life,
Thank you for the gift of faith, by which we have the sure confidence of our salvation, completed in full for us by Jesus. Faith that is healthy and growing is faith that acts. When faith listens, its natural response is to act. However, since the Old Adam in me is bent on self-service, it opposes any activity of faith that is directed toward others. Therefore, take me back to my baptism, where that part of me needs to be drowned again and again, and raise me up in newness of life, eager to put my faith into practice. Whenever I hear your Word, allow my heart and mind to collaborate with my ears so that I am contemplating how I might put your Word into practice. Compel me to be not just a hearer of your Word, but also a doer of it. Moved by the power of your grace and grounded in the certainty of your gift of eternal life, grant me a hard-working faith.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For a Faith That Listens

Spirit of Life,
Thank you for the gift of faith, by which we have the sure confidence of our salvation, completed in full for us by Jesus. Faith that is healthy and growing is faith that listens to you. And, since you speak to us through your Word, drive us to it daily. Protect our ears and our hearts from any voices that aren’t yours, since rather than strengthening our faith, they only starve it. Help us become better at recognizing false teachers by growing more familiar with your true and trustworthy teaching. Shut out all the endless noise in our lives so that we can hear your voice clearly and feed our faith.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Faithful Gospel Preaching

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. Wherever your Word is proclaimed in worship today, let it be done so accurately and with clarity, and include a balance of law and gospel. Comfort afflicted souls while also afflicting souls too comfortable with sin. Where stories and illustrations are provided, work through them to offer not mere entertainment value, but to enlighten and reinforce your promises and truths. Allow the gracious news of forgiveness and salvation through Jesus to predominate in the messages. Through such faithful preaching, Lord, feed the sheep of your flock well.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Bless Married Men

Lord of Love,
Married men face unique challenges. In marriage, they have committed to living sacrificially for their wives, multiplying their obligations. Marriage also means setting aside or compromising many of their own personal preferences and interests. When you bless them to be fathers, their responsibilities increase even more. Keep them from becoming overwhelmed in their vocations as husbands and fathers, while also guarding them from securing their identities through these roles. When they envy single men, hold out before them the rich blessings you extend to them through their families. Keep them faithful to their wives and families. Let every husband’s passion and desire be directed to his wife alone, and bless that devotion with sexual satisfaction and fulfillment in her alone. Equip husbands by your Spirit to be the spiritual leaders in their homes. Raise up their wives to fill them with love and support, so that they are able to carry out their God-given roles, bringing glory to you as they serve their families. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Bless Single Men

Lord God,
Single men face unique challenges. When they feel the social pressure to be dating or in pursuit of a girlfriend, relieve that pressure by granting them a spirit of contentment with their current station in life. Assure them that they are not somehow incomplete or inferior in comparison to others who are married or dating. If they struggle with insecurities, direct their attention away from themselves to you, where they truly find all that they need. Diminish the urges of temptation in their lives by creating in them the godly desire to pursue your righteousness and deepen their faith. Fulfill them in their vocations and satisfy them with work faithfully and well done. Let them know their contributions at work, in your church, and in their communities are appreciated. Bless them with hobbies and interests that provide rejuvenation and relaxation. Remind them that because of Christ, their lives have meaning and that they matter greatly to you.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

A Gift

(Romans 5:12-19)

What do we really need? We aren’t actually so great at distinguishing what we truly need from what we want. When we speak of upgrading something that is operating just fine, or replacing an older item with something just because it’s newer, we’re really in the realm of wants more than needs. And, while we joke about previous generations hanging on to things well past their shelf life – “nothing a little duct tape or glue or thread can’t fix,” that generation may have perhaps had a better handle on the distinction between wants and needs.

That distinction is important because, if everything is a need, then it waters down what we really need. And more than any other, this season of the church year, which we refer to as Lent, reveals exactly what we all truly need.  

Good news! I think you’ll like what Paul says we need in Romans 5. He says we need a gift. Well, who could complain about that? Who doesn’t want a gift?

But… Paul isn’t just speaking of a gift that we want, which we may or may not get, but a gift that we need, and a gift without which we cannot succeed. Or live. Or love life to the fullest. FOMO is real with this gift, because without it, we are truly missing out. We can enjoy only the best that this world and its temporary, short-lived goods can offer. And frankly, that all leaves quite a bit to be desired. But with this gift, not only can we enjoy all of those things to the fullest for what they are, but we can rejoice and celebrate that we genuinely have something worth far more.

Before we jump right into exploring the size and shape of this gift, before we inspect the wrapping and shake it around to try to figure it out, notice how Paul explains why we need this gift. He paints a disturbing picture of the state of the world as a result of one catastrophic event: the Fall. “Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned—“ (v.12). Not only does this explain how sin entered the world, but it also sheds light on why even the best of this world will still leave us unsatisfied – because since the Fall, everything in the world has had the fingerprints of sin and death all over it. 

Looking more at Paul’s writing in these verses, it may appear as if Paul was describing a time when people who sinned weren’t really doing anything wrong. But when Paul wrote that “sin is not charged against anyone’s account where there is no law” (v.13) and “those who did not sin by breaking a command” (v.14), he wasn’t implying they weren’t guilty of anything (remember, he had already clarified that “all sinned” in verse 12!).

Rather, his point was that, even though God didn’t give the law until later at Mt. Sinai, the law wasn’t needed to prove that people sinned – death had already proven that! It was obvious that all had sinned because everyone ever born had died! The law was simply a sort of diagnostic test to help identify sin so that people could see it and know why death reigned.

The law was like a sign posted near Sunset Cliffs that warns a hiker walking close to the edge that they could fall and be injured or die. But, whether that sign is there or not, the same result would occur if someone walked off the cliff. Whether they see a sign or not, they would likely die. The sign just warns them of the danger. The law God gave just exposed sin and warned his people of the danger of it, but make no mistake: they were guilty of sin regardless of the law, and death was the proof.

Paul referenced the one selfish act that ushered that reality into the world. That act is recorded in Genesis 3. “When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. [The Lord God] said, ‘Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The womanyou put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate” (Gen. 3:6, 11-13). Adam & Eve bought the lie that they were missing out, that God was withholding something from them, that he was keeping hidden that there was more for them to experience. So they disregarded God’s one command – just the one, the only one, remember – and sought to serve themselves. 

The result of that selfish act of rebellion has been that the children have acted like the parents ever since. In other words, we naturally see the same selfishness in ourselves.

Doesn’t that explain why we have such a hard time distinguishing wants from needs? When I am so naturally self-absorbed, I filter everything that happens in life through the lens of how it affects me. Even when I do manage to put others first, eventually I want to be recognized for it!

“I put up with a lot today at work, so I deserve that impulse buy.” “I am constantly putting the kids first, so I owe myself a bottle of wine or a few drinks.” If no one else is going to acknowledge or reward our selflessness, we’ll make sure to take care of rewarding ourselves. How selfish is that?!? No wonder I confuse wants and needs – I am constantly fighting against that innate part of me that imagines the world revolving around me!

But, try as we might, it’s not just a switch we can turn off. It’s not fixed by all the effort we can muster in the world, because we can’t get rid of the selfish traits passed down to us from our first parents. Selfishness cannot be addressed with an antibiotic like some bacteria. It isn’t some virus that can be avoided with a vaccine. It is who we are, and we are helpless to fix it, no matter how hard we try. No, going to church doesn’t make us better people – there are a lot of jerks that go to church! Going to a Christian school doesn’t provide students with a moral compass that magically enables them to make all the right selfless decisions for the rest of their lives. We can’t fix our selfishness. It condemns us.

So why do we go to church or a Christian school then? Because it is where we receive the gift, a gift received only by grace – a Bible word that means “undeserved love.”

Not earned. Not deserved. Not merited. And with that assurance, it’s a gift that is extended to all people. Everyone. If not earned or deserved, then we’re all on equal footing. Our upbringing doesn’t come into play. Our intelligence doesn’t factor in. Our paycheck holds no value. We’re all in the same boat, helpless to earn or deserve it, which makes us perfectly ready to receive what can only be received as a gift.

Let that sink in. Read and reread verses 15-19 again and again, but do so taking note of some common themes. First, note the connection between the words “gift,” “grace,” and “Jesus Christ.” They are inseparable. They go together. They belong together. There is no gift without grace, and there is no grace apart from Jesus Christ. 

Second, note that there is not a single mention of anything for you to do. Only to receive. Not do. Oh, there was plenty of focus in the early verses on how what we do results in death, but no mention at all in these verses of your doing, your obligation, your requirement, your expectation, your have-to’s, musts, or shoulds. Once Paul shifts his focus to the themes of gift/grace/Jesus Christ, those phrases completely disappear.

Do you see it? This is exactly what you and I need! Not a checklist or a personal improvement plan or a scolding to do better. We need a gift. It’s our only hope!

And Paul says that gift is ours through the grace of Jesus. Grace that we see in Jesus’ perfect life, devoid of even an ounce of selfishness. Grace that Jesus displayed, not only by being able to obey, but even in delighting in perfect obedience. Grace that drove Jesus to the ultimate act of obedience in humbling himself to death – even death on a cross – so that we might have the gift of life!

Only this gift overrules the condemnation passed down to us through Adam, which we daily demonstrate we deserve. It overrules it with the declaration of justification, a Bible word that means God says we’re not guilty. We’re not condemned. By faith, that is the gift of grace we receive through the life and death of Jesus Christ. 

And even though Paul spends a few verses comparing what we received from Adam with what we receive through Christ, his whole point is that really, there’s no comparison at all! The one is completely unlike the other, superior in every single way. Consider the ways this gift differs from what we originally received from Adam: they differ as to their source, their verdict, and their results.

As to their source? One came by an act of disobedience; the other came entirely by grace. “But the gift is not like the trespass. For if the many died by the trespass of the one man, how much more did God’s grace and the gift that came by the grace of the one man, Jesus Christ, overflow to the many!” (v.15). Adam’s efforts gave us disobedience, whereas Christ’s lavish us with grace.

As to their verdict? One brought condemnation, while the other brought justification. Adam’s sin says “GUILTY!” to every one of us. Jesus’ gift, however, declares “NOT GUILTY!” to all!“Nor can the gift of God be compared with the result of one man’s sin: The judgment followed one sin and brought condemnation, but the gift followed many trespasses and brought justification” (v.16). To remain in Adam, outside of faith, is to retain that verdict of condemnation, but to belong to Christ by faith is to be assured of a guilt-free record that declares us not condemned. 

And because of that, there is no comparison between their results. One ensured that death would reign, while the other graciously overthrew that reign and replaced it with life. “For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God’s abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ!” (v.17). Though we will all die, Jesus has the last word and reminds us that death doesn’t rule. Life does. Life to the full for as long as he grants us on earth, but eternal life forever beyond that. Only in Jesus has that sting of death been removed, because it is helpless ever again to overthrow Christ’s guarantee of life. 

What do we really need? Nothing. Not a thing. By faith, you already have all that you need in the gift of God’s grace to you in Jesus Christ. Put all your wants to rest and find instead the satisfaction and serenity of living daily in the peace of knowing you have exactly what you need. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Be Eager To Be Me

Gracious Lord,
Comparison has been called the thief of joy – and with good reason! When I cannot avoid focusing on the status or gifts and abilities of others, and I end up feeling inferior, I lack appreciation and gratitude for my own lot in life. As a result, my ambition and drive dwindle, and I struggle to accomplish anything while falling into a funk. 

Instead of comparing myself to others, lead me to rejoice in the unique and varied ways you have made all people. Move me to celebrate the gifts and abilities of others and be thankful for them. Give me the ongoing desire to develop my own gifts, and to operate on the basis of my personal strengths, finding satisfaction and fulfillment in who you have made me to be. Keep me from holding back, and let me give myself fully to you and to others.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.