DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Grace-Filled Speech

Dear Lord,
The gift of speech comes from you. As you demonstrated at the Tower of Babel, you are more than capable of correcting us when we take your gift of speech for granted or use it to defy or oppose you. At Pentecost, you also proved that language barriers and speech itself will not keep your work from being carried out as you determine. 

Speech can be used to destroy and tear down or to defend and built up. Help me to be thoughtful in my speech, pausing first to consider whether my own motives are pure or not. Then, help me discern how my words may be received by others before I open my mouth. Remind me that my comments or responses are not always necessary, and if they aren’t constructive or beneficial, it may be best simply to leave some things unsaid.  Direct me to speak well of others and to speak kindly, and let my words be a blessing to others. Guide my speech so that it is always marked by positivity and grace.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Spiritually Strong Fathers

Perfect Father,
Being a father isn’t easy, but it is one of the most influential roles in determining the development of children. Those without a father figure in their lives struggle in predictable ways as they grow into adulthood. Those with a neglectful, abusive, or otherwise bad father in the picture suffer significant damage as well. 

Raise up spiritually strong fathers to take the lead in raising their sons and daughters. Let them be powerful examples of humble faith in action. Let their children see them thrive in their relationship with you, Father. Through faith-filled fathers, show children what it looks like to be a child of God. Lead fathers to model sacrificial care and compassion for their children through how they treat their wives. Help fathers prioritize spending time with their kids. Let them be lovingly firm in their discipline, taking ownership of training their children in what is right and wrong in accordance with your Word. Use them to model repentance for their children, and to show them grace and forgiveness in abundance, as you have to all fathers. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Let Go of Control

Mighty Ruler,
Each day is filled with a variety of events. Some of those events are repeated and familiar, while others are new and unexpected. Some of them affect me directly or indirectly, while other events will have little or no effect on me at all. 

And, while I am responsible for my own actions, remind me that I am not ultimately the one in control. When I forget that and imagine that my decisions and actions are the sole predictors of everything that will happen, I am only deceiving myself. When I believe the lie that I am the one in control, I am inclined either to puff up with pride over every beneficial outcome, as if it was my own doing, or get caught up living in an endless loop of regret, imagining all the different scenarios that could have played out if I had just done something differently in that past. 

I am not in control, Lord; you are. Humble me with that reminder so that I can find real peace, not in pretending that I am in charge, but rather in the calm confidence that comes in trusting that you are. You promise to work out all things for my good. Let me rest in that assurance – something that I can actually control. Grant me contentment in managing and controlling how I respond and react to the events around me, and may that always be with patience and grace, so that I reflect you to others. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Embrace the Gift of Repentance

Faithful Jesus,
Repentance is one of those religious words that has gotten a negative reputation. To some degree, that reputation is understandable, as repentance includes taking a good look at ourselves and owning up to our shortcomings and sin. However, such a reputation may also stem from too many billboard, picket, and sandwich signs that have framed repentance as a term of hate-filled hellfire and brimstone. 

Help me to see repentance for what it truly is, Lord: an invitation to find rest in your work without insisting on my own. My natural way is to pick the path of my own choosing that I think serves me best rather than relying on your rest. But any path I choose on my own only takes me further away from you. 

Your gift of repentance opens my eyes to see the need to turn off my own path and follow you, the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Since sin continually entices me to step off your path, I daily need – and want – to repent and return back to you as often as necessary. I can be confident of the same response on your part every single time I repent: when I return to you, you promise to return to me. In fact by faith, I see that you never turned away from me in the first place, and never will.  

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

God Gives Return Gifts

(Malachi 3:1-7b)

It’s good business for retailers to have a good return policy, since anywhere from 15% to one-third of Christmas gifts are returned. However, since those returns also amount to hundreds of billions of dollars in purchases needing to be refunded in, one might think retailers would make returns difficult or at least very inconvenient for shoppers. But one reason it pays for retailers to have a good return policy is that shoppers are more likely to buy from them in the first place. In other words, when purchasing gifts for others, if a retailer doesn’t have an easy or favorable return policy, shoppers are less likely to buy from them and will take their business elsewhere. Another reason to have a favorable return policy is that those returning gifts to the store from which it was purchased are more likely to spend their refund – and perhaps a little more – in that same store. So it bodes well for retailers to have good return policies. But shops and stores aren’t the only ones focused on handling returns; so was the prophet Malachi.

Malachi’s whole message is all about returns. While he isn’t the most well-known prophet in the Old Testament, Malachi does have the distinction of being the last one recorded. After the book of Malachi, the Lord silenced his notifications for about 400 years until Jesus’ birth, after which point the Holy Spirit picks up pen again through the New Testament Evangelists and writers and resumes recording the truths of his Word for us again.

Malachi served long after the era of patriarchs and kings in Israel. He was a messenger to the Israelites who had returned from their exile in Babylon. But, since things weren’t as magical as the Israelites expected them to be once back home, they took issue with God. The message recorded for us in Malachi is a back and forth between God and the Israelites, with their complaints directed at God, and God’s response, which essentially amounted to, “You are no different from your ancestors; you are the problem, not me. Return to me and I will return to you.”

He isn’t talking about returning gifts after Christmas, though. He’s got more important returns on his mind, and wants to make sure that God’s people do, too. So what are the returns Malachi mentions?

The Lord’s messenger will return.

The Lord himself will return.

The Lord’s people are called to return. A real Christmas is all about the returns.

The Lord’s Messenger Returns

The first return will be of the Lord’s messenger. “I will send my messenger, who will prepare the way before me” (Malachi 3:1a). About whom was Malachi speaking? He is none other than John the Baptist. But wait. Why do we speak of John the Baptist’s arrival on the scene as a “return”? Because Malachi pictures him metaphorically as Elijah, one of God’s well-known and respected past prophets who lived and served in the past during the time of Israel’s monarchy. In one of the final verses of the whole Old Testament, picturing the arrival of John the Baptist, Malachi writes, “See, I will send the prophet Elijah to you before that great and dreadful day of the Lord comes” (Malachi 4:5).

John the Baptist, the second Elijah, returned for a very specific purpose: to prepare the way. In the Christian Church year, the Second Sunday in Advent always focuses our attention on the messenger who came to prepare the way for someone greater. That was John’s role, he was well aware of it, and he carried it out faithfully. Another prophet, Isaiah, foreshadowed John’s work by illustrating the type of preparatory work that would need to take place in hearts to be ready for the Savior (cf. Isaiah 40:3-5).

The Lord Returns

Through John the Baptist, God prepared his people for another return: his own.“Then suddenly the Lord you are seeking will come to his temple; the messenger of the covenant, whom you desire, will come,” says the Lord Almighty. But who can endure the day of his coming? Who can stand when he appears?” (Malachi 3:1b-2b).”  This “return,” so to speak, from Malachi’s perspective, looked ahead to two fulfillments: Jesus’ first coming and his return on the Last Day. 

While we spend a significant part of our lives in anticipation of our Christmas celebration each year, we are celebrating an event that already took place 2000+ years ago. God already came into our world in the flesh when Jesus was born. Malachi, along with so many other messengers in the Old Testament, looked ahead to that day, but we look back on it. For them it was an anticipation of a future event to come. 

In that regard, we can relate to the anticipation of a future event to come when we speak of Jesus’ return on the Last Day. Just as Malachi’s audience in his day understood his words to speak of a coming event, so we see his words also referring to a coming day, when on that Last Day he appears again for judgment, and the question is asked, “Who can stand?”

When Jesus returns on the Last Day, it will be as a judge, and he is right to ask “Who can stand,” based on the evidence stacked against the Israelites. Malachi exposes them. “‘So I will come to put you on trial. I will be quick to testify against sorcerers, adulterers and perjurers, against those who defraud laborers of their wages, who oppress the widows and the fatherless, and deprive the foreigners among you of justice, but do not fear me,’ says the Lord Almighty. ‘I the Lord do not change. So you, the descendants of Jacob, are not destroyed. Ever since the time of your ancestors you have turned away from my decrees and have not kept them’” (Malachi 3:5, 7a).

Indeed, who can stand before the Lord with all that evidence stacked against them? Here is the good news. That day of Jesus’ second and final return, Judgment Day, even with all the sin stacked against mankind, will not be be a day of dread for those who by faith receive the work Jesus did when he came the first time. 

Malachi described that work, too, using pictures to illustrate why the Lord would have to return to his people and the work he would come to do in Jesus Christ. “For he will be like a refiner’s fire or a launderer’s soap. He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver; he will purify the Levites and refine them like gold and silver. Then the Lord will have men who will bring offerings in righteousness, and the offerings of Judah and Jerusalem will be acceptable to the Lord, as in days gone by, as in former years” (Malachi 3:2c-4).

Jesus came first to refine and purify, to wash away sins and make us presentable before God. Now we can stand! Jesus came to bring the righteousness we needed and to remove the sins we didn’t. Since we have been made holy by faith in Jesus, we have nothing to fear when thinking about standing before the Lord at his Second Return.

That day will be radically different from his first coming, where joy was initially confined to a local hillside among a group of shepherds on a hillside and an angel chorus. The whole world will be the audience when Jesus returns, and the outcome for all people at that return will be entirely dependent upon what each individual believes about Jesus’ first coming at Christmas, and his perfect life, death, and resurrection that follows. 

But until that day, here we stand, sandwiched in the middle. In the past, the Lord returned to his people when Jesus was born into this world on Christmas. In the future, Jesus will return on the Last Day. How do we spend our days in the meantime? The same way. By returning. Returning back to God. 

Our Returns

Why is that such a priority? Because Satan and sin do not take days off. They do not stop doing everything possible to turn you away from God permanently. We already saw the evidence Malachi presented in verse five, but when we read through a list like this, it might be natural for us to presume it’s referring to someone else – those wayward Israelites. But we must know better, right? It’s not an exhaustive list – there could have been many more sins included.

If Malachi was alive today, his warning to us would read a bit differently. “So I will come to put you on trial. I will be quick to testify against, drunkards, greedy shopaholics, sex/pornography addicts, lovers of violence, foul & filthy language, worshippers of sports, celebrity idolators, etc.” He would name different sins, but the sin doesn’t matter – it all does the same damage, trying to gain the upper hand and lead us off the path of righteousness along the path of selfishness that leads to permanent separation from God. 

So Malachi’s message then, along with the other OT prophets, along with John the Baptist, along with any Jesus-loving, Bible-treasuring believer today, is the same: return. For example, listen to just one other Old Testament prophet,  Hosea. “Return, Israel, to the Lord your God. Your sins have been your downfall! Take words with you and return to the Lord. Say to him: “Forgive all our sins and receive us graciously, that we may offer the fruit of our lips. Assyria cannot save us; we will not mount warhorses. We will never again say ‘Our gods’ to what our own hands have made, for in you the fatherless find compassion.” Who is wise? Let them realize these things. Who is discerning? Let them understand. The ways of the Lord are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them” (Hosea 14:1-3,9). Return to God. As often as it takes, return. Get back on track and don’t step too freely and frequently on that other path so that it becomes comfortable. Return to grace, return to goodness, return to God. 

That’s really just another way of saying “repent.” We often think of repentance as being a call to get our act together and stop sinning so that we can somehow make ourselves presentable before God, and that he’ll will be happy with us as a result.

But if we know the gospel, then we know that God’s happiness with us isn’t based on our repentance or lack thereof; it’s based entirely on what Jesus already did for us. So we don’t return to God in hopes of winning his affections; we return to God because we already have God’s affection. And don’t let sin and Satan fool you – they cannot ever offer you anything better than what you already have with God because of Jesus Christ. 

God says to you through Malachi, “Return to me, and I will return to you” (v.7b). Is there a better gift than that permanent promise? God’s returns are the best gifts. He returns his messengers to us as often as we need to hear their message. He himself will return on the Last Day to make all things new. And in the meantime he give us the gift of returning to him through repentance, and attaches to it his promise to never turn away from us when we do. 

When it comes to your Christmas gifts this year, hang on the ones you like. Return the ones you don’t. It doesn’t really matter. But what does matter is that you don’t miss out on the best return gift of coming back to God again and again. That’s his gift to you, and it’s the key to A Real Christmas. 

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For the Word and Those Who Speak It to Me

Sanctifying Spirit,
Your Word is everything. It holds the key to salvation and eternal life. It guides and directs my steps for this life. It shows me how to worship you with my whole life and equips me to love and serve my neighbor. Your Word is priceless!

But as you so often do, you go even further. Not only have you given me your Word, but you also place caring Christians in my life as your messengers to communicate and apply your Word to me. You provide parents to train me to know and love your Word. You give pastors and teachers to preach and teach the Word, helping me understand it. You sprinkle believers out all over the world both to spread the Word and bear witness to it everywhere. You place Christians in the spotlight through prominent platforms that allow them to publicly praise your name. You surround me with Christian friends and my church family who are willing to rebuke and admonish me, or to encourage and uplift me, meeting my spiritual needs through them. Your Word is a treasure – and so are the people you’ve placed in my life to regularly bring it to me. Thank you!

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Christ-Centered Worship

Holy Father,
Sundays are sacred. In Christian freedom, we have the flexibility to enjoy many different styles and preferences for worship. The patterns or formats may vary. There are different types of music and many unique instruments on which to play. Worship arts and multimedia can be incorporated to enhance or emphasize certain elements. Preaching and teaching can reflect different approaches to communicating the Word of God. There is much variety in worship and there are many gifts to utilize. Thank you for this freedom!

Let us also use that freedom wisely. Let us appreciate your worship gifts not just as novelties to experiment with or trends to follow, but as resources to support the goal of highlighting the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ our Savior. Worship done well is carried out with an excellence that displays the redemptive words and works of Jesus with beauty and clarity. Bless all Christ-centered worship and refocus all worship that isn’t, so that you, Lord God, might be glorified through your Son, and we might be edified as well.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Lead Others to Their Savior

Saving Lord,
You remind us repeatedly in your Word that everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved. Your gift of salvation and your desire to save are the heart of Scripture and what binds it all together. I rejoice that I am numbered among those you have saved!

But there are many who still do not know of your desire to save or how you went about securing their salvation. How easily I allow this reality to get lost in the busyness of life and buried beneath other priorities!  You have placed many people in my life, and I regularly meet and engage with new people, but their salvation often isn’t even on my radar.

I pray for you to change that. Keep the salvation of others at the forefront of my heart and mind. Don’t allow other things – even good things – to overshadow the most important thing: that as many as possible come to know and believe in you as their Savior. Use all that I am, all the time, resources, and gifts that you have entrusted to me, to lead others to the joy of their salvation. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Use Me to Provide for Those in Need

Providential Father,
We make Christmas lists for gifts that will undoubtedly spill out in abundance from under so many trees this year. We put much thought into the gifts we are planning to give others. Bless these gift exchanges with genuine generosity on the giving end and appreciative hearts on the receiving end.

Let me also remember the many who are without basic needs. Concern over their lack of necessities overshadows their thoughts of presents and gifts. Open doors for me to personally meet these needs as I am able to. Use my plenty to provide what is lacking for them. Grant me as much satisfaction in being a blessing to those in need as I find in giving gifts to those who are already blessed with so much. As I provide for the needs of others this year, may they come to see me as a conduit of your providential love for them.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Manage My Emotions

Patient Lord,
This time of year can be one that is filled with tension and stress. On top of the normal daily to-do’s, there are additional deadlines and added responsibilities at home, work, and school. All of these factors provide ripe opportunities for impatience to creep in and for my temper to flare. 

I ask you, therefore, to help me be aware of all this so that I am actively managing my emotions well and not letting them get the better of me. As I sense my irritability levels rising and my patience running thin, I know I need to take control of my thoughts and redirect them to thoughts of peace and serenity. Place your Word and many rich promises on my heart at those times, so that I may find refuge in them even when everything around me feels chaotic and out of control. By your Spirit, keep me calm and in control of my thoughts and emotions. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.