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When God’s Not Part of the Plan

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(Judges 9:1-25, 46-57)

I wasn’t planning on leading a group of 50 hikers to the top of Mt. San Gorgonio (11,500 elev.) this past week at Good Shepherd Bible Camp, but that’s what ended up happening. In hindsight, one of the biggest takeaways for me was the importance of planning. Making sure everyone stays in their group, has enough water and snacks, and knows what to expect is hugely important. 

As we continue our series in the book of Judges this morning, we also see how important planning is. Actually, not just planning in general, but planning that involves God. Or, as in the case this morning, what it looks like when God’s not part of the plan.

Previously in our series on the book of Judges, the Lord spoke to Deborah. The Lord also came directly to Gideon. Today, we see that the Lord did not come to Abimelech; neither did Abimelech seek out the Lord. And, while the time of the Judges can in general be characterized as a spiritual dumpster fire for the Israelites, Abimelech takes us to a new low. As we look at his particular cycle of the downward spiral of Judges, he shows us quite clearly what happens when God’s not part of the plan. 

Before we go any further, we have to address this reality: sometimes non-believers have it really good in life. Maybe that’s no news flash to anyone here, but we need to acknowledge and understand that so we don’t walk away this morning with the wrong idea that so long as God is in the picture, then life is a dream; if he’s not, then it’s a nightmare. It just isn’t true! Some non-believers have a fantastic life and many believers have one burden to bear after another. Why doesn’t God make life more miserable for the non-believer? There are two different ways he can use an abundance of earthly blessings for his eternal purposes. In one case he might desire that his kindness and generosity lead the non-believer to repentance (cf. Romans 2:4). He might also use an abundance of worldly blessings to lead the non-believer that much sooner to the conclusion that worldly wealth without the Lord is ultimately meaningless (cf. Ecclesiastes). So even when he’s good to the non-believer, his goal is still very much an eternal one that has the concern of souls as its focus. 

For you and me, then – for believers, God shows us what is a general truth in the life of the Christian, based on a real promise that Jesus made in Matthew 6:33: “Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” In worldly terms, God’s generous goodness can shower non-believer or believer alike. But only a God-centered life will yield spiritual blessings and joys that can simply never be experienced when God’s not part of the plan. 

In Abimelech’s case, things got off to a selfish start. There is a noticeable distinction between this account and the two judges we have looked at previously. In each of their cases, God was a part of the dialogue with Deborah and Gideon. But he is nowhere to be found in Abimelech’s case – except when being rebuked by someone else. Abimelech wasn’t concerned about God’s wishes or will for his life – he wanted power, and he had a plan for how to secure it. With a little political prowess, he convinced the people of Shechem that they’d be better off being ruled by just one ruler – him – than some sort of divided rulership made up of his 70 brothers. Furthermore, since his mother was Gideon’s concubine from Shechem, he appealed to flesh and blood – he was one of their own! He went to the people and said, “Which is better for you: to have all seventy of Jerub-Baal’s sons rule over you, or just one man? Remember, I am your flesh and blood” (Judges 9:2). Abimelech’s plan was not guided by God in any way whatsoever – he got off to a purely selfish start.

How many times have we been stumped at that stage – the very beginning – because we, too, were far more interested in pursuing our plans rather than seeking God’s counsel on what he would have us do? Simply because we have faith in Jesus does not mean that it’s a given that we seek God’s guidance. A person may have saving faith in Jesus that ensures them a home in heaven, while also largely ignoring God’s guidance or direction for the better part of life. It may not be a matter of not knowing what God would have them do in a situation, but a consistent failure to actually act on that, to intentionally align their life with God’s guidance and direction. So while they see Jesus as Savior, he’s often left at the kiddie table when significant life decisions are being made. When a Christian considers a job offer or relocation opportunity without giving thought to the proximity of our nearest church, how much was God really a part of that plan? When I choose words or actions that dishonor God for the sake of my own popularity or attention, is God really a part of that thought process? When in general our approach is to plan first, then pray second and seek God’s blessings on our plans after we’ve decided what we want to do, is God really a part of those plans, or are we simply treating him like the stamp of approval we’d appreciate in order to move forward with our plans?  

Look at the result of Abimelech’s failure to include God in his plans. His selfish start resulted in godless gain. The citizens of Shechem pledged their allegiance to him with their checkbooks. What did Abimelech do with the money? “They gave him seventy shekels of silver from the temple of Baal-Berith, and Abimelek used it to hire reckless scoundrels, who became his followers” (v.4). He hired thugs. He assembled a gang. It wasn’t as if Abimelech’s fine reputation had earned followers genuinely or that soldiers would be willing to valiantly die an honorable death for him. No, he paid punks to push people around. 

And that’s exactly what they did. But it wasn’t just bullying or scare tactics that he had his men carry out; he authorized them to murder his own flesh and blood. At his dad’s house no less, he turned a stone into a slaughterhouse where he put to death almost all of his brothers. Only Jotham, Gideon’s youngest son and Abimelech’s youngest brother, escaped.

Ever notice how things rather quickly go from bad to worse when we do them our own way and God’s not part of the plan? Abimelech had established himself as a commander of criminals who had committed murder. After that, his little brother who had escaped his execution efforts proclaimed a pronouncement of judgment on him. We notice something else about Jotham’s prophecy against Abimelech: it’s the first time God is mentioned in the account. What Jotham essentially prophesies is that each of the parties involved in this whole shameful account – Abimelech and the people of Shechem who supported his rise to power – would get burned by each other. And that was exactly what happened. God turned the people of Shechem against Abimelech and they ended up throwing their support behind an adversary, Gaal, who was happy to bad-mouth Abimelech and welcome his dissenters (read through verses 26-45 of Judges 9 for those details). Long story short, Abimelech squashed Gaal and his men, forcing the people of Shechem to secure themselves inside the tower of the very same temple from which they first withdrew their financial support for Abimelech. There, trapped inside the tower, Abimelech burned alive a thousand men and women. But as he pressed on to the next city, where he encountered more citizens secured inside a tower, a woman lifted a millstone over the edge of the tower and cracked Abimelech’s skull, ultimately resulting in his death. 

Has it happened that way for you? Perhaps not to the extent of how it ended for Abimelech, but have you experienced things going from bad to worse when God was left out of the plans? A job offer or relocation that didn’t consider the location of a new church family results in at least a season – prayerfully not an eternity! – of drifting away from God. A greater concern over what others think of me than honoring God with words and actions results in sin becoming less black and white and more in the gray area as I justify my choices. I make my plans and then pray for God to bless them instead of praying for God to guide my process of planning in the first place and wonder why things seldom seem to work out the way I had hoped. Things can quickly, or sometimes even worse – very gradually – go from bad to worse when God’s not part of the plan. Abimelech’s story may hit frightfully close to home if we go the same route.

The fact that it hasn’t already, and that we can learn from this account in Judges, is a testament of how desperately God works behind the scenes to keep you as his own, even when we have allowed him to become an afterthought. This is grace: even when God’s not part of our plans, we’re always a part of his. Think of how often we include others in something with the expectation that they’ll do the same for us. We give someone a Christmas card only because we got one from them, or just to see if they’ll send one to us if we send one to them. We operate under the assumption that others will reciprocate our thoughtfulness when we include them. God didn’t wait for us to include him in our plans, but included us in his from eternity. From eternity, his plan of forgiveness and salvation included you, and nothing you can do will compel him to alter or change his plans. Jesus came on the scene to secure God’s plan for you. 

Abimelech raised himself up. Your Savior lowered himself. Abimelech appealed to flesh and blood to garner support. Jesus became flesh and spilled his blood to show you his love. And still today he gives his own flesh and blood for you in the Supper. Jesus was everything that Abimelech was not. Jesus was everything that you and I are not. No one in the world will ever devise a greater plan than God’s plan to save, a plan that included you. Your eternity is secure because his plan included you. Do you think it might be beneficial if more of your plans include him?

Hope for When Others Want to Mess You Up

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(Matthew 2:1-18)

It is one thing for us to find hope in the mess of things that are messy just because that’s a part of living in a messed up world with messed up people and plans. But what about when messed up people and messed up plans collide together specifically to mess us up? How do we handle it when we’re no longer in the realm of dealing with messy generalities but intentional efforts to mess us up? What do we do when it feels like we’re stuck in the real-life version of Home Alone, trying to fend off one attack after another from the bad guys? How do we find hope when others deliberately and intentionally desire to make our lives difficult, miserable, and unmanageable?

In the verses from Matthew today, Herod managed to take “malicious” to new heights. Not only did he seek to manipulate the magi and their honorable intentions of worshiping Jesus, but in his malice Herod intended to murder the Messiah, giving his insidious executive order to “kill all the boys in Bethlehem and its vicinity who were two years old and under” (v.16). That’s messed up! How twisted and insecure does someone have to be to go to those lengths to destroy other people’s families and lives? 

For Joseph and his young family though, God directly intervened to disrupt Herod’s plans to mess up the Messiah. “When they had gone, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream. ‘Get up,’ he said, ‘take the child and his mother and escape to Egypt. Stay there until I tell you, for Herod is going to search for the child to kill him.’ So he got up, took the child and his mother during the night and left for Egypt, where he stayed until the death of Herod” (v.13-15). That’s certainly one way to do it – for God to miraculously intervene and thwart the plotting and scheming of others to do harm! And we’re especially grateful he did in this case, particularly because it allowed his own plan of salvation through Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection to be carried out for our benefit!

But how realistic is it to expect God to do the same for us? What if our story doesn’t involve an angel visiting us in a dream to guide us to the right solution? When we’re waiting for some “sign” from God to help or direct us when others are plotting and scheming against us and God seems distant or disinterested, what then?

We will come back to this. Before we do, we need to address what is most often the biggest challenge when it comes to others having it out for us. If we can learn to deal with this challenge, we’ll find that the vast majority of cases where others want to mess us up will suddenly start to subside. It’s not easy to do, and in fact many, many people refuse to ever deal with it, but it has the potential to make the biggest impact on others having it out for us. Do you want to know what the biggest difference maker is?

It’s not what; it’s who. And that who… is you. You are the biggest problem when it comes to others having it out for you, because you allow a different story to be told in your head that doesn’t match up with reality. You have a whole drama played out in your head – an entire novel or movie script, sometimes! – of what you think is going on… and more often than not, there is little to no truth to it. You allow yourself to fill in the unknown details of the narrative with your own interpretation, and frankly, what you’re telling yourself in your own mind is just not the least bit true. There is no basis for it, other than that you have chosen to tell yourself this thing or that thing, and so you believe it to be true. 

The coworker didn’t do that because she’s trying to ruin your life. Your neighbor didn’t say that to mean it in the way you took it. Your family member may enjoy getting under your skin once in a while, but he actually has other priorities in his own life than making yours miserable. There is no hater hell-bent on destroying you. There is no “universe” conspiring against you. This can be a tough pill to swallow, but – precious few other people are thinking about you as much as you are thinking about you. Sorry. You’re just not that important.

Why do we so quickly presume others have it out for us? Because we are sinfully bent toward playing the victim. “My problems are someone else’s fault.” “I deserve to be happy.” “Other people owe me something.” The key to solving this problem is to start realizing you’re the one causing it. Some of you will start to be in a far better place just by realizing this. Why? Because you get to put an end to it. You can choose to stop making up the drama in your head that is not reality in anyone else’s world but your own. You can start to realize, as Paul did in our Second Lesson today, that you aren’t actually a victim; you’re a victor in Christ. He wrote: “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us” (Romans 8:37). Think about it – this is actually much easier to fix than if someone else really does have it out for me because this I can control. How I handle it is up to me. I can play the victim, or I can realize that in Christ I am the victor.

So how do we know if we’re just guilty of playing the victim or if someone else really does want to mess us up? One way to keep this from happening is to review each word or action the other person took and see if there is any possible way we could reframe it, putting the best construction on it instead of the worst. When we do that we often end up coming to a rather rational explanation for the words or actions of others that didn’t actually have any ill intent at all! Or, simply talk to the other person about it. That, too, might clear up an awful lot. Or, share your concerns with a third person to provide an outside perspective if we’re misreading the situation. Any of these steps will likely reveal more often than not that someone else isn’t actually gunning for you at all.

But… what about when they legitimately are? I said we’d come back to it, so what about cases when someone legitimately wants to mess me up… like Herod in our text today? That was real devilish scheming! Purely evil intentions! How do we handle when the drama is real and not just imagined in our own minds? I’m going to give you three short-term first steps to take and three long-term steps that may take a little longer and be more of a challenge. 

Your first three short-term steps: 1) read, 2) pray, 3) share. Do you know what separates the good sports teams from the great ones on any level? It isn’t necessarily that they’ve got the best talent, although that certainly helps; it’s that they execute the basic fundamentals extremely well. Can we say that about theses three spiritual disciplines? Do we execute the fundamentals extremely well? Do we read the Word daily – are we dialed in to God devotionally as a non-negotiable every day? Or is it sporadic? Occasional? Sometimes? If I remember? Recall the bitter pill of realizing that no one else thinks about you as much as you do – that you’re just not that important? Well, there’s one exception: God. God thinks about you. Constantly. You are and always will be important to him. He lived and died for you to forgive you and claim you as his own. He rules everything for you. But if you’re not reading about his love and devotion for you daily in his Word, you forget about it, you doubt it, or you take it for granted. Read the Bible. Every day. 

And pray. When others are trying to mess you up, take it to God in prayer. In fact, combine these first two steps by praying through the Psalms – the psalm writers are rich with examples of others trying to mess them up and they then unload those burdens on God. Don’t just sing about taking everything to God in prayer; actually do it! Pour out your heart to him and confide in him. 

Then do the same with your brothers and sisters in Christ: share. When we enlist the help of our community of Christians, not only do we find more support to hold us up when attacked, but we can multiply the prayers being offered up on our behalf. We are reminded we aren’t alone. When we neglect to share with others it’s like choosing to take on Satan and his army alone instead of rallying our fellow soldiers to do battle with us. Share – with each other, with your elder, with me, so that we can be there for each other when others want to mess us up. 

In addition to these three short-term steps – read, pray, and share – here are three long-term steps that may take some more work: 1) run to God for rest and refuge, 2) love your enemy, 3) thank God for the good he’ll bring out of it.

Your ability to carry out this first one is going to be tied to the level of consistency in your devotional life. The more you read the Word, the better you get at resting in God. Give God the opportunity to be the rock and refuge he claims to be. When we are hard pressed and others are legitimately conspiring against us, aren’t those exactly the times it would make sense to find our refuge in the Lord? When else do we need refuge but from a threat or an attack? Seems like the perfect time to seek out the Lord’s promises of refuge, a refrain so common in the Psalms as if to almost be forgotten in its familiarity. When others are trying to mess us up, doesn’t God promise protection? Deliverance? So let us run to him first – not last. Not as a last resort only after we have exhausted every other possible solution we could imagine. Go to him first for refuge. He will put your problem in perspective. As he bends his ear to hear your worry and concern about others having it out for you, don’t be surprised when he reminds you of how harmless your enemy is compared to The Enemy, our adversary, Satan. When God then reminds you that he crushed Satan’s head by the death and resurrection of Jesus, wonder no more if he can also handle some temporary, earthly threat to your physical or emotional well-being. He has removed the greatest possible threat to you for time and eternity by his victory over the devil. Know then that there is not any human being who poses any sort of the same degree of threat in your life. Run to God for rest and refuge.

That will make the second step of loving your enemy easier to do. This one can be so easily overlooked. We get so focused on the one trying to mess us up that we forget he is the very person Jesus calls us to love. He is my enemy! God is actually giving me the opportunity to carry out what he calls me to do rather than what I want to do: fix it and put an end to it. Maybe what God wants instead is for you to grow in your ability to love your enemy, and that’s why he keeps allowing them in your life. In that way God wants to use you to bless your enemy – by loving him or her! How do you get better at this? Get better at the fundamentals – the first three steps – as well as the first step of resting in God, and you’ll find loving your enemy starts to come more easily. 

Finally, thank God on the front end for the good he’ll bring out on the back end of your trial. Recall Joseph’s – not the Joseph of our Lesson today, but Genesis Joseph – reflection upon being reunited with his brothers. He acknowledged their intent to harm him, to mess him up. But what carried more weight for him was that he knew God brought good out of it. He will for you, too. So don’t wait until it happens to thank him – start thanking him now, in the midst of the mess others are trying to make of your life. 

Read, pray, share, then as you are able, run to God for rest and refuge, love your enemy, and thank God for the good he’ll bring out of the trouble others try to cause in your life. May these steps help us to find a renewed joy this week as we celebrate the birth of Jesus, and how a gracious God either thwarted or used to his advantage every plot and scheme against his Son to allow him to save us from every mess, both now and for eternity.

Hope for Messed-up Plans

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(Matthew 1:18-24)

If we had to choose just one of the themes throughout this series as an appropriate caption for 2020, this morning’s might be it: the year of messed up plans. Back still near the beginning of the year in March, children had to adjust their plans to accommodate online learning from home while adults across the board learned to work from home. Remember being hit at Easter with the reality of not being able to worship in a sanctuary filled with lilies and flowers (maybe some with allergies didn’t miss it!)? High school and college graduation plans needed to be altered. Summer vacation plans changed. Back to school plans were up in the air until the last minute. Thanksgiving plans and Christmas plans, together with many time-honored traditions, have been tweaked or set aside. This is the year of messed-up plans!

Such messed-up plans can be like riding a rollercoaster. Some people love them, while others can’t stand them. Some of us may actually handle the unexpected ups and downs and roll with them quite capably, occasionally even finding them thrilling, appreciating the spice and spontaneity last-minute changes bring. But those same ups and downs make others nauseous and fill them with anxiety. Those who crave routine and structure and familiar schedules have really struggled with messed-up plans. But even this year has tested the limits of everyone, even those who typically handle messed-up plans effortlessly. 

Yet as hard as 2020 has been, we also have to acknowledge that sometimes messed-up plans are our own fault. Sometimes we fail to plan anything at all. We talk about what we hope will happen or what we want to happen but never set a single step toward completing any goals or plans. Other times our plans just flat-out stink. We plan poorly or don’t seek the counsel of others or of God. And sometimes we even go directly against God’s will when we know better, downplaying it as no big deal or justifying it in this case or that one. In these cases should we be shocked when a dumpster fire results? Of course not – the messed-up plans were our own fault!

But what about when plans were made – and made well! – and didn’t violate God’s will, and they still didn’t turn out the way we had hoped or expected? When this happens, we sometimes draw the wrong conclusion from it: that if it didn’t happen the way we thought it was supposed to, then it must not have been God’s will. We interpret a messed-up plan as a clear indicator that it somehow opposed God’s will. This or that didn’t happen, so we shake it off and tell ourselves and others that it wasn’t what God wanted, because otherwise, it would have worked out. Of course, we don’t draw the same conclusion when bad things happen to people, that God clearly must have wanted it to as part of his plan. But we have no problem applying that logic to when something good that we have planned doesn’t come to fruition – then God must not have wanted it to happen. 

Consider a current issue to help see how flawed it is to presume God’s will or plans on the basis of how ours play out. One Christian has been fervently praying for a vaccine to put an end to COVID, knowing that vaccines have been a blessing in many ways to help eradicate certain diseases in the past. Another Christian, however, who has researched the possible risks of vaccines, has been fervently praying for some solution that doesn’t require her to be vaccinated. Which one was correctly praying for God’s will? Do we wait until there is a clear-cut “winner” to determine which Christian was praying for the right plan of God and which one was praying for the wrong one? 

No – whether or not our plans play out as we had hoped is not the clear sign from God that a plan was or wasn’t aligned with his will. What we DO know about God’s will is clearly recorded for us in his Word; apart from his Word, though, it isn’t our place to try to determine his plans. One plan may work out and God may bless it accordingly; another plan may not work out and… he may still bless it accordingly! His plans are not dependent upon ours; rather, we’re much better off binding our plans to his. But what DO we know when it comes to plans? We know this: our failed plans don’t deter his faithful promises. The backstory of Jesus’ birth shows us that. 

How’s this for messed-up plans: planning to get married and finding out your bride-to-be is suddenly a mother-to-be as well, even though you know with 100% certainty (because you paid attention in biology class) there is no way you are the father? Welcome to Joseph’s world! Whatever plans he had for his dream life with Mary were suddenly out the door! And so, as messed-up plans require, Joseph adjusted his. “Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly” (v.19). He didn’t want to see Mary’s name dragged through the mud, but that didn’t mean he was going to be played for a fool and stay in that relationship, either. His plans were messed-up, so he made different ones. He may even have concluded that since Mary had gotten pregnant and he wasn’t the father, it must clearly have been God’s will for him not to follow through with his marriage plans.

But he would have been wrong. For just as soon as Joseph had in mind to change his messed-up plans, God had a way of changing Joseph’s mind. “But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins” (v.20-21). Suddenly it turned out plans weren’t as messed-up as he thought; rather, God had been involved in the planning process all along!

Stop there for a moment. Does that help us realize that when our plans go south, it doesn’t necessarily mean that God’s have? No, it could very well be that God’s plans involved your plans going south all along! Do you see that in the case of Joseph? Our failed plans don’t deter his faithful promises. How many times in your life has a plan fallen apart or something undesired and unexpected soured it like spoiled milk… only to see a greater good result from all of it in the end? Do you remember the stories around 9/11 of people missing flights or having to miss work that morning – wouldn’t those classify as messed-up plans? Yet, many of them are still alive today because of those messed-up plans! How many other stories like that, if even on a much smaller scale, have we experienced? Again, our failed plans don’t deter his faithful promises. 

When the disciples got wind of plans to put Jesus to death, they wanted none of it. What if they had succeeded in their plans? What if Peter’s mighty swing of his sword in Gethsemane the night before Jesus’ death had been enough to dissuade the enemies from capturing Jesus and later crucifying him? Thank goodness Peter’s plans were messed up – that allowed God’s plans not to be! His messed-up plans didn’t get in the way of God’s carefully measured-out plans.

In fact, God’s carefully measured-out plans have been taking place in the midst of our messed-up plans ever since the very first one! God didn’t need Adam & Eve to take a do-over and get it right the second time when they messed up in Eden. He revealed his plan right in the middle of the mess! When Abraham and Sarah hatched their Hagar plan to fast-track God’s promise, their mess of things didn’t derail God’s plan. Not even the nation of Israel’s waywardness and unbelief, resulting in their exile from the very birthplace where the Savior was to be born was enough to botch God’s plan from being carried out! He masterfully managed all the major players in foreign kingdoms to allow a remnant of Israelites to return to their land so that at just the right time, the Savior could be born. 

From Joseph’s perspective, everything was just a mess, but from God’s, it was just right. It was just right for God not only to direct his plans from behind the camera any longer, but to insert himself into the action as the drama unfolded. He ensured the plan could not fail by not only drawing it up and keeping it on track throughout history, but also by carrying it out personally, taking it on himself to complete his plan and cement our salvation. He used angel messengers, a trusting virgin, a devout husband, and himself to complete the plan. God himself played the key role, taking the plan from the manger to the cross, attaining the perfection we needed by his holy life, and paying the price for our sin by his undeserved death. And so he leaves us with hope in the mess, the reality of righteousness and the certainty of sins forgiven. 

God is right this very moment carrying out his plans in your life… even when your own plans are messed-up. He can work in a messed-up world, with messed-up people, lamenting messed-up plans. His plans don’t require our plans to work out; rather, we ought to rejoice that even when our plans don’t work out, his still do. And they will continue to until the final phase of his plan is carried out and Jesus returns. When that plan is finalized and followed through to its end, there will be no more mess. 

It’s going to be a different Christmas than anyone could have planned 12 months ago. But only in regard to our plans. Regarding God’s plans, his plans are still right on track. He delivered the goods on the first Christmas when Jesus arrived on the scene, and his plan is still being carried out as he works through his church – believers – to bring hope for everyone.