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For Fruit of the Spirit: Self-Control

Holy Spirit,
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Our society celebrates the pursuit of pleasure in excess and lives by an “if it feels good, do it” mantra. Yet even in Christian freedom, your Word reminds me that while everything is permissible, not everything is beneficial. When I can no longer say no to something, then I have become mastered by it.

To counter such extremes, Holy Spirit, grant me instead a spirit of discipline and self-control. Guide my thoughts, words, and actions to keep me from being enslaved by anything in this world. Lead me to pursue that which is virtuous and highly esteemed in your sight. Curb my sinful desires and strengthen me to say no when I need to. Give me the maturity to avoid whatever deceives me with the promise of instant gratification. Where I know I am weak, surround me with fellow believers who know my weaknesses and are willing to stand firmly beside me so that I do not fall. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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Thanks for My Church Family

Loving Father,
You provide so much more than we need for this life. One of the greatest joys you give us is the family of believers. We don’t navigate the challenges or celebrate the blessings of this life alone, but get to do so together with so many other believers. Thank you for my church family!

So much of what you call us to do as your children involves others, and my church family provides one of the best platforms for field training. Here is where I can learn to love, serve, and forgive, to hold accountable, correct, and encourage – among so many other things. Keep me from overlooking the importance of gathering together with fellow believers, so that I don’t miss out on how you would use them to shape and influence me, and vice-versa. As we walk together in carrying out your ministry, extend your kingdom from within and without, strengthening souls and reaching the lost, all to your glory. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For the Gift of Music

Loving Father,
Thank you for the gift of music. I realize it isn’t an essential necessity for life, as are things like food, water, and sleep, but that speaks to your goodness and love even more! Music uplifts and brings joy, but can also match my mood when I am melancholy. It can move along gracefully or powerfully inspire and build up. Thank you for those with vocal and instrumental gifts who also have the desire to put them to use for the greater good. 

Thank you for many faithful composers and hymn writers throughout the centuries who have made the Scriptures singable. Thank you for the songs that have edified believers for so many generations in worship. Richly bless us with musical gifts both secular and sacred. Continue to raise up gifted musicians in your church to equip and enable us to sing your praises as we proclaim the good news of the gospel in song until Jesus’ return.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Financial Prudence

Gracious God,
Money is a gift from you. Thank you for the ways you place it into my hands: through wages earned from employment, via returns from business opportunities and investments, and as gifts received from others. By itself money is neither good nor bad; honoring you in how I manage it is what determines whether it will be a blessing or a hindrance. Guide me in my handling of money. Guard my heart against our culture’s consumerism, keep me from piling up debt, and fill me with contentment. Help me use finances to provide for my own needs and for the needs of my family when possible. Move me to save wisely and to support others in need as I have opportunity. Let your grace work in my heart to also be generous in my offerings as I cheerfully support your gospel ministry. Grant me a spirit that is also willing to use money for joy and pleasure, always sensibly and as appropriate. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Hold Firmly

(Titus 1:5-9)

Last week, at the start of this Meaningful Ministry (aka, gospel-geared, Savior-like service) series, we began with the reminder that our efforts will not always be appreciated by everyone. In fact, we can expect our efforts to be opposed, sometimes with even great effort. Nevertheless, we carry on with ministry because it’s what God calls us to do. 

Now we find the confidence we need in remembering whose authority backs our ministry, and where we find that authority. As one pastor writing to another, Paul reminded Titus that “He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it” (v.9). Therefore, as we continue to consider what meaningful ministry looks like, we must cling to the truth that meaningful ministry is that which holds firmly to the trustworthy message. Meaningful ministry holds firmly to the Word.

If I may say so, although the title of this post is “Hold Firmly,” some of you are, quite frankly, holding rather loosely to the Word of God. That might hurt a little bit to hear, but if so, thank God that his Word – specifically the law – is doing what it is supposed to do. We might be inclined to push back against such a statement (because after all, what about all the others who are not reading this or who don’t regularly attend church?!?), and to do so wouldn’t necessarily be wrong. But those Christians not reading or listening to sermons aren’t alone in their loose grasp on the Word of God – there are plenty more right there with them who have a rather soft grip on the Word. 

That can happen if Sunday morning worship or reading the occasional sermon online is about as engaged as one ever gets in ministry. If there is one thing that believer and unbeliever alike know about Christianity and Sunday mornings, it’s that Sunday mornings are for worship. While the unbeliever obviously doesn’t see any need to be there, the danger for the believer is to see worship as the bare minimum in his affiliation with the church. Yes, one of the greatest blessings God has given to his church as it carries out meaningful ministry is the blessing of worship; but even that blessing can become a bottleneck to anyone who severely shortchanges ministry by defining it as nothing more than going to church. Such a view is a soft grip on the Word. 

Imagine an actor just showing up for the performance. No study of the storyline or character. No rehearsing lines or any thought on how they might be delivered. Or an athlete just showing up for the games. No practice. No drills. No preparation or game-tape on the other team. Very few could pull either off, and to do so with such little effort beforehand not only reflects poorly on the craft, but also fails to set a high standard or raise the bar in that field.

Why would Christians settle for mediocrity in our ministry, settling for less than our best in carrying out Christ’s calling? Why would some idea of minimal means of grace involvement ever be satisfactory? No, we want to practice like we play. Prepare. Be in the Word. Deeply.

There is great reason to hold firmly to this Word of God. We do so because through it God sends us and serves us. Meaningful ministry is our lot, not because we wisely figured out on our own that Jesus might be good for people to know about, but because Jesus sends us, just as he sent his disciples. They went out with his backing, with his authority. And they went out not because they were qualified in and of themselves, but because they were called. He was the one sending them.

He is the one sending you. Not because you are qualified in and of yourself, but because you were called. You carry out ministry with his backing, with his authority. That started when he made you what you are today, when he gave you your most precious status and title: his. You belong to him. You are his. He made you his when he paid with his life and then gifted you with the faith to believe it. 

I most commonly close my emails with that very signature, “His.” It reminds me of the title that carries more weight than any other ever could. My worth and my value and my significance and my purpose are all wrapped up in the One to whom I belong. In a very real way, one of the simplest little hymns many of us ever learned to sing as children still holds dear in our hearts: “I am Jesus’ little lamb, ever glad at heart I am.” I have different titles. I have various responsibilities and roles. Like an umbrella over them all at all times is the precious truth that I am his – and I always will be. 

And he, dear friends, is the One who sends us. When we forget that bond, that relationship, and all that God did to establish it, ministry is less meaningful. That is when it becomes a job, nothing more than a series of tasks, as if the boss just gave you a list of things he needs you to get done. To lose that bond, that connection with our Savior, and allow it to fray, easily turns ministry into misery. I think you’d agree that Miserable Ministry would be a significantly different sermon series. So remember why we hold firmly to this Word: it is a constant reminder of the One who sends us.

It is also the way he has chosen to serve us. This might be the most significant hurdle that keeps many Christians away from more meaningful service: a willingness to continue to be served by God through holding firmly to the Word. Remember, ministry is gospel-geared, Savior-like service. Another reminder: you are incapable of carrying that out on your own. It must be worked into you through the Word. So there is no, “Jesus did this for me, and now I’d like to graduate beyond that and get busy with all of the work of his kingdom.” No, there is only, “Jesus did this for me, and now he will do this through me.”

So we do not busy ourselves with church work while avoiding church Word & worship. They are inseparable. Service is prompted by being served, and if I don’t have the humility to continue being served a steady diet of Word and Sacrament, then my service will be short-lived and running on fumes in no time. It will become about me. It will become a burden. It will burn me out. It will turn me against other Christians as I begin to resent them for not doing what I’m doing. When I am at that point, I fail to notice how much I have come to resemble Martha, begrudging the others who are too preoccupied with the Word in worship and Bible study to actually do the work to which we’ve been sent.

At that moment we are reminded of why it’s so essential to hold firmly to the Word: my jaded heart daily needs its forgiveness and renewal. In the Word alone do I find what my heart longs for: grace for my misguided ministry that somehow turned what is God’s around and made it all about me. That joy of salvation renews me, taking my me-minded ministry and making it captive to Christ. His sacrifice and salvation for me prompts my sacrificial service to others for the sake of that same salvation. It makes ministry meaningful again.

When I hold firmly to the Word of God at work in all of this, I see that same Word of God at work in me. 

In these verses, Paul laid out quite the list of qualifications for ministry to Titus. While this standard of expectations certainly applies to all Christians, there is an especially important reason Paul emphasizes it for a pastor: because the pastor is understandably associated most directly with God and his authority. As one called by Christians to serve them with the gospel in Word and Sacrament, he is God’s representative. But just as surely as all of these qualifications apply to all Christians, so does the call to hold firmly to the Word of God apply to all Christians. 

In fact, without this final point in this section of Paul’s words to Titus, what precedes is purposeless. Why? Because apart from the Word at work in us, there’s no innate desire to embody the qualifications Paul lists, nor is there any ability to carry them out.

Take note of how Paul refers to the usage of teaching and doctrine, which as often as not seems to get a pretty bad rap – even within the church these days. Many view doctrine as divisive (despite the reality that it is actually what unites). Many view doctrine as a hindrance to Christian living (despite the reality that Christian living flows from it).

But see how Paul touches on it! He uses the word “encourage.” To remain faithful to the Bible’s teachings, to hold the view that doctrine is so very important and matters greatly – this is encouraging. What is discouraging is to see it downplayed, to hear the point of view that only the Jesus and salvation stuff really matters, and we can politely agree to disagree on all the other stuff. The problem with that view is that all of the “other stuff” flows from the Jesus and salvation stuff; it isn’t some add-on or take-it-or-leave-it a la carte menu. It all ties to Jesus, and for that reason, it is encouraging, as Paul maintained. 

So hold firmly to that Word of God – all of it. Our Meaningful Ministry will be blessed as we do so. For it is through the Word of God that he sends us and serves us. And as he does, he will serve us and equip us with everything that we need to carry out faithful, meaningful ministry.

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For the Gift of Time

Heavenly Father,
Our times are in your hands. Teach us to number our days so that we manage our time here on earth well. While some days seem rushed and others seem to drag on, you give each of us the same 24 hours every day. I ask you to help me make the most of the time you give me. I don’t want to take it for granted or presume there will always be time later on for what is important. Give me the self-control and discipline to maintain a healthy balance between time for recreation and enjoyment and time for focused work and dedicated service to others. Whether a spirit of sloth sets in or my relationship with work becomes consuming, use trusted friends or family to help me realize it and review how I am managing your gift of time. Above all else, move me to always prioritize my time with you, both personally in my daily devotional time, and together with brothers and sisters in the faith in worship and Bible study. May I always honor you in the way I maximize your gift of time. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Your Gifts of Marriage and Sex

Dear Savior,
The world has taken your gifts of marriage and sex, separated the two from each other, and the results have been disastrous. Marriage has been stripped of so many of its blessings as it is viewed as an out-dated, optional arrangement. Sex is treated as simply another self-serving pleasure to be pursued at will. Without the commitment, the faithfulness, and the spouse-first humble service of marriage, families and individuals have been deeply hurt, broken, and trampled on by the misuse and abuse of relationships and sex.

I pray that you help me to address the issue and lead by example. Help me to speak highly and respectfully of your gifts of marriage and sex, and of women in general. Guard my own heart from sexual temptations. I want to celebrate wedding anniversaries as precious milestones that serve as testaments to the blessings attached to your institution of marriage. Surround me with solid marriages, dedicated spouses, and flourishing families, all for the betterment of our society and for your glory.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Focused Worship

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. Give me attentive ears and undistracted eyes to hear and see the mystery of the gospel in worship today. Allow your gospel to captivate me as it is sung and spoken, that it might create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit in me. Sharpen my focus for the duration of worship, that I may continually see the cross on display from beginning to end. Edify all of us in attendance, and equip us to joyfully live out our callings through your gospel. Bless all who gather in your house today for worship.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Fruit of the Spirit: Gentleness

Holy Spirit,
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Gentleness is not typically a characteristic which our society associates with men, which makes it all the more noticeable when it is evident. Since gentleness is evidence of your work, Holy Spirit, and a fruit you desire to see in Christians, please grant me more of it. In past situations when aggression or forcefulness took over within me, have mercy on me. When I have been harsh with others, forgive me. Help me see that gentleness is not associated with weakness, but is instead a godly characteristic by which you set your people apart. Let your gentleness be evident in me whenever I interact with others. May others view me as approachable and caring because of it. Use my gentleness as yet another gateway to open up more opportunities to humbly serve my neighbor. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To See the Blessings of Discipline

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but later on it produces a harvest of righteousness. You allow hardships and trials in my life to test and try my faith. In the thick of those seasons, faith’s vision easily becomes blurred and it can appear as if you have it out for us. Correct my vision and give me clarity to see the good you desire to work in my life through such turbulence.

Other times, when the spoiled fruit of my own sin yields unpleasant or challenging consequences, it’s easy to play the victim or to complain. Instead, lead me to own up to my wrongs and thank you for the pleasing fruit you can yield through me in repentance. Just as an earthly father corrects and disciplines his children because he loves them, so you do the same for us. With that in mind, prune and shape me even more, and give me the faith to see it and embrace it for the blessing it is.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.