DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Love Others – Even My Enemies

Lord Jesus,
My ego makes loving others a big enough challenge on its own, so when you up the ante and direct me to love even my enemies, I cringe. Honestly, I don’t want to hear it. The last thing I think my enemy deserves is anything good from me. Instead of love, I would prefer to see a heaping dose of misfortune and misery directed at him. When I find myself wishing ill will on others, then I think pretty highly of myself for not actually following through or saying the types of things that come to mind. But your charge to love my enemies means that even when I just do nothing against my enemy, I still fall terribly short! 

Love as you define it includes action. Love as you demonstrated it included action – sacrificial action that saw you hung up and crucified for me. And it might just make sense if I had done anything noteworthy for you or someone else that merited such sacrifice; but I did the exact opposite. My sin reveals my status as sworn enemy by nature, and daily I demonstrate that that enemy is still a part of me. So what did you do for the likes of me? You suffered for me. You died for me. You rose for me. You live for me. You love me.

Now spur on my love for others, even my enemies. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Doormat Christianity

(Luke 6:27-38)

What’s easier for you: avoiding the bad things you’re not supposed to do, or doing the good thing that you’re supposed to do? We refer to the first category as sins of commission – committing something bad that we were directed not to do. We refer to the second category as sins of omission – omitting or not doing something good that we were directed to do.

It’s good to review those terms, because Jesus’ words to us from Luke 6 deal much more with the one type of sin than the other. He doesn’t convict his listeners with a list of things they shouldn’t be doing, like losing our cool, hating, getting drunk, lying, sleeping around, etc. Instead, he hits on the good things God’s people should be doing – even when circumstances make it very difficult to do them. 

But maybe we don’t feel like we miss the mark all that much on what Jesus says in his sermon here. That might be because we tend to generalize what he’s saying and kinda sorta oversimplify it to mean that we shouldn’t get even or get too worked up when others abuse or mistreat us. So long as we don’t retaliate, so long as we don’t plot the demise of our enemy, then we’re more or less keeping the gist of what Jesus says here.

Only Jesus doesn’t just say, “make sure you don’t get even”; he says quite clearly, “love and bless the people who give you all the reason in the world to not want to love and bless them.”

You know who Jesus is talking about, don’t you? When a celebrity threatens to move out of the United States because of how embarrassed or ashamed they are of it, do you pray for God to bless that person? When images or videos of people in other countries burning the American flag circulate online, do you ask how we as a nation or you as an individual can do good to those people? When you’re engaged in a conversation with someone who expresses the opinion that your ugly Christian faith or political views are responsible for destroying this country, do you lovingly pray for that person afterward? Is the hard-working day laborer who is here illegally your sworn enemy who is plundering your hard-earned tax dollars, or someone to whom you look to offer your coat and shirt and whatever other needs they might have? Do you love the friend or family member who was guilty of abusing you or another family member?

What Jesus is saying here doesn’t sit well with us. We don’t want to hear it. It’s not how things should work. It’s not how the world works. The weak lose. The strong who flex their might win and get things done. Those who make sure the opposition doesn’t get away with it are the ones who come out ahead. 

And that might work for this world. But Jesus has his sights set on a different kingdom – the one not of this world. Jesus is more concerned about heaven and hell than all the other ambitions or drama the world gets caught up in.

That being the case, he is not concerned that his followers look and behave like the rest of the world. In fact, he wants us to stand out. Why? So that he stands out. So that our radical actions and behavior are so uncommon and unordinary to the eyes of the world that others take note, and when they do, then they seek out why, ultimately to arrive at the source, Jesus.

Are you skeptical that Jesus’ approach here toward our enemies is the right one? Are you convinced that the best way for the church to get things done is through the mighty arm of the government or some other worldly method that has shown itself to be effective? Then you’ve forgotten how effective Jesus’ approach is. You’ve lost track of how well it works.

But you cannot doubt that Jesus’ approach works, because you are the proof!

Jesus took the lead in loving his enemies and winning them over! After all, what did you think you were before he brought you to faith?!? Everything that Jesus describes here about enemies is describing exactly what we naturally were to him. Our hearts by nature could only hate him, curse him, slap him on the cheek, and take from him whatever we could. That was us! That was what we were to him! 

But Jesus didn’t come to punish us, his enemies by nature, into submission. He didn’t come to establish policies and enact strict laws by which he would force everyone to fall in line and make the world a better place. He didn’t come to get even with his enemies, exact revenge and either win them over or remove them. 

No, it was the unconditional love that won you over and made you who you are. To forget that is to turn the Savior’s work into an afterthought. So we know how powerfully this no-strings-attached, mercy-extending love is, because we are the proof. It worked on us; it will work on others. So let’s put it to the test!

One of the struggles believers have with these verses, though, is that it sounds as if Jesus is essentially calling us to be doormats. It sounds like we are just supposed to allow everyone else to trample all over us no matter what. That we should let people take advantage of us. We should be fine with being ridiculed, bullied, or mistreated. We cannot ever speak up for ourselves or defend ourselves, but must always be willing to be a punching bag and absorb a lifetime of punches as followers of Jesus. If that is how we understand what it means to be a doormat, then we’ve got it wrong.

But there is something to that picture of a doormat that we want to apply positively. We are doormats – when we consider the location and role a doormat plays. Think about it. A doormat is placed in front of a door for those preparing to walk through it. It’s a natural entryway through the door. Anyone utilizing a doormat is preparing to walk through the door. The doormat prepares someone on the outside to enter into a building or home.

Is that not what Jesus is calling us to in these verses? Jesus describes himself as the gate or the narrow door. But how are others to arrive at that door? How are they to ever know it’s there and it’s for them? Through us. We are the doormats who by our radical loving actions lead others to the door, ultimately hoping and praying that the Holy Spirit will then walk them through that door into eternal life and salvation. 

That’s not such a stretch when we remember whose we are and who we are: we are Christs because we are Christ’s – both with and without the apostrophe. It has been said that in the days of the early Christian church, believers were called “little Christs,” intended to be a derogatory title. But there is nothing really derogatory at all about that title – little Christs is what we are, and we only bear that title because we belong to him! We are his because he purchased and won us. And because we are his, we represent him to the world. A world filled with Christians is intended to be a world filled with little Christs who are reflections of Christ and draw others to him. 

When we do this, our lifestyles serves a two-fold purpose. First, we show how well we really know our gracious God – that he really is kind. He really is merciful. He really has forgiven us. He really does give over flowingly to us. He really doesn’t condemn us.

Secondly, living this way shows our gracious God to others. There is a significant contrast Jesus set up between believers and nonbelievers. The radical love Jesus calls us to is radical because it is uncommon and unknown in the world.

The world sees love returned where love has been given. The world sees good extended by those who received it in the first place. The world sees people lend to others expecting full payment – and maybe even some interest – in return. Such behavior doesn’t stand out in the world. It’s common.

But Jesus is highlighting what will stand out in the world. Love returned to those from whom hate was received. Blessings and prayers extended to those from whom curses and mistreatment were received. Pacifism in response to physical harm done against me. These things are not common, natural, or normal in the world. They are not witnessed regularly or routinely. So when they happen, people take note. When they occur, others are paying attention. 

That’s what we’re after. We want an audience. But not for ourselves. We want an audience for others with the true God. And our words, our actions, our radical love toward others, may be just the introduction necessary for others to gain an audience with the true God.

Isn’t that more valuable than my insistence that I right every wrong, that injustices against me are rectified, that others get what they deserve? God will surely take care of those things. What is more important to us, however, is that others potentially gain an audience with God – that’s when we’re showing others how important God is to us.

As a bit of a side note, it’s important to clarify what it doesn’t mean to turn the other cheek. It doesn’t mean that as a believer you must take abuse from everyone else. Jesus is not saying that you are required to be and remain a victim of someone else taking advantage of you. It does not mean that you are required to allow anyone else to abuse you physically, emotionally, or in any way whatsoever. 

Jesus’ words are not intended to condone the wrongdoer in his sin, but rather to shape how we respond when wronged. There is a big difference between giving permission to the wrong someone else is committing and focusing on how I respond. Too often these verses get twisted by the abuser, who contorts them into some scriptural support for his atrocious sinful behavior, or by critics of Christianity who conclude that Jesus doesn’t allow Christians to stand up for themselves.

The truth is, when I have been wronged, I can stand up for myself and love my enemy and do good to him at the same time. Remember, after all, that the victory we have in Jesus Christ through the Resurrection is our victory. We are not victims, but victors. In him we are not the weak and oppressed, but the strong and courageous, which is exactly what it takes to love others when they wrong us, whether the hurt they leave us with is a slight scrape or a deep wound. 

When we love others radically, we are allowing God to be “kind to the ungrateful and wicked. (v.35). He does this through us! God’s desire is that through your radical treatment of others in the world, they would come to know what we do. So Jesus concludes this section by encouraging us, “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you” (v.36-38).

Through our mercy, others know God’s mercy. When we don’t condemn, others can know a God who doesn’t condemn. When we forgive, others know God’s forgiveness. When we are good to others, they can know God’s goodness.

Believer, be a doormat, be OK with being the step that others take on their way through the narrow door, Jesus, who ushers them into eternal life. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Love Others Every Day

God of Love,
Lead me to love others every day, and not just on special occasions or designated holidays. While such occasions can serve as good reminders to love one another and to make sure we express that love through words and actions, your call to love others applies 24/7. When we are intentional about loving our neighbor (or enemy!) at all times, we then serve as reflections of your love at all times.

When I find it difficult to love others, direct my thoughts both to your perfect example of love throughout your life and also to your loving sacrifice for my life. May those spur on my love. When it is easier to love others, keep that love from turning into favoritism. Generate an increase of love in our society to counter division and hate, without allowing the guise of love to compromise the truth.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For the Gift of Jesus

Christ my Savior,
To us a child is born! To us a Son is given! On this Christmas Day, I am elated to celebrate your birth, which ushered in grace that could be seen and touched in flesh and blood. Although my finite mind will never grasp the miracle of your incarnation, my heart will nevertheless ponder it in awesome wonder. 

Who am I – who are any of us – that you should willingly choose to dwell among us, the very ones who in sin daily rebel against you and reject your will for our lives? How deeply you must love and treasure us to subject yourself to such opposition, so that you might save the very ones who oppose you. Work in me such heartfelt gratitude for this gift – for you! – that my rejoicing is reflected not only in singing and song, but also in loving others as deeply as you love me. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Respond to Enemies With Love

God of Love,
There is no greater example in history of what it looks like to love your enemy than the example Jesus set for us. It wasn’t only at his death that he faced the hatred of enemies in word and actions, but also during his life. Yet we hear no lashing out from his lips, no hate-fueled words spewed out in anger. His response to those who hated him was to love them back.

Give me that heart for those who hate me or wish evil on me or who mistreat me. Do not allow me to waste even a second of my time entertaining possible malicious actions in response. Keep me from trying to mentally justify any potentially vicious verbal comebacks. Instead, let my words and actions toward the bad people in my life model the loving grace you have shown me. The world celebrates the quick-witted put-down or snappy insult against those who mistreat us. Let me, though, model the godly picture of character and strength in how I choose instead to love others, including those who don’t care for me or even hate me.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Fruit of the Spirit: Love

Holy Spirit,
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Make me eager to bear more of this fruit in my life, beginning with love. Since love is what spurs on the increased production of all of this fruit in my life, I want to prioritize it in my words and actions. And, since my love for you and for others ripples outward only from the center of your love for me, fill me first and foremost with your love on a daily basis. 

Open the eyes of my heart to see the endless opportunities all around me to express love to my neighbor. Lend me your loving ears to listen to others who long to be heard. Open my lips to speak loving encouragement to those who are disheartened and discouraged. Align my actions with yours, Lord, that my loving deeds of service to others would be a timely blessing to them. In all things, may this fruit of love in my life serve as a reflection of your perfect love, so that others come to know your love through mine. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Love Your Commands

Loving Lord,
You tell us in your Word that we love by keeping your commands. Yet, our sinful nature still bristles at the thought of being told by anyone else what to do or how to live. We prefer to call the shots and cater to our own self-serving wishes and desires.

Transform our view of your commands by changing our hearts to see your commands as they truly are. Your law is not a straitjacket, but a delight. There is genuine joy to be found not only in carrying out your will, but also in seeing how blessed we and others are when we do so. Lead us to love your law and fill us with your Spirit to keep us in step with it. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Love Those Who are Challenging to Love

Merciful Lord,
Today I pray for the compassion and capacity to love the challenging individuals(s) in my life. The reasons vary, and the level of hurt or the damage done may have been extensive, but I don’t want to hang on to bitterness or resentment. Where I seek healing from these past wounds, help me to find in you what I need, for I may never receive it from those who caused it. But by your grace I can choose forgiveness and love.

I marvel at the love that flowed from your dying lips as your heart was not concerned about revenge against the very hands that crucified you, but was instead focused on forgiveness. I crave this compassion, but I cannot extend it to others unless your unconditional love and mercy first directed at me brings about that change in my heart. Let your no-strings-attached love flow freely to me, that it might then flow through me to others – especially those most difficult to love.   

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Redirect My Love

Loving Savior,
When I struggle to love others, it isn’t because I don’t know how to love, but because I’ve allowed my love to be misdirected. Most naturally that misdirected love is focused on me. I put myself and my priorities above your call to love and serve others first. 

But I also find my heart drawn to loving others things, not just more than my neighbor, but even more than you. Weed such idolatry out of my heart! In its place plant the seeds of your Spirit so that abundant fruit – especially love for others – may flourish and ripen in my words and actions.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Real Love

(1 John 4:7-11, 19-21)

Who is it for you? An organization or a cause? A political candidate or political party? When you know the topic is love, you already know there isn’t going to be some profound revelation or new discovery regarding what the Bible has to say about love. It’s simple. Love God. Love others. Why? Because God loves you. There’s no way around it, and that will be the same message about love that you will hear from the Bible as long as you keep on reading it, listening to it, and studying it.

But it would be quite naive of us to think that just because we know what the Bible tells us about loving others that we would somehow arrive at a point when we wouldn’t need to hear it again. By that line of reasoning, a parent should only have to tell a child to go to bed at bedtime once and it should never be an issue again, right? At most, none of us should ever get more than one speeding ticket, if that, because once the officer informs us that we’re breaking the law when we exceed the speed limit, it shouldn’t happen again once we have that information. If doing what we’re supposed to do was merely a matter of information, then life would be a piece of cake!

Ah, if only it were that simple. But loving others isn’t merely a matter of transferring information; it’s a matter of transformation. If we are to carry out the kind of love God calls us to, a pretty monumental change has to take place. Where? In us.

We actually do know how to love. That isn’t the problem. We’re actually really good at it naturally. The problem just happens to be where our love is directed. I love me. And you love you. And everything in our own little personal bubbles essentially revolves around that. So if I am instead going to redirect that love toward others, as God would have me do, well, that’s unnatural. So something has to change. Something supernatural.

That’s really the message we need to keep hearing, and John repeats it for us. “God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another” (v.8-11). It isn’t likely new news to anyone reading this that God is love. We’ve all heard it before. We’ve seen it on wall art or displayed on the back of the car in front of us or any number or places. But for those three words to hit home, we have to personally apply them. That God who is love doesn’t just love everyone; he loves me.

Me who knows what it’s like to feel unappreciated and unloved… by my own parents. Or my children. By my supposedly close friend. By my own family. By my coworkers or classmates. By my teacher. By my coach. By my spouse. By my boss. We all have our own list, which may change for us in different seasons of life, but we all know too well, whether it’s reality or our perception, what it’s like to feel unloved. 

And these words from John remind us that that feeling is never actually reliable, because the “God-is-love” God is the God who loves me. And you. And always will.

What makes this love difficult for us to embrace and accept is that deep down inside, we know how undeserving we are of it. We have a pretty good of how many daily reasons we give for God not to love us – through our thoughts, works, and actions. Verse twenty hits just one of them, and there are so many more. John warned, “Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen” (v.20). I might think “hate” to be too strong a word to describe me, but John expands it to include any failure of loving our brother or sister, or anyone for that matter. As if that wasn’t bad enough, it makes us out to be liars to claim to love God while loathing someone else. 

And you’ll notice there are no disclaimers or allowances or exceptions. God doesn’t say we’re off the hook if it’s someone who is really hard to love. Or someone who posted something nasty online about you or someone you care about. Or someone who stole from you. Or even if it’s someone who has really hurt us or traumatized us or messed with our heads and hearts.

There are no love loopholes. We are called to embody Jesus’ perfect love to all people. And we don’t. And our guilty consciences tell us what we deserve when we don’t. 

The awareness of this guilt is evident to me as a pastor. One of the most common fears people share with me is wondering where they really stand before God because of a person or relationship they can’t bring themselves to love. Or, they agonize over how much of a struggle it is. So yes, our own consciences convict us of not loving others perfectly or completely.

And if we have somehow managed to fleece or foil our own conscience into thinking that we have no problem loving others, God’s Word makes clear what the consequence is for anything less than 100% complete and total love for others. Just one chapter earlier in this very letter John wrote, “Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him” (1 John 3:15). There’s no way around it – we know what even our lukewarm love deserves!

Yet… still God loves us!

How can we know? That’s the part of John’s description we must never tire of hearing. “This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins” (v.10). God’s Son was not sent into this world only for those who love well, not for those whose love has never faltered, and not even for those who are pretty convinced their love for God meets his expectations. If those were the type of people God had sent his Son into the world for, he would have come up empty-handed. No such person has ever existed. No, Jesus came into this world to render the payment necessary for the pervasive lack of love. 

Jesus offered up himself as the atoning sacrifice for our sins, including but not limited to our lack of love. Jesus has restored our relationship with God that had been totaled by our sin and he has shown us what sacrificial love in action looks like. His love for others – for you and me and all people – was not deterred by selfishness or self-love. He loved – and loves – perfectly.

He loved you by never faltering in the face of temptation. He loved you by loving his enemies perfectly in your place. He loved you not just with words and speech about loving his neighbors, but by showing them in so often meeting their physical needs and healing their hurts. He loved you all the way to the cross and out of the empty tomb. The Resurrection reality is that in Jesus Christ we not only see what real love looks like; we also see that real love is ours. That real love is for us. 

So, we can now love others, too.

Why does it matter so much that we pour ourselves into loving others? So that others may come to know the source of that love. “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God” (v.7).

Yes, God is love. You know that. I know that. Others may have heard the phrase, but they don’t know what we’ve just been talking about. They don’t know that kind of radical love. In his Gospel and all of his letters in the Bible, John more than any other writer stresses how important it is for us as Christians to love – so that the source of love can be made known. So that others, through our love, would come to know the One from whom it all emanates: God their Savior. 

Without knowing that kind of love, the world’s understanding and definition of love is really quite pitiful.  Somebody suggests a fun activity together and we’d love to. We love this place or that place to eat. We’re in love with this store or that style. We love your outfit. We love it when that happens. We love that book/movie/song/etc. We love so many things so much that we’ve diluted love altogether to essentially strip it of any real meaning. 

So let’s show a better love. A real love. Let’s love the erratic driver with a prayer for him. Let’s love the protestor who cares enough about a cause to do something instead of just spewing snarky words from behind a screen or behind closed doors. Let’s love the walker or hiker with the never-ending stories by taking the time just to listen to them on occasion. Let’s love the neighbor whose language and customs and culture are so different from ours. Let’s, even after a drama-filled, mentally and emotionally exhausting day ourselves, love our children with the gift of time together. Let’s love our spouse with more yeses and fewer excuses. Let’s love our coworker by letting them receive the praise for the project. Let’s love the addict by trying to better understand what his world is like. Let’s love by offering the ride even when it is utterly inconvenient. Let’s love by opening our home more often for meals with others. 

When we love in these ways and so many others, we take the world’s diluted love and saturate it, making it something special. When we love in these ways we demonstrate another kind of love that only finds its source in Jesus. And our prayer – and God’s intent – is that through our love others would eventually be channeled to the source of that excellent love that we find only in Christ. 

Then, like dominoes, Christ’s love begins to flow through their lives as well. Secured with the gifts of peace, joy, forgiveness, and the assurance of eternal life, they are free to love others, too. And the cycle continues, always seeing love draw others to Christ like a magnet, to show them a radical love that lasts into eternity. Not like the best kind of love the world could ever offer, but far better: real love.