DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Financial Prudence

Gracious God,
Money is a gift from you. Thank you for the ways you place it into my hands: through wages earned from employment, via returns from business opportunities and investments, and as gifts received from others. By itself money is neither good nor bad; honoring you in how I manage it is what determines whether it will be a blessing or a hindrance. Guide me in my handling of money. Guard my heart against our culture’s consumerism, keep me from piling up debt, and fill me with contentment. Help me use finances to provide for my own needs and for the needs of my family when possible. Move me to save wisely and to support others in need as I have opportunity. Let your grace work in my heart to also be generous in my offerings as I cheerfully support your gospel ministry. Grant me a spirit that is also willing to use money for joy and pleasure, always sensibly and as appropriate. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Hold Firmly

(Titus 1:5-9)

Last week, at the start of this Meaningful Ministry (aka, gospel-geared, Savior-like service) series, we began with the reminder that our efforts will not always be appreciated by everyone. In fact, we can expect our efforts to be opposed, sometimes with even great effort. Nevertheless, we carry on with ministry because it’s what God calls us to do. 

Now we find the confidence we need in remembering whose authority backs our ministry, and where we find that authority. As one pastor writing to another, Paul reminded Titus that “He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it” (v.9). Therefore, as we continue to consider what meaningful ministry looks like, we must cling to the truth that meaningful ministry is that which holds firmly to the trustworthy message. Meaningful ministry holds firmly to the Word.

If I may say so, although the title of this post is “Hold Firmly,” some of you are, quite frankly, holding rather loosely to the Word of God. That might hurt a little bit to hear, but if so, thank God that his Word – specifically the law – is doing what it is supposed to do. We might be inclined to push back against such a statement (because after all, what about all the others who are not reading this or who don’t regularly attend church?!?), and to do so wouldn’t necessarily be wrong. But those Christians not reading or listening to sermons aren’t alone in their loose grasp on the Word of God – there are plenty more right there with them who have a rather soft grip on the Word. 

That can happen if Sunday morning worship or reading the occasional sermon online is about as engaged as one ever gets in ministry. If there is one thing that believer and unbeliever alike know about Christianity and Sunday mornings, it’s that Sunday mornings are for worship. While the unbeliever obviously doesn’t see any need to be there, the danger for the believer is to see worship as the bare minimum in his affiliation with the church. Yes, one of the greatest blessings God has given to his church as it carries out meaningful ministry is the blessing of worship; but even that blessing can become a bottleneck to anyone who severely shortchanges ministry by defining it as nothing more than going to church. Such a view is a soft grip on the Word. 

Imagine an actor just showing up for the performance. No study of the storyline or character. No rehearsing lines or any thought on how they might be delivered. Or an athlete just showing up for the games. No practice. No drills. No preparation or game-tape on the other team. Very few could pull either off, and to do so with such little effort beforehand not only reflects poorly on the craft, but also fails to set a high standard or raise the bar in that field.

Why would Christians settle for mediocrity in our ministry, settling for less than our best in carrying out Christ’s calling? Why would some idea of minimal means of grace involvement ever be satisfactory? No, we want to practice like we play. Prepare. Be in the Word. Deeply.

There is great reason to hold firmly to this Word of God. We do so because through it God sends us and serves us. Meaningful ministry is our lot, not because we wisely figured out on our own that Jesus might be good for people to know about, but because Jesus sends us, just as he sent his disciples. They went out with his backing, with his authority. And they went out not because they were qualified in and of themselves, but because they were called. He was the one sending them.

He is the one sending you. Not because you are qualified in and of yourself, but because you were called. You carry out ministry with his backing, with his authority. That started when he made you what you are today, when he gave you your most precious status and title: his. You belong to him. You are his. He made you his when he paid with his life and then gifted you with the faith to believe it. 

I most commonly close my emails with that very signature, “His.” It reminds me of the title that carries more weight than any other ever could. My worth and my value and my significance and my purpose are all wrapped up in the One to whom I belong. In a very real way, one of the simplest little hymns many of us ever learned to sing as children still holds dear in our hearts: “I am Jesus’ little lamb, ever glad at heart I am.” I have different titles. I have various responsibilities and roles. Like an umbrella over them all at all times is the precious truth that I am his – and I always will be. 

And he, dear friends, is the One who sends us. When we forget that bond, that relationship, and all that God did to establish it, ministry is less meaningful. That is when it becomes a job, nothing more than a series of tasks, as if the boss just gave you a list of things he needs you to get done. To lose that bond, that connection with our Savior, and allow it to fray, easily turns ministry into misery. I think you’d agree that Miserable Ministry would be a significantly different sermon series. So remember why we hold firmly to this Word: it is a constant reminder of the One who sends us.

It is also the way he has chosen to serve us. This might be the most significant hurdle that keeps many Christians away from more meaningful service: a willingness to continue to be served by God through holding firmly to the Word. Remember, ministry is gospel-geared, Savior-like service. Another reminder: you are incapable of carrying that out on your own. It must be worked into you through the Word. So there is no, “Jesus did this for me, and now I’d like to graduate beyond that and get busy with all of the work of his kingdom.” No, there is only, “Jesus did this for me, and now he will do this through me.”

So we do not busy ourselves with church work while avoiding church Word & worship. They are inseparable. Service is prompted by being served, and if I don’t have the humility to continue being served a steady diet of Word and Sacrament, then my service will be short-lived and running on fumes in no time. It will become about me. It will become a burden. It will burn me out. It will turn me against other Christians as I begin to resent them for not doing what I’m doing. When I am at that point, I fail to notice how much I have come to resemble Martha, begrudging the others who are too preoccupied with the Word in worship and Bible study to actually do the work to which we’ve been sent.

At that moment we are reminded of why it’s so essential to hold firmly to the Word: my jaded heart daily needs its forgiveness and renewal. In the Word alone do I find what my heart longs for: grace for my misguided ministry that somehow turned what is God’s around and made it all about me. That joy of salvation renews me, taking my me-minded ministry and making it captive to Christ. His sacrifice and salvation for me prompts my sacrificial service to others for the sake of that same salvation. It makes ministry meaningful again.

When I hold firmly to the Word of God at work in all of this, I see that same Word of God at work in me. 

In these verses, Paul laid out quite the list of qualifications for ministry to Titus. While this standard of expectations certainly applies to all Christians, there is an especially important reason Paul emphasizes it for a pastor: because the pastor is understandably associated most directly with God and his authority. As one called by Christians to serve them with the gospel in Word and Sacrament, he is God’s representative. But just as surely as all of these qualifications apply to all Christians, so does the call to hold firmly to the Word of God apply to all Christians. 

In fact, without this final point in this section of Paul’s words to Titus, what precedes is purposeless. Why? Because apart from the Word at work in us, there’s no innate desire to embody the qualifications Paul lists, nor is there any ability to carry them out.

Take note of how Paul refers to the usage of teaching and doctrine, which as often as not seems to get a pretty bad rap – even within the church these days. Many view doctrine as divisive (despite the reality that it is actually what unites). Many view doctrine as a hindrance to Christian living (despite the reality that Christian living flows from it).

But see how Paul touches on it! He uses the word “encourage.” To remain faithful to the Bible’s teachings, to hold the view that doctrine is so very important and matters greatly – this is encouraging. What is discouraging is to see it downplayed, to hear the point of view that only the Jesus and salvation stuff really matters, and we can politely agree to disagree on all the other stuff. The problem with that view is that all of the “other stuff” flows from the Jesus and salvation stuff; it isn’t some add-on or take-it-or-leave-it a la carte menu. It all ties to Jesus, and for that reason, it is encouraging, as Paul maintained. 

So hold firmly to that Word of God – all of it. Our Meaningful Ministry will be blessed as we do so. For it is through the Word of God that he sends us and serves us. And as he does, he will serve us and equip us with everything that we need to carry out faithful, meaningful ministry.

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For the Gift of Time

Heavenly Father,
Our times are in your hands. Teach us to number our days so that we manage our time here on earth well. While some days seem rushed and others seem to drag on, you give each of us the same 24 hours every day. I ask you to help me make the most of the time you give me. I don’t want to take it for granted or presume there will always be time later on for what is important. Give me the self-control and discipline to maintain a healthy balance between time for recreation and enjoyment and time for focused work and dedicated service to others. Whether a spirit of sloth sets in or my relationship with work becomes consuming, use trusted friends or family to help me realize it and review how I am managing your gift of time. Above all else, move me to always prioritize my time with you, both personally in my daily devotional time, and together with brothers and sisters in the faith in worship and Bible study. May I always honor you in the way I maximize your gift of time. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Your Gifts of Marriage and Sex

Dear Savior,
The world has taken your gifts of marriage and sex, separated the two from each other, and the results have been disastrous. Marriage has been stripped of so many of its blessings as it is viewed as an out-dated, optional arrangement. Sex is treated as simply another self-serving pleasure to be pursued at will. Without the commitment, the faithfulness, and the spouse-first humble service of marriage, families and individuals have been deeply hurt, broken, and trampled on by the misuse and abuse of relationships and sex.

I pray that you help me to address the issue and lead by example. Help me to speak highly and respectfully of your gifts of marriage and sex, and of women in general. Guard my own heart from sexual temptations. I want to celebrate wedding anniversaries as precious milestones that serve as testaments to the blessings attached to your institution of marriage. Surround me with solid marriages, dedicated spouses, and flourishing families, all for the betterment of our society and for your glory.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Focused Worship

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. Give me attentive ears and undistracted eyes to hear and see the mystery of the gospel in worship today. Allow your gospel to captivate me as it is sung and spoken, that it might create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit in me. Sharpen my focus for the duration of worship, that I may continually see the cross on display from beginning to end. Edify all of us in attendance, and equip us to joyfully live out our callings through your gospel. Bless all who gather in your house today for worship.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Fruit of the Spirit: Gentleness

Holy Spirit,
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Gentleness is not typically a characteristic which our society associates with men, which makes it all the more noticeable when it is evident. Since gentleness is evidence of your work, Holy Spirit, and a fruit you desire to see in Christians, please grant me more of it. In past situations when aggression or forcefulness took over within me, have mercy on me. When I have been harsh with others, forgive me. Help me see that gentleness is not associated with weakness, but is instead a godly characteristic by which you set your people apart. Let your gentleness be evident in me whenever I interact with others. May others view me as approachable and caring because of it. Use my gentleness as yet another gateway to open up more opportunities to humbly serve my neighbor. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To See the Blessings of Discipline

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but later on it produces a harvest of righteousness. You allow hardships and trials in my life to test and try my faith. In the thick of those seasons, faith’s vision easily becomes blurred and it can appear as if you have it out for us. Correct my vision and give me clarity to see the good you desire to work in my life through such turbulence.

Other times, when the spoiled fruit of my own sin yields unpleasant or challenging consequences, it’s easy to play the victim or to complain. Instead, lead me to own up to my wrongs and thank you for the pleasing fruit you can yield through me in repentance. Just as an earthly father corrects and disciplines his children because he loves them, so you do the same for us. With that in mind, prune and shape me even more, and give me the faith to see it and embrace it for the blessing it is.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Wisdom in Decision Making

Loving Lord,
Every day I have decisions to make, from simple choices that don’t really impact much else, to much weightier decisions that could affect not only me, but possibly many others. In every decision before me, I ask you to fill me with wisdom. Give me an undivided heart that seeks to bring every decision captive to your will. Help me to take into account the counsel of others while considering information and details that are reliable and true. Lead me to give thought to how others will be affected and which course of action will positively impact the most people. Keep my decisions from putting others at risk or in harm’s way. May all of my decisions glorify you. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Find My Strength in God

Mighty God,
You are my strength and my shield and you uphold me by your strong right arm. I forget this at times when I face adversity or difficult seasons of life and try to persevere and overcome them by my own strength. That’s when I fall. That’s when I fail.

But without fail, you are always here to pick me up, to brush off and wash away any lingering pride, and renew me in your strength. I am strong when my strength is in you. When I am able to offer a shoulder for others to lean on, when I can provide physical strength that others need, and when I can be the emotional rock others need me to be, lead me in those situations to direct others to you, the source of that strength, my rock and my salvation.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Surviving Snubbed Service

(Ezekiel 2:1-7)

Would say that you love your job? Do you have the kind of job that makes you dread weekends because you have to wait until Monday to get back to work? Does your job make you pop out of bed in the morning with energy and excitement because you get to go to work? I’m guessing that even if you really enjoy your work, you’d still agree that the scenarios I just described are pretty exaggerated. Some are blessed to really enjoy their work and thrive in it, while others dutifully carry on out of necessity, because it pays the bills.

Regardless of how you feel about your job, as people belonging to God, you have another calling, and I am not exaggerating when I say that it is absolutely the most important thing that anyone could be a part of during their lifetime here on earth. For that reason, it is also more meaningful than anything else we could do on earth. Why? Because heaven and hell hang in the balance, and would you believe it – God uses us to factor into that outcome. How?

It’s called ministry. If we hear that word and all that comes to mind are things like pastors, teachers, church work, and schools, we have far too narrow a view of ministry. Ministry is not limited by a location or a timeframe – it’s possible anywhere and everywhere and at any time. The simplest definition of ministry is “service.” But it’s more than that. After all, the person waiting on your table at the restaurant is involved in service. The librarian assisting you with checking out a book is providing you a service. 

Ministry, however, has a special purpose: it’s gospel-geared, Savior-like service. The ministry to which we are called – all of us as Christians – is in service to the good news of Jesus as Savior of the world. Sometimes our service may include directly communicating that beautiful gospel; many times it is simply service prompted by that gospel or building a bridge to that gospel down the road. Since it is gospel-geared, Savior-like service, that is what makes it meaningful ministry. 

So our focus in this first post of the series may be a bit unsettling. It’s not the kind of inspirational pep-talk that you might expect to get everyone geared up to go out and thrive in their ministry. But it is a hugely important truth that needs to be included anytime we talk about ministry. It’s essentially the sad reality that as meaningful as ministry is to God – it’s his favorite thing, by the way – there will be many for whom ministry is not meaningful at all. In fact, there are and there will be many who not only want nothing to do with it, but who also despise you for carrying it out. 

If anyone could relate, it was the prophet Ezekiel. After having just witnessed quite the strange vision, he had now dropped faced down to the ground and was being given his marching orders. He was being send as God’s spokesman. Awesome! What a privilege! What an honor! To get to be the one to personally relay God’s message? Amazing!

There was just one catch: he wasn’t being sent to people who would be tickled pink to hear it. Oh, they should have been, for sure. God’s chosen people ought to have delighted each and every time God valued them enough to personally send a spokesperson to them. What other nation could make such a claim, that God cared enough about them to repeatedly, determinedly, persistently, send prophet after prophet to them? They should have been honored to have been thought so highly of by God to take such measures. 

But that wasn’t how God described them to Ezekiel. Not even close. In fact, by my count, some form of the word “rebellious” was used five times in just this short section! Sprinkle in an “obstinate” and “stubborn,” here, and “revolt” there, along with the flattering description of “briars and thorns” and “scorpions,” and it sounds more like Ezekiel is being sent to war against the enemy rather than to proclaim God’s Word to God’s own people!

Even that would have had some appeal if God had revealed that this would be the ultimate turnaround story and that the Israelites would return back to God as a result of Ezekiel’s ministry. But God gave him no such promise. In fact, he prepared him for the more likely outcome that that they would fail to listen, based on their rebellious tendencies. 

Wouldn’t our ministry together be easier if we had the kind of promise from God that assured us that whenever we have the chance to be his spokesperson to someone else, it will always be received with a warm welcome? It will always result in repentance? It will always lead others to turn to Jesus in faith? God didn’t give Ezekiel that kind of assurance, so we probably shouldn’t expect it either.

That, however, does not nullify our need to carry it out, just as it didn’t for Ezekiel. God warned him, “You must speak my words to them, whether they listen or fail to listen, for they are rebellious” (v.7). Ezekiel was sent to carry out his ministry regardless of the outcome – “whether they listen or fail to listen.” So are we. That is both frustrating and freeing.

It’s frustrating because we always want the Word to work the best possible outcome, resulting in eternal life for everyone who hears it. But it doesn’t, and that means at times our ministry is going to feel like a waste of time. Sometimes we’ll get snubbed. Sometimes painfully so. And this may happen rather quickly, right out of the gates at times, or it could be a much longer, drawn out process. 

It may come from something as simple as an offer to pray for someone in a difficult situation, only to have that offer immediately rejected because the person doesn’t want any prayers to some “imaginary” God. It may come from a tersely rejected offer to share with someone else what your faith has meant to you. If you’ve shared your faith enough times, you have stories of rejection. A door slammed in your face. A conversation cut short the minute it became about Jesus. A relationship that suddenly more or less dissolved the moment your religion became a part of it. The butt of jokes from others – possibly even family members. No, we know full well that our service, our ministry, will be flat out rejected at times rather quickly.

Other times that rejection, that snubbed service, may be longer and more drawn out. This could be a relationship that you’ve patiently tried to reconcile over time, only to have those efforts rebuffed by the other person. It might be a family member you’ve prayed for over the years and have been very persistent with in your conversations about Jesus who hasn’t seemed to have budged at all. It’s the unchurched person you have gone out of your way to know and serve as every opportunity has come up who has never once expressed appreciation or thanks. It’s the straying member you have reached out to for months to let them know you care and to check in on them, only to have them fall away and reject their faith altogether. All of these things can happen in ministry, and it’s frustrating when they do.

But it’s also freeing that God involves us in meaningful ministry because he didn’t task Ezekiel and he doesn’t task us with being responsible for the outcome. While it can be extremely difficult to do, we have to keep our faithful ministry efforts separate from their results. The results aren’t your responsibility. They aren’t my responsibility. The results are the responsibility of God alone – and for good reason! That helps us from getting puffed up with pride when God uses us to bring about amazing results in his kingdom, and it keeps us from despairing and feeling worthless when our efforts seem to amount to nothing.

In either case, regardless of the outcome – even if it’s rejection – the reason our ministry will always be the most important thing? Because there is no plan B. There is no alternative method or approach that serves as a backup plan by which people might be saved. It’s only through the gospel. Apart from the gospel, no one can ever know their guilt and shame has been released by the Savior who was pierced and crucified for them. No one can ever know the blessings of sins forgiven unless they hear about and believe in the only One who can forgive sins: Jesus. No one can ever have peace in the face of death unless they hear and believe in the One who died for them. No one can ever have the hope of eternal life unless they hear and believe the gospel. 

That’s why your ministry matters. God can use the gifts he’s given you in ways to serve the gospel, even when you yourself haven’t directly communicated the gospel. Your hospitality to your neighbor or your kindness to a coworker might make such an impression that they want to know more about what drives that. Your offerings support mission work in new churches and in foreign lands so that others can proclaim the gospel (and those same offerings just sent ten of our teenagers to the WELS Youth Rally where they were enriched with the gospel). Your labor or service around the church property reflect positively when guests are present. Your efforts at connecting with new families a school ministry let them know they are welcome and that yours is a place for them to hear more good news. Your invitations to others to come to your church will also bear fruit. There are no little, trivial, unimportant efforts regarding ministry, as God is able to use all of our collective efforts to advance his gospel and build up his kingdom. 

Yes, at times our service will be snubbed. But we’ll survive. We’ll survive because other times our service won’t be snubbed; instead, it will bear spectacular fruit. Other times God will use you in ways you could never have predicted to radically change someone else’s life with the gospel, and to forever change their eternal life as well. What could be more meaningful than that?