DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Positive Influences

Almighty God,
Thank you for the leaders you have placed in my life to shape me into the man I am today, and to continue influencing me as I grow and mature. You have given me parents, coaches, teachers, pastors, family members, and many others who have left a great impression on me over the years. Lead me to express my gratitude to them for the way you have used them to leave such a positive impact in my life. 

I also want to follow in their footsteps and be a blessing to younger men who need positive role models. Display in me the characteristics of a godly man to provide them with a solid example. Where I fall short, let me model repentance and my own need for grace and forgiveness, so others see the power of the gospel at work through me. In these ways and many others, use me to demonstrate that strong Christian men are first and foremost followers of Christ.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Patience With the Unbelieving

Saving Lord,
Grant me wisdom and patience when dealing with those who don’t believe. When they are friends and family, let me be especially aware of how my day-to-day words and actions might shape their view of my Christian faith and more importantly, how they see you. I never want to be an obstacle in their way of seeking and ultimately finding you. 

When they mock me or make things difficult for me because of my faith, strengthen me to bear up under it and not to be shocked by any unbelieving behavior. Instead, use my resolve and unwavering faith in you even in the face of ridicule to leave them with a favorable impression of what committed faith looks like. Remove any fear or reluctance I might have in speaking the truth in love to them, especially when I have opportunity to point them to their Savior. In the Holy Spirit’s perfect timing, use me in any way possible to bring them to faith in you.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Stop Following Your Heart

(Mark 7:1-8, 14-15, 21-23)

Strong leadership is always going to be extremely valuable. Prior to COVID, an estimated $370 billion was spent on leadership training. Successful companies include leadership training in their annual budgets, and for good reason. It has been estimated that the ROI for leadership training is $7 for every $1 spent. Strong leadership can often be the difference between an organization flourishing or floundering. 

Companies and organizations aren’t the only entities who value strong leaders; so does God. Throughout history, God has raised up strong leaders to guide and direct his people and to oversee his church. Joseph’s leadership skills saw him rise to being the second most powerful man in all of Egypt, which God used to bless Joseph’s family and the establishment of his chosen people, the Israelites. God used Moses’ leadership skills to confidently challenge Pharaoh face to face and to navigate the Israelites’ exodus from Egypt and journey to the Promised Land. David’s leadership skills showed themselves in war and in worship as God used him to rule over his people. Paul’s leadership skills in relentlessly sowing the seeds of the gospel through his mission trips and church planting could not be questioned. God has always raised up strong leaders to serve his people. And each of those strong leaders also share another quality that had as much to do with their successful leadership as anything else: they were exceptional followers.

While leadership is valued tremendously in the world, not as much is made about the importance of following well. In Christ’s church, however, it is essential. In fact, with Jesus Christ as our Savior-leader, the head of his church, a case could be made that the church never has a leadership problem as much as she has a followership issue. Where the church struggles or stumbles, it is not a lack of leadership or direction – our Good Shepherd provides that. Rather, it is a lack of faithful following or downright foolish following on the part of the sheep (and those leading the sheep). So as we work through this series, The Need for Followership, with the Lord himself as our leader, we pray for the Spirit to raise us up as strong followers.

If we are to grow in our capacity as followers, the church is a great place to start, because the world’s track record when it comes to equipping people to follow is rather poor. I base this conclusion on what is some of the worst – and sadly most widespread – advice that’s out there: just follow your heart. This is bad advice for a number of reasons; here are three of them.

First, it’s emotionally driven. It’s feelings-based. Now feelings aren’t bad, but making decisions based on them is unwise. Why? Because they change. Every one of us here has experienced the regret of having done or said something in the heat of the moment that was entirely emotionally driven. Later, when we weren’t as emotionally charged, we found ourselves having to do damage control for a situation that would have never gotten out of hand if we had not let our emotions get the better of us. So “just follow your heart” is bad advice because being emotionally healthy means managing your emotions rather than letting them manage you and your decisions.

The second reason “just follow your heart” is bad advice is because it’s driven by selfishness. True, while the decision you are likely struggling to make primarily affects you, it almost never only affects you. People belonging to God realize that we are here to love and serve our neighbors. That means we give consideration to how our decisions affect our neighbors. We don’t just dismiss or disregard others in making decisions, but like Jesus, consider the needs of others even before ourselves. So “just follow your heart” is also bad advice because it doesn’t take into account how my decision may affect others, what serves the common good, or what my neighbor needs from me (side note: ironically, as we lament the lack of social concern and compassion for others in out society, is it any wonder where this is coming from when we encourage everyone to follow their own heart and do what is best for themselves?).

The final reason “just follow your heart” is bad advice is that your heart is a horrible navigation system! There are plenty of navigation apps out there: Google, Apple, Waze, and others. We all have the one we like for a number of personal reasons. But I can bet you this: no one would keep using a navigation app that gave them the wrong directions 100% of the time. To keep relying on that source for direction or guidance would be foolish! 

In his interaction with the Pharisees from Mark 7, Jesus seeks to show them how misguided the heart is as a navigation system. Jesus peels away their outer veneer of venerability and exposes the real issue.

The Pharisees always serve as a good reminder for us of what happens when religion becomes a platform for performance. They had a reputation for adhering to rules and fancied themselves so good at it that they made up extra ones, a good number of which were traditions handed down from previous generations. Having become so wrapped up in themselves and enamored with each other’s daily displays of righteousness, they would immediately recognize when other supposedly religious folks dropped the ball in observing this custom or that rule. 

So when the disciples, dared to eat food without ceremoniously washing beforehand, the Pharisees jumped all over it. They were caught red-handed! Their hands were defiled! How dare they! Eating with your hands and not ceremoniously cleaning them first was a big no-no in their book.

Not out of compassion or caring concern, but because they were interested in discrediting Jesus as a respected rabbi by pointing out what a disgrace his disciples were, they called Jesus out. “So the Pharisees and teachers of the law asked Jesus, “Why don’t your disciples live according to the tradition of the elders instead of eating their food with defiled hands?” (v.5).

Jesus’ interaction with the Pharisees gets to the root of the issue. Look at the source of their concern. They did not reference the Law or the Prophets – the Word of God available to them in their day – but rather “the traditions of the elders.” Their man-made rules carried more weight than the God-given words of Scripture.

Jesus responded quite differently, not referencing man-made traditions, but highlighting the Word of God by quoting one of its prophets. “Isaiah was right when he prophesied about you hypocrites; as it is written: ‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. They worship me in vain; their teachings are merely human rules’” (vs. 6-7). They had come to Jesus convinced that his disciples were in the wrong, but Jesus would make sure they didn’t depart without knowing how wrong they were. Jesus showed them something they needed to see. The issue was not the outward failures of his disciples, but the inward flaw in their own hearts. 

In quoting Isaiah, Jesus also has something to say to us. How does one honor God with lips while hearts drift far away from him? That’s what happens when we are going through the motions. Two people can both show up on a Sunday morning, and one is there to pay lip service to God while the other is there, longing to be served by God and to praise God from a heart of faith. I can do the things God calls me to do as mere obligation rather than opportunity to love, serve, and thank him. I can render my service begrudgingly because no one else will do it or I can render my service gratefully because I get to do it. I can support gospel ministry with my offerings because I am supposed to do so or because I am blessed to do so. All of those things can be done in the same exact way by two people and they may look identical externally. But God sees what’s going on internally, and it’s a Cain-and-Able-type difference! Hearts are in drastically different places!

The awareness that Jesus sought to bring to the Pharisees is the same awareness that we need today. We so naturally gravitate toward the outward stuff, too. Outwardly, we can compare our highlight reels with the everyone else’s lows or bad days. That keeps us feeling pretty good about ourselves. That keeps us convinced we’re above average, doing better than most. That puts us… right where the Pharisees were. So we need not the traditions of men, but the Word of God, to direct us to the real issue. 

And Jesus does just that. “For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come…” (v.21). Jesus’ words challenge our narrative that the evil in this world, and even that of which I am guilty, is a product of my surroundings. It’s “out there.” It’s someone else’s fault. It’s simply my response to the real issue, which is always some outward occurrence. My upbringing is to blame. The workplace environment is at fault. However we choose to spin it, Jesus stops the wheel, jams his index finger right into our chest and bluntly states, “Wrong. Your heart is the source of evil. It isn’t out there; it’s in here. That’s the problem.”

Ouch! There isn’t a more painful reality or realization than what Jesus reveals to us here: we are the problem! Our hearts are far from whole or holy, but instead are filled with holes, defiled and deficient, and incapable of the true holiness that God requires.

How did the Pharisees and teachers of the law response to Jesus’ charged accusations? They didn’t like the message so the planned to get rid of the Messenger. They rejected his words, rejected his teachings, and set their wicked hearts on getting rid of the One who exposed them. 

But grace moves us in a different direction. The confidence of faith, which beckons us to repentance, follows the encouragement given in the book of Hebrews: “let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water” (10:22). We own our sins, confess them, and return to God again and again in repentance, completely confident that he has cleansed our hearts of evil. Having purified them and made them holy, he gives us new hearts that cannot get enough of Jesus and long to love and serve him and follow him in faith.

That heart is not naturally found in any of us. Rather, it is graciously given through faith in Jesus. The apostle Peter said it like this: “God, who knows the heart, showed that he accepted them by giving the Holy Spirit to them… for he purified their hearts by faith” (Acts 15:8-9).

“Just follow your heart” is good advice… to avoid at all times. Here is much better advice: follow Jesus’ heart for you. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Honor and Respect Women

Wonderful Creator,
In your wisdom you created men and women, uniquely designed not only physically, but in how we think and feel as well. Thank you for the joy of discovering and delighting in those differences! 

While we have different roles that compliment each other beautifully, our fallen world too easily views those differences in terms of inferiority and superiority. I confess that I am guilty falling into this trap, too. Forgive me and bless me with the sacrificial, servant heart of Jesus, so that I look to women and to serve them, rather than to be served by them. Let my attitude toward women be filled with respect and admiration for all they do. Lead me to honor them with my words and actions. Use me to protect and care for them whenever possible. Help me always to hold them in high regard. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For God-Pleasing Thoughts

Holy Spirit,
One of the greatest blessings unique to mankind is our capacity for thought. I am able to reflect on events from my past and hope for future plans, to get lost in my imagination or ponder my present realities. These can be wonderful things. But, they can also be distractions, or worse, lead to dark places that end up producing bad fruit in my life. Without the new man raised up in me through faith in Jesus, my thoughts would so easily be controlled by the evil one. 

But in Christ I am empowered to direct my thoughts toward what is good and God-pleasing. Therefore, guard my heart and guide my thoughts. Keep what is impure, hateful, violent, and greedy far from me. Allow my thoughts to be Spirit-guided so they are in alignment with your will. Let your Scriptures permeate my thinking so that all words and actions that flow from my thoughts clearly reflect that I am walking in your light.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Make a New Connection

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. Worship is the highlight of the morning, but Sundays are also the one opportunity of the week that brings together the most members of my church family. While I value some of those relationships more than others and we may share a deeper bond, because everyone in the body of Christ matters to you, they also matter to me. 

Move me to step outside of my comfort zone this morning and introduce myself to someone new. Whether it’s a long-time member or a guest, give me the courage to make a new connection. Use me as a conduit to provide whatever might be needed to that individual. In turn, let me be open to any blessings you may be looking to grant me through them. Foster more of these kinds of connections among us, as they help build up and strengthen the body of Christ, while also glorifying you.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Care for Your Gifts of Body and Life

Holy Father,
The Ten Commandments are intended to be a blessing, not a burden. You have given us the precious gift of life, as well as marvelous bodies to carry out your will and your work in this world. While your grace and mercy compel us to protect your gift of life and to care for it, so often my own selfishness puts my body and life and the bodies and lives of others at risk. I neglect the care of my own body, disregarding what I eat, and making choices that put my health at risk. My body is a temple, and I dishonor you when I fail to properly care for it. And, while I may never have taken anyone’s life physically, since you view hatred toward others on the same plane as murder itself, I am guilty. 

You, on the other hand, valued life so much that you gave up the life of your only Son for the lives of all others. Having been spiritually raised up from the dead to this new life, now give me that same appreciation for life and the opportunities you give me to care for and to protect my own life and the lives of others. Help me to see and to embrace all the ways I can honor and serve you and others with my body and life.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Stay Focused

Dear Father,
There are so many distractions in this world that make it more challenging than ever just to stay focused. Some of these distractions are my own fault, while others are the product of living in such a distracted world. So much around me is vying for my attention, and too often I succumb and give in. It can be frustrating when I can’t accomplish the task at hand because I struggle to stay focused. 

Guard me from the weakness of permitting distractions as a means of procrastination. Help me identify possible distractions and give me the discipline to remove them whenever I need to focus. Where helpful, give me the wisdom to break down bigger tasks into smaller steps so that my need to focus is more manageable. Bless my progress by allowing me to see and to celebrate the results achieved through my focused efforts.  

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Appreciate Discipline

Gracious Father,
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but later on it produces a harvest of righteousness (cf. He. 12:11). When I am in need of correction or rebuke, thank you for placing others in my life who are willing to provide it. As hard as it might be to receive, help me accept it with open ears and a humble spirit. Provide me with the insight and awareness to see the good that you intend to come through it. 

When your discipline involves times of trial or testing, give me the patience to bear up under it and the perseverance to endure. When I struggle to see the potential blessings during these seasons of life, strengthen my grip on your promise to produce righteousness on the other side of such discipline. Remind me that just as a caring father disciplines his children, so do you, my loving Father, discipline me, your son. Thank you!

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

The Bread of Life: Dine or Dash?

(John 6:51-69)

What are the most terrifying words in the Bible? You might think of Jesus’ teaching about hell and weeping and gnashing of teeth, where he describes a place and experience that we would not wish on even our worst enemy. You may have your own section of Old Testament Bible History that has always left you unsettled or uneasy. Maybe snippets of Paul’s letters come to mind, sections where he describes in detail some of the suffering and hardships he endured as a result of his faith.

I would like to add a verse from John 6 to the list of terrifying words in the Bible. It’s right there in verse 66. “From this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him.” What is it about that verse that is so terrifying? I would point to the word “disciples.”

You see, it would be much more palatable if John had informed us that those who turned back were those who were searching or questioning and no longer followed. Or if those who turned back were those who were on the fence about Jesus. Or hypocrites. Or unbelievers.

But John doesn’t use any of those terms. Instead, he uses the word “disciple.” In other words, these were individuals who had, up to that point, chosen to follow Jesus. And then sadly, these are the same ones who at this point made the conscious decision to stop following Jesus. 

I wonder… might there be some reading this very post who have chosen a similar path, or are possibly dangerously close to doing so? There was a time in the past when Jesus and his church were a central part of your life. Maybe as a child growing up in a church-going home. Possibly as a teenager or young adult active in a local church’s youth ministry. Or you came to faith later in life as an adult. 

But then something happened. I suppose in many cases it wasn’t some big event, but rather a slow drifting away. Let’s also acknowledge, though, other scenarios that did leave their mark. A humiliating or even traumatic experience. A big change at church that was the straw that broke the camel’s back. A false teaching – or maybe just an offensive one. Whatever it was, that was the point when you, one of his disciples, turned back and no longer followed him. Or for others, perhaps that point hasn’t yet come, but it’s right around the corner for you if something doesn’t change.

So there are still many today who would fall into the category John was describing of those who turned back and no longer followed Jesus. That response prompted Jesus to ask if his Twelve disciples had similar intention; if they too, were planning to walk away.

Peter, always the vocal one, hit a home run with his response. “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God” (v. 68-69). There is nothing terrifying about that response! Peter was listening to the same Bread of Life teaching that the others had heard, and to him, going elsewhere wasn’t even an option. It would have been ludicrous to do so when the source of eternal life itself was standing right before him!

Let’s take note of two general responses to Jesus’ teaching. The first reply from many of the disciples was, “This is a hard teaching. Who can accept it? (v.60). But Peter said he had “come to believe and to know that [Jesus is] the Holy One of God” (v.69). Even as drastically different as those two responses were, neither one argued that Jesus’ teaching was unclear. No one said it was confusing. No one claimed it was too complicated and that they needed help understanding it. No, they said it was “hard.” 

What was hard about it? It was hard because Jesus was saying that in eating him, in dining on the Bread of Life, he is to be our greatest priority. He is to come before all else in our lives.

It was hard because the Jesus who is about grace and love and compassion… is the same Jesus who has something to say to us about how we should live, how we should manage money, who we should sleep with, how much we can drink, how we should forgive those who wrong us, etc.

It was hard to let go of all other preconceived ideas of what religion or getting right with God was all about. It was hard because all of those in some capacity involved our effort or participation.

But Jesus’ teaching shot all of that down! Jesus said, “Nope. Just me. I’m all you need. Let go of your pride that insists on knowing better than I do what is best for your life or earning your own way or that you are somehow in a more deserving category than someone else. Put all of that behind you and see that I alone am the way to eternal life. All me. Only me. Not you.” See, that isn’t complicated or complex!

But it is hard. 

Not to Peter, though. To Peter, it was easy. And, if you’ve been listening to what Jesus has been saying in this whole teaching in John 6, one of the most worthwhile teachings of Jesus to wrestle with, it was reasonable. It was logical. It made perfect sense. 

Does it surprise you that faith could be described in those ways? Peter wasn’t overthinking things. He listened to Jesus and applied what Jesus was saying. If one listens to what Jesus says about himself, the claims he makes, the invitation he extends, Peter actually drew the most logical conclusion. If any of Jesus’ words had any merit, then it would be crazy for anyone to dismiss him and turn somewhere else. To draw any other conclusion about Jesus’ words, one would have had to be willing to have Jesus admitted to a mental hospital as someone struggling with multiple personality disorder or who had clearly lost his mind. Because Jesus’ teaching is not complicated or complex.

But it is hard. 

Until faith comes into the picture. Jesus said it this way: “‘The Spirit gives life; the flesh counts for nothing. The words I have spoken to you—they are full of the Spirit and life.’ He went on to say, ‘This is why I told you that no one can come to me unless the Father has enabled them’” (vs.63 & 65). Yes, faith in Jesus is reasonable. It is logical.

But it is also a gift, a gift that can be received only through the Holy Spirit, only when in humble submission I set aside my arrogance and let Jesus be who he claims to be in my life: my only Savior from sin and my only assurance of eternal life.

When by faith I know that Jesus, the Jesus who forgives all sin and welcomes with open arms all who know they need him, the Jesus who loves unconditionally and loves harder than anyone else, when that Jesus is the focus of my faith and the bedrock of my belief, that which seemed to be so hard becomes much easier. 

One of those challenging elements of faith in Jesus that becomes easier to grasp is how faith in Jesus relates to the role of his church. A gap has grown in recent years between the perception people have of Jesus and the perception they have of the church. Regardless of how familiar they are with him or how well they know him, people still tend to have a very positive opinion of Jesus. His church, however, has not sustained that same image. What used to be viewed as a respected and appreciated institution, one that played a pivotal role within communities, has seen its once favorable reputation steadily decline.

This is sad. Why? Because too often it has been justified.

When an institution, and more directly priests or pastors like me, betray a trust and abuse it for selfish and even sinister motives, shame on us. When we as Christians have by our own words and actions earned the reputation of dismissing or diminishing society’s neglected, the marginalized, victims of injustice, or anyone in need, shame on us. When Christians are more concerned about chastising than charity, shame on us. When we as Christians have hypocritically stood in judgment of certain sins while cozying up to other sins, shame on us. When we as Christians have cared about protecting an established institution more than proclaiming the good news of Jesus’ peace, hope, and salvation to the lost and condemned, shame on us.

But, if we can be honest and transparent enough to own those sins, can we also be honest and transparent enough to admit that the church’s reputation isn’t always tarnished because it does the wrong thing; sadly, it also happens when the church, when Christians, are doing the right things.

When Christians firmly stand on the teachings of Jesus even when his teachings aren’t popular, good for the church. When the church recognizes that its responsibility is to govern God’s kingdom with God’s Word, and lets the secular government govern the worldly kingdom with the laws of the land, realizing those two very different purposes, good for the church. When the church rightly realizes the good news of Jesus is for all people, regardless of how different we all are or how uncomfortable others may make her feel, good for the church.

When the church is doing those things, good for the church. And if the reputation of the church continues to decline when it is carrying out its work properly, the problem isn’t with the church, but with those who insist on being offended by her. When that happens, there is no place for pretending to hold to Jesus while rejecting her church, because the two are inseparable. The church is the body of Christ. And to be offended by the church carrying out her business as Jesus calls her to, is to be offended by Jesus himself. 

Did you catch Jesus calling that out in his dialogue? He asked the question in a very straight forward manner. “Aware that his disciples were grumbling about this, Jesus said to them, ‘Does this offend you?’” (v.61). Look how ahead of his time Jesus was! In this day and age, where everyone is concerned about being offended and giving offense, Jesus would fit right in!

But it wasn’t Jesus’ church that had done anything wrong when he asked the question; it was his own teaching that came from his own lips. So Jesus acknowledges that even when his words are proclaimed and his teachings continue to be passed on, even by imperfect Christians like us and imperfect pastors like me, there will still be be those who are offended. 

So let us consider this: will you be one of them? Will you be so offended by Jesus, who by his perfect life, death, and resurrection in your place and in mine, claims to be your Savior? Will his teaching that you and I are sinners in need of his salvation so offend you that you, like many of the disciples at the close of Jesus’ teaching, turn away from him, perhaps even attempting to draw less attention to it by claiming that it’s his church you’re turning away from, and not him? 

Or, will you, as Jesus invites all of us to do, continue to draw closer to him by feeding ourselves the Bread of Life, by filling up with more – not less – of Jesus through his Word? His promises and blessings are assured for all who choose not to dash, but to dine on the Bread of Life. If that is your choice, please realize that is precisely why congregations exists. It is exactly what we are here to do: help each other nourish our faith with the Bread of Life. 

Suppose you were on an expedition with a group of highly trained professionals. This expedition put your life at risk. At every stage, at every turn, there are dangers that threaten not only your physical health, but your very life. Imagine that one of those threats catches you off guard and you somehow are separated from the rest of the expedition.

At that point, what are your feelings about the rest of the group in the expedition as it relates to your specific situation threatening you? Do you hope that the expedition forges ahead without you, plugging onward to carry out the mission, and that hopefully you’ll eventually get yourself out of your sticky situation and catch up with the rest of them? Or, do you hope and pray that they quickly discover you’re not with them, backtrack on a brief search and rescue mission, and eventually come to your aid?

I’ve just described for you one of the tremendous blessings of belonging to a local congregation. Our congregation is not a community of comparison. We are not here to stand in judgment of others or diminish those who aren’t where we are in our walk of faith.

We are an expedition, navigating our way together through an ever-challenging world that has far more risky and dangerous threats than any earthly adventure; the kind that can damage our soul and compromise our eternity. And it makes all the difference to know that I am surrounded by those who will drop everything for a search and rescue mission when any one of us is threatened. There are many things in the world that are terrifying; Jesus’ church should not be included among them. 

We’ve considered some of the most terrifying words of the Bible; let me now close with some of the most comforting. There are so many of them, but let’s be sure to include these words of Jesus himself: “I am the living bread that came down from heaven. Whoever eats this bread will live forever. This bread is my flesh, which I will give for the life of the world” (v.51). Feast on Jesus, the Bread of Life, and you have nothing to fear.