DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Advent Hope

Savior Jesus,
Advent fills us with hope, peace, and joy. I thank you, Lord, for a hope that surpasses the mere wishful longing of this world. The hope we have in you is not a possibility, but a promise. It is so much more than an optimistic outlook; it is a confident certainty. No one whose hope rests in you has ever been disappointed, nor will anyone ever be, since hope that rests in you is hope backed by your own Word.

Only this hope satisfies and sustains us, because it is anchored in you. As I prepare to celebrate Christmas, help me to see that the hope you brought into the world at your birth is real, and it is for me and all people. The hope of eternal life is a guarantee secured by your life, death, and resurrection. Just as surely as you lived, died, and rose for me, so also will I rise one day to live forever with you. Hold THIS hope always before me! 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

A Real Christmas Is Filled with Delight

(Zephaniah 3:14-17)

When someone bursts out with “Let’s celebrate!”, it’s hard not to get excited. Who doesn’t like celebrating? And there all kinds of ways to do it. It could mean planning a big party. It might mean booking a vacation. It might also be a very nice dinner out or a special, home-cooked favorite and a movie. No matter what it looks like, everyone likes to celebrate.

But long before you start cranking out celebration plans, a natural question arises: What are we celebrating? The answer to that question matters, because the cause for celebration determines the scale of celebration. Going out for ice cream might be an appropriate celebration for a Third Grade daughter’s good grade on a quiz, but it falls short as a celebration for that daughter’s college graduation. A special getaway could be an appropriate way for a couple to celebrate a 25th Anniversary, but it would be overkill as a celebratory reward for the husband actually remembering to stop and get milk on his way home from work. The cause for celebration determines the scale of the celebration.

So when we have a celebration on a scale like the one Zephaniah describes, “Sing, Daughter Zion; shout aloud, Israel! Be glad and rejoice with all your heart, Daughter Jerusalem!” (v.14), we want to know: what is the cause of the celebration? Singing, shouting, and glad rejoicing – it sounds like something pretty significant is the cause of celebration! 

Zephaniah, who served during the reign of Josiah, one of Israel’s few respectable kings, explains why such a celebration is justified. “The Lord has taken away your punishment, he has turned back your enemy. The Lord, the King of Israel, is with you; never again will you fear any harm” (v.15). We might assume he was referring to some pretty awful times that Israel was going through. He was… only they hadn’t happened yet. In the first two chapters of Zephaniah, he prophesied the judgment that would be coming on not only Israel, but the surrounding enemy nations who had opposed Israel. Their downfall was coming. For Israel, that would be fulfilled through their Babylonian Captivity. Yes, they would be taken captive, displaced from their homes, and relocated to a foreign land.

But on the other side of that captivity would be reason to rejoice and be glad; to sing and shout: the Lord would end that punishment, overcome the Babylonians, and allow them to return to their homeland with the assurance that the Lord – the true “King of Israel” – would be with them. Zephaniah further cements that certainty. “On that day they will say to Jerusalem, “Do not fear, Zion; do not let your hands hang limp. The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves” (v.16-17a). While it would be understandable for them to question if God had deserted them while in Babylon, let there be no doubt that he would be among his people once again as a Mighty Warrior to save them. Their gracious God, who had warned of their judgment if they continued to turn from him, is also concerned about making sure they know he would be with them and accept them again. 

We may not be all that open about our need for it, but we also crave acceptance. It may be more important coming from certain people than others, but deep down, we want to be accepted. When therapists talk about working through a person’s “father wound(s),” they are referring to the lack of acceptance a child felt coming from their father. Maybe dad was never in the picture, leading the child to feel abandoned because dad didn’t care enough to be a part of their life. Perhaps dad put work over family and/or kids. Sadly, emotionally and physically abusive dads compound the problem by replacing that desired acceptance with harmful rejection. Children in those settings tend to seek out acceptance from other outlets, and those often less desirable outlets snowball into bigger problems down the road. 

The father-child relationship isn’t the only one that craves acceptance. We want our boss to appreciate and accept us for the hard work we do. We want our spouse to accept us for the effort we put into marriage. We want our friends to want to hang out with us as a sign of acceptance. We want our kids and grandchildren to accept us. At times, the acceptance we crave in any one of these relationships can even cause us to go to extreme and even unhealthy lengths to earn it.

Sadly, some of us never feel like we have it. No matter how hard we try, it never seems to be good enough. We lack this or that. We fall short. We don’t measure up. This time of year can also easily amplify the lack of acceptance we feel. 

Take heart, Christian. God has a word for you this morning. He accepts you. More than that: he is delighted in you, even breaking out into song over you! “He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing” (v.17). The Lord delights in you. The very acceptance you crave from others is already yours in the Lord. 

While this Sunday has been traditionally labeled “Guadete” Sunday (Latin for “rejoice”), in reference to our rejoicing, here it is the Lord who is doing the rejoicing over us! He doesn’t just delight in us, but takes great delight in us, AND rejoices over us in song! 

Here’s why being the Lord’s delight actually surpasses the acceptance you might otherwise desire from others: you weren’t required to earn it. You did nothing to be deserving of it. But it’s yours nonetheless!

Contrast that with the acceptance you crave from others. Suppose you get it. Suppose you finally receive the acceptance you crave, whatever that looks like for you. Your next natural step is to assess what you did right to finally receive that acceptance. When you pinpoint whatever it is you think you did (cooked your spouse the perfect meal, over performed for your boss, etc.), now what? Do you have to maintain that same standard indefinitely? What happens when you fail to hit that mark in the future (you will at some point!)? When you miss the mark in the future, do you miss out on that acceptance as well? Is it conditional, entirely dependent upon something you did or didn’t do? Then what happens when that falls short in the future? 

Poof! There goes your acceptance.

But not with God. The Lord delights in you because he’s already done all the work to make you delightful! He carried out what was necessary to delight in you. You can’t undo it. You can’t improve on it. The Lord delights in you because he’s the one who made you delightful. 

Imagine how these words must have hit the ears of God’s people when they came from Zephaniah. Zephaniah, along with his contemporaries, prophesied the imminent judgment that was going to be carried out against Israel. Remember, they were going to be picked apart by the Babylonians and taken into exile to live in a foreign land. Worse than refugees, they would be conquered captives, forced to adapt to new customs and a new language and the list goes on. This was going to be the consequence of their repeated unfaithfulness to God. 

Do you imagine this reality would lead to doubts about where they stood with God? Do you suppose they second-guessed their status as his special, chosen people? Wouldn’t rejection – not affection – better describe what they were going to be experiencing? And they knew there was no negotiating with God. They had repeatedly cheated on him. They ignored him. He was an afterthought in their minds. He was far from first in their hearts, and they had no one to blame but themselves.

Sound familiar? “And they knew there was no negotiating with God. They had repeatedly cheated on him. They ignored him. He was an afterthought in their minds. He was far from first in their hearts, and they had no one to blame but themselves.” That’s not just idolatrous Israel. That’s me! That’s you! We have no wiggle room to negotiate with God, and we know it. 

So, let the words sink in again. “He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing” (v.17). But why? How? How can we be sure that this is true and that he won’t change his mind???

As we draw closer to our celebration of Christmas, it is time. Time to shift your gaze from the clouds, where we await Jesus’ return, to the manger in Bethlehem, where we celebrate his arrival. This is true: if God did not delight in us, in you, there would be no celebration at Christmas, because he wouldn’t have given us Christ. But he did! The gift in the manger seals the deal. The gift of Jesus Christ our Savior is the proof. God does delight in us!

We don’t often focus on feelings as they relate to our faith. There’s a reason for that: we want to guard against our feelings about God overshadowing (or ignoring!) what the Bible says about God. But as we consider the words from Zephaniah this morning, and as we apply them to our Christmas celebration, you have permission to bask in the feelings associated with knowing that God takes great delight in you. How can we not?!?

Your feelings do matter, because the more Christmases we celebrate, the more we realize that the most likely indicators of memorable or forgettable Christmases are not really the gifts given or received, but how we felt. Gifts are quickly forgotten, but how we felt is not, and the strongest feelings we experience are often those that involve our relationships with others. The Christmas spent estranged from an otherwise close family member is one you’d like to forget because you didn’t enjoy feeling that way. Ask the military wife which Christmas stands out to her and she’ll tell you the one when her deployed spouse surprised her and the kids with an early return at Christmas time. The Christmas engagement is going to stand out in memory over the year you didn’t get that gift you really wanted. 

So how will you feel this Christmas? It depends on where you focus. Will everything get done? Nope. Will everyone be thrilled with their gifts? Nope. Will everyone get along peacefully without anyone losing it? Nope.

Does God take great delight in you? Absolutely. Always. May that fill you with feelings of joy for A Real Christmas. 

And, if the cause for celebration determines the scale of the celebration, you have all that you need for an incredible celebration this Christmas: you have Jesus, and all the divine delight that he brings with him.

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Curb Anxiety

All-Powerful Lord,
As Christmas and the end of the year draw closer, it isn’t uncommon for anxiety levels to rise. Deadlines loom and time-sensitive tasks need to get done. When we mix in our tendency to eliminate any margin in our lives by overcommitting and overscheduling, we have a recipe for disaster.

Some may struggle with anxiety more than others, but the remedy is the same: shifting our attention away from ourselves and/or the problem and on to you, the solution. When worry starts to set in, train us to counter it with gratitude by reflecting on your goodness to us. Grant us also the proper perspective to see where our concerns fit in over the timeline of eternity, so that we don’t inflate their importance.

Fill us with feelings of peace as we are reminded of your promise to work out all things – including that which stresses us out – for the good of those who love you. Finally, while we like to imagine ourselves at the wheel, controlling all things in our lives, remind us that you alone rule over the entire universe, from the small daily details to the less frequent large scale events. Therefore, whatever is on my plate today or any other day is never too big for you to handle.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Rejoice That You Delight in Me

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. There are so many blessings in being able to worship together with my church family. And, while Sunday mornings provide multiple ways for me to serve others, I never want to forget that the primary focus is on your service to me as my Savior. 

I don’t ever want to get used to or take for granted that you take delight in me. I am well aware that delight isn’t deserved on my part, but that just makes it all the more incredible! I know the real me – and you know the real me even better – yet you STILL delight in me! How can this be true? Jesus is the answer. In Jesus, through faith in Jesus, because of all that Jesus has carried out and completed on my behalf, you delight in me. May that Bible-backed truth lead me to rejoice in worship this morning, all day long, and throughout the Christmas season and beyond! 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Strengthen My Prayer Life

Loving Father,
I come to you to ask you to strengthen my prayer life. I acknowledge there is room to grow both in the quantity and quality of my prayers. I want to pray more consistently and continually throughout the day. Help me to start by following up with actual prayers when I tell others I will pray for them. Also, guide my prayers to reflect more spiritual wisdom than temporal or material wishes.

You attach so many promises to prayer. Make me confident to test them, so that I might clearly see your hands at work in my life and in the lives of others. Let my time in your Word guide my prayer life, so that what I ask for is in alignment with your will. Thank you for bending your ear to my requests, and for answering my prayers in the best way possible. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Grace-Filled Speech

Dear Lord,
The gift of speech comes from you. As you demonstrated at the Tower of Babel, you are more than capable of correcting us when we take your gift of speech for granted or use it to defy or oppose you. At Pentecost, you also proved that language barriers and speech itself will not keep your work from being carried out as you determine. 

Speech can be used to destroy and tear down or to defend and built up. Help me to be thoughtful in my speech, pausing first to consider whether my own motives are pure or not. Then, help me discern how my words may be received by others before I open my mouth. Remind me that my comments or responses are not always necessary, and if they aren’t constructive or beneficial, it may be best simply to leave some things unsaid.  Direct me to speak well of others and to speak kindly, and let my words be a blessing to others. Guide my speech so that it is always marked by positivity and grace.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Spiritually Strong Fathers

Perfect Father,
Being a father isn’t easy, but it is one of the most influential roles in determining the development of children. Those without a father figure in their lives struggle in predictable ways as they grow into adulthood. Those with a neglectful, abusive, or otherwise bad father in the picture suffer significant damage as well. 

Raise up spiritually strong fathers to take the lead in raising their sons and daughters. Let them be powerful examples of humble faith in action. Let their children see them thrive in their relationship with you, Father. Through faith-filled fathers, show children what it looks like to be a child of God. Lead fathers to model sacrificial care and compassion for their children through how they treat their wives. Help fathers prioritize spending time with their kids. Let them be lovingly firm in their discipline, taking ownership of training their children in what is right and wrong in accordance with your Word. Use them to model repentance for their children, and to show them grace and forgiveness in abundance, as you have to all fathers. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Let Go of Control

Mighty Ruler,
Each day is filled with a variety of events. Some of those events are repeated and familiar, while others are new and unexpected. Some of them affect me directly or indirectly, while other events will have little or no effect on me at all. 

And, while I am responsible for my own actions, remind me that I am not ultimately the one in control. When I forget that and imagine that my decisions and actions are the sole predictors of everything that will happen, I am only deceiving myself. When I believe the lie that I am the one in control, I am inclined either to puff up with pride over every beneficial outcome, as if it was my own doing, or get caught up living in an endless loop of regret, imagining all the different scenarios that could have played out if I had just done something differently in that past. 

I am not in control, Lord; you are. Humble me with that reminder so that I can find real peace, not in pretending that I am in charge, but rather in the calm confidence that comes in trusting that you are. You promise to work out all things for my good. Let me rest in that assurance – something that I can actually control. Grant me contentment in managing and controlling how I respond and react to the events around me, and may that always be with patience and grace, so that I reflect you to others. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Embrace the Gift of Repentance

Faithful Jesus,
Repentance is one of those religious words that has gotten a negative reputation. To some degree, that reputation is understandable, as repentance includes taking a good look at ourselves and owning up to our shortcomings and sin. However, such a reputation may also stem from too many billboard, picket, and sandwich signs that have framed repentance as a term of hate-filled hellfire and brimstone. 

Help me to see repentance for what it truly is, Lord: an invitation to find rest in your work without insisting on my own. My natural way is to pick the path of my own choosing that I think serves me best rather than relying on your rest. But any path I choose on my own only takes me further away from you. 

Your gift of repentance opens my eyes to see the need to turn off my own path and follow you, the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Since sin continually entices me to step off your path, I daily need – and want – to repent and return back to you as often as necessary. I can be confident of the same response on your part every single time I repent: when I return to you, you promise to return to me. In fact by faith, I see that you never turned away from me in the first place, and never will.  

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

God Gives Return Gifts

(Malachi 3:1-7b)

It’s good business for retailers to have a good return policy, since anywhere from 15% to one-third of Christmas gifts are returned. However, since those returns also amount to hundreds of billions of dollars in purchases needing to be refunded in, one might think retailers would make returns difficult or at least very inconvenient for shoppers. But one reason it pays for retailers to have a good return policy is that shoppers are more likely to buy from them in the first place. In other words, when purchasing gifts for others, if a retailer doesn’t have an easy or favorable return policy, shoppers are less likely to buy from them and will take their business elsewhere. Another reason to have a favorable return policy is that those returning gifts to the store from which it was purchased are more likely to spend their refund – and perhaps a little more – in that same store. So it bodes well for retailers to have good return policies. But shops and stores aren’t the only ones focused on handling returns; so was the prophet Malachi.

Malachi’s whole message is all about returns. While he isn’t the most well-known prophet in the Old Testament, Malachi does have the distinction of being the last one recorded. After the book of Malachi, the Lord silenced his notifications for about 400 years until Jesus’ birth, after which point the Holy Spirit picks up pen again through the New Testament Evangelists and writers and resumes recording the truths of his Word for us again.

Malachi served long after the era of patriarchs and kings in Israel. He was a messenger to the Israelites who had returned from their exile in Babylon. But, since things weren’t as magical as the Israelites expected them to be once back home, they took issue with God. The message recorded for us in Malachi is a back and forth between God and the Israelites, with their complaints directed at God, and God’s response, which essentially amounted to, “You are no different from your ancestors; you are the problem, not me. Return to me and I will return to you.”

He isn’t talking about returning gifts after Christmas, though. He’s got more important returns on his mind, and wants to make sure that God’s people do, too. So what are the returns Malachi mentions?

The Lord’s messenger will return.

The Lord himself will return.

The Lord’s people are called to return. A real Christmas is all about the returns.

The Lord’s Messenger Returns

The first return will be of the Lord’s messenger. “I will send my messenger, who will prepare the way before me” (Malachi 3:1a). About whom was Malachi speaking? He is none other than John the Baptist. But wait. Why do we speak of John the Baptist’s arrival on the scene as a “return”? Because Malachi pictures him metaphorically as Elijah, one of God’s well-known and respected past prophets who lived and served in the past during the time of Israel’s monarchy. In one of the final verses of the whole Old Testament, picturing the arrival of John the Baptist, Malachi writes, “See, I will send the prophet Elijah to you before that great and dreadful day of the Lord comes” (Malachi 4:5).

John the Baptist, the second Elijah, returned for a very specific purpose: to prepare the way. In the Christian Church year, the Second Sunday in Advent always focuses our attention on the messenger who came to prepare the way for someone greater. That was John’s role, he was well aware of it, and he carried it out faithfully. Another prophet, Isaiah, foreshadowed John’s work by illustrating the type of preparatory work that would need to take place in hearts to be ready for the Savior (cf. Isaiah 40:3-5).

The Lord Returns

Through John the Baptist, God prepared his people for another return: his own.“Then suddenly the Lord you are seeking will come to his temple; the messenger of the covenant, whom you desire, will come,” says the Lord Almighty. But who can endure the day of his coming? Who can stand when he appears?” (Malachi 3:1b-2b).”  This “return,” so to speak, from Malachi’s perspective, looked ahead to two fulfillments: Jesus’ first coming and his return on the Last Day. 

While we spend a significant part of our lives in anticipation of our Christmas celebration each year, we are celebrating an event that already took place 2000+ years ago. God already came into our world in the flesh when Jesus was born. Malachi, along with so many other messengers in the Old Testament, looked ahead to that day, but we look back on it. For them it was an anticipation of a future event to come. 

In that regard, we can relate to the anticipation of a future event to come when we speak of Jesus’ return on the Last Day. Just as Malachi’s audience in his day understood his words to speak of a coming event, so we see his words also referring to a coming day, when on that Last Day he appears again for judgment, and the question is asked, “Who can stand?”

When Jesus returns on the Last Day, it will be as a judge, and he is right to ask “Who can stand,” based on the evidence stacked against the Israelites. Malachi exposes them. “‘So I will come to put you on trial. I will be quick to testify against sorcerers, adulterers and perjurers, against those who defraud laborers of their wages, who oppress the widows and the fatherless, and deprive the foreigners among you of justice, but do not fear me,’ says the Lord Almighty. ‘I the Lord do not change. So you, the descendants of Jacob, are not destroyed. Ever since the time of your ancestors you have turned away from my decrees and have not kept them’” (Malachi 3:5, 7a).

Indeed, who can stand before the Lord with all that evidence stacked against them? Here is the good news. That day of Jesus’ second and final return, Judgment Day, even with all the sin stacked against mankind, will not be be a day of dread for those who by faith receive the work Jesus did when he came the first time. 

Malachi described that work, too, using pictures to illustrate why the Lord would have to return to his people and the work he would come to do in Jesus Christ. “For he will be like a refiner’s fire or a launderer’s soap. He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver; he will purify the Levites and refine them like gold and silver. Then the Lord will have men who will bring offerings in righteousness, and the offerings of Judah and Jerusalem will be acceptable to the Lord, as in days gone by, as in former years” (Malachi 3:2c-4).

Jesus came first to refine and purify, to wash away sins and make us presentable before God. Now we can stand! Jesus came to bring the righteousness we needed and to remove the sins we didn’t. Since we have been made holy by faith in Jesus, we have nothing to fear when thinking about standing before the Lord at his Second Return.

That day will be radically different from his first coming, where joy was initially confined to a local hillside among a group of shepherds on a hillside and an angel chorus. The whole world will be the audience when Jesus returns, and the outcome for all people at that return will be entirely dependent upon what each individual believes about Jesus’ first coming at Christmas, and his perfect life, death, and resurrection that follows. 

But until that day, here we stand, sandwiched in the middle. In the past, the Lord returned to his people when Jesus was born into this world on Christmas. In the future, Jesus will return on the Last Day. How do we spend our days in the meantime? The same way. By returning. Returning back to God. 

Our Returns

Why is that such a priority? Because Satan and sin do not take days off. They do not stop doing everything possible to turn you away from God permanently. We already saw the evidence Malachi presented in verse five, but when we read through a list like this, it might be natural for us to presume it’s referring to someone else – those wayward Israelites. But we must know better, right? It’s not an exhaustive list – there could have been many more sins included.

If Malachi was alive today, his warning to us would read a bit differently. “So I will come to put you on trial. I will be quick to testify against, drunkards, greedy shopaholics, sex/pornography addicts, lovers of violence, foul & filthy language, worshippers of sports, celebrity idolators, etc.” He would name different sins, but the sin doesn’t matter – it all does the same damage, trying to gain the upper hand and lead us off the path of righteousness along the path of selfishness that leads to permanent separation from God. 

So Malachi’s message then, along with the other OT prophets, along with John the Baptist, along with any Jesus-loving, Bible-treasuring believer today, is the same: return. For example, listen to just one other Old Testament prophet,  Hosea. “Return, Israel, to the Lord your God. Your sins have been your downfall! Take words with you and return to the Lord. Say to him: “Forgive all our sins and receive us graciously, that we may offer the fruit of our lips. Assyria cannot save us; we will not mount warhorses. We will never again say ‘Our gods’ to what our own hands have made, for in you the fatherless find compassion.” Who is wise? Let them realize these things. Who is discerning? Let them understand. The ways of the Lord are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them” (Hosea 14:1-3,9). Return to God. As often as it takes, return. Get back on track and don’t step too freely and frequently on that other path so that it becomes comfortable. Return to grace, return to goodness, return to God. 

That’s really just another way of saying “repent.” We often think of repentance as being a call to get our act together and stop sinning so that we can somehow make ourselves presentable before God, and that he’ll will be happy with us as a result.

But if we know the gospel, then we know that God’s happiness with us isn’t based on our repentance or lack thereof; it’s based entirely on what Jesus already did for us. So we don’t return to God in hopes of winning his affections; we return to God because we already have God’s affection. And don’t let sin and Satan fool you – they cannot ever offer you anything better than what you already have with God because of Jesus Christ. 

God says to you through Malachi, “Return to me, and I will return to you” (v.7b). Is there a better gift than that permanent promise? God’s returns are the best gifts. He returns his messengers to us as often as we need to hear their message. He himself will return on the Last Day to make all things new. And in the meantime he give us the gift of returning to him through repentance, and attaches to it his promise to never turn away from us when we do. 

When it comes to your Christmas gifts this year, hang on the ones you like. Return the ones you don’t. It doesn’t really matter. But what does matter is that you don’t miss out on the best return gift of coming back to God again and again. That’s his gift to you, and it’s the key to A Real Christmas.