DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Fathers in the Home

Heavenly Father,
We address you as “Father” in the Bible, not only because we are your children by faith, but also because in you we see the perfect model of what fatherhood looks like. Today I pray for your blessing over fathers. Open their eyes to see the magnitude of their role in the raising of children. Because our culture has disparaged and downplayed dads and masculinity in general, it has resulted in too many fathers tip-toeing around their roles. Raise up strong fathers to embrace and lean into their responsibilities, using them to model for their sons and daughters the intangible qualities that are unique to them.

Use fathers to teach children what sacrificial living looks like. Use fathers to demonstrate what devoted commitment to a spouse looks like. Use fathers to provide discipline that is both loving and firm. Use fathers as a picture of strength, security, and safety for children. Use fathers also to model what humble contrition and repentance look like, depicting for their children what treasures your grace and forgiveness truly are. Love fathers deeply, that they may in turn lavish that same love on their family and children.  

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Home & Family

Loving Father,
Through Adam & Eve you established the first marriage and home. As a result of the fall, homes have been crumbling apart ever since Adam & Eve. Your plan called for the home to be a wellspring of blessing for all, but too often we see trauma and tragedy flow from it instead. Marriage is minimized or mocked, parenting is neglected, and children are either idolized on one extreme or ignored on the other.

Forgive us for allowing our homes and the families inside them to be such poor reflections of what you intended them to be. Guide us along paths that will successfully restore the home to a place of protection, nurture, and loving, patient discipline. Allow commitment – not fleeting feelings – to be the anchor of marriages. Equip parents to love their children by teaching them to obey and respect those in authority. Bind siblings together through their special bond to build up and encourage each other. Lead families to celebrate milestones together, to be there for each other, and to be a force for exemplary good in their neighborhoods and communities. For all of this to happen, Lord, let your Word dwell richly in as many homes as possible. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For the Opportunity to Worship

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. Thank you for the freedom and accessibility to gather for worship regularly. In the United States, it is easily taken for granted that we have an abundance of Christian churches at which we can worship. While their theology varies, the blessing of even being able to hear the Bible read is not a given in parts of the world. You also provide the freedom to worship without fear of repercussion or threat to our physical lives. Finally, you even provide multiple means of transportation that enable us to attend worship in person. Lead us to demonstrate our gratitude through our frequent attendance, and strengthen and stretch our faith through your Word as it is read, preached, and served through the sacraments.  

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Peace and Calm

Prince of Peace,
Be present with me when I am feeling anxious and unsettled. Sometimes when I experience these feelings, I know exactly where they’re coming from; other times, though, I can’t determine the source of them or understand why they spring up. Whether or not I know their cause, however, I know that you are the solution. 

When I feel like I am not in control of any given situation, calm my uncertainties with the assurance that you are. You promise to weave everything in my life for my eternal good. When I am worried, take my worry and make it captive instead to a stalwart trust in your providence over all of creation and in my individual life. Replace my worst-case scenario thinking with a fear-shattering faith that is eager to see the blessings you are able to bring out of every circumstance. Let my confidence of your governance over all things cover me with a blanket of peace and calm. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Your Protection

Almighty God,
Thank you for the many ways you provide me with protection on a daily basis. There are so many standards and safeguards incorporated into things like construction permits, product manufacturing, transportation & travel, and so much more, that are all designed with people’s safety in mind. Though so few of them are ever even on my radar, thank you for them!

I also thank you for the people who serve in so many different capacities to offer me protection and care. Our military protects our nation from foreign and domestic threats. Police are dedicated to protecting and serving citizens from danger, often putting their own lives on the line. Firemen, too, put their lives at risk to rescue lives and extinguish burning buildings and wildfires. First responders can often be the difference between life and death for those seriously injured. ER doctors and nurses make life-saving decisions in an instant. As I reflect on all of these ways by which you guard and protect me, I am filled with gratitude. Thank you, Lord!

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Those Grieving Sudden Death

Loving Savior,
Be with those experiencing the sudden, unexpected death of a loved one or dear friend. While we have the confident hope of eternal life for fellow believers, the surprise of such a loss can feel like a sucker punch, leaving us gasping for air. When someone’s physical presence no longer fills a home, it feels empty. When their unique mannerisms disappear, a piece of the normalcy in our lives disappears, too. When their catch phrases or common sayings are no longer expressed at the moments we expect them, we are painfully reminded they aren’t here with us anymore. 

Dull the sting of death with the assurance of reunion through the Resurrection. Replace pain with your peace and direct heavy hearts to the light yoke of rest we have in you. Surround grieving family and friends with a support system of caring individuals to listen and to comfort as needed. Over time, shift the sadness of loss into gratitude for the time of life that was shared and spent together. Through the precious promises of your Word, bring healthy healing to all who are hurting and console and restore weary spirits as only you can.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Curb Perfectionism

Holy God,
I want to give my best in all that I do for you. However, sometimes my desire to do things well reaches unhealthy perfectionist tendencies. When I allow perfectionism to take hold, it can become crippling. Even more dangerous, perfectionism can be a form of idolatry when my purpose and priorities hinge on it. 

Help me to maintain a healthy balance between striving to do things well and being consumed with perfection. Guide me to manage time, energy, and resources to match expected outcomes so that I am not investing more than is required or necessary for any given responsibility. Let me find satisfaction and contentment with simply doing my best with the time and resources allotted. Free me from the bondage of my own perfectionism and lead me instead to find peace in your perfection on my behalf.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Follow with Family

(Ephesians 5:21-6:4)

On my last sermon post we were reminded of the importance of embracing that followership is not a solo act. As much as it might feel like it at times, as Moses experienced, we aren’t ever actually following Jesus alone. Following Jesus is done together, and our own followership is better off when we not only remember that, but also take advantage of it. That, by God’s design, is one of the great blessings of belonging to a local congregation, of having a community of believers to follow together.

But – also by God’s design – your church family isn’t even intended to be your first line of defense or system of support in following Jesus. That role belongs to your family. And, while our family makeup may vary widely from one person to the next – married or single, blended or traditional, children or no children, adopted or biological, etc. – these words from Ephesians speak to each of us wherever we’re at. That’s because in one role or another, we all belong to family. Furthermore, strong families that are faithfully following Jesus together are going to have an impact that stretches well beyond the home and into the community.

In other words, I am not just blessed by my own family following Jesus; I am blessed when yours does as well. Together, we can collectively raise the bar in our community and absolutely extend Christ’s Kingdom in the process. Let’s give our focus and attention to what that looks like, and commit to raising the bar of followership in our homes.

As we do, we encounter an unexpected plot twist, the kind of surprise that leaves our jaws open and our eyes widened. We didn’t see it coming. We couldn’t have anticipated it. It catches us completely off guard and totally changes our perception of everything.

If this section of Scripture has not yet hit you in that way, I pray that it does this time. I hope that the five words we find tucked inside these verses will leave you with a totally different perception.

Of what? Not just of marriage, but also of the church. Those five words are at the start of verse 32: “This is a profound mystery…” And, following those words are the unexpected twist that we didn’t see coming: “but I am talking about Christ and the church.” 

For those to sink in, we need to step back and revisit what it is we think Paul is writing about here. That would seem pretty obvious, wouldn’t it, just on the basis of the titles leading verses 22 and 25 – “wives” and “husbands.” OK, we’re obviously talking about families, and more specifically, the foundation of family – marriage, right? 

No. Not just marriage, anyway. Something much more profound – a mystery actually. But one that marriage helps us understand: the relationship that Christ has with the church, the connection every believer has with Jesus.

So marriage is much more than just bringing a man and a woman together to start a family; marriage helps us better understand the whole gospel that is the basis of our relationship to Christ. And our relationship to Christ, in turn, helps us better understand the blessing of marriage.

It all begins with a word that everybody loves to hate: the word “submit.” It’s a word that makes us bristle and cringe. No fallen sinner is born into this fallen world immediately seeking to place himself beneath someone else, which is what it means to submit. It’s not natural. The rebel in me refuses to envision a life that is better off when someone else tells me what to do or calls the shots!  

If we’re ever going to shift our perception of that word, it will only ever happen by linking it inseparably with the last word in the same verse: “Christ.” “Submit” and “Christ” must always remain connected, because submitting to Christ is nothing more than a faith that knows and needs what Jesus has done for us. What is that? Paul spells it out so beautifully: “Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless” (v.25-27). 

Paul helps us grasp the cleansing work of Christ by using the familiar picture of stain removal. What Jesus did for us is successfully manage to permanently remove that stain that we thought was never in a million years going to come out, no matter what trick we tried. The stain is completely gone – no remaining discoloration, not a trace of it left! 

To submit to Christ is to lay claim to everything he has done to leave me blameless and blemish-free, to have every stain of sin scrubbed out, to have every wrong washed away, and to replace my unholiness with his holiness. See how different that word submit is when connected to Christ – it makes all the difference in the world. 

Without a right understanding of it, the family fails to function as God intended. Instead of the training ground God intended family to be, it becomes a dumping ground. Husbands will twist their leadership role into a self-serving dictatorship. Wives will never see how God intends to bless them through the leadership of their husband and will continually push back against it. Children will never see how God intends to bless them through boundary-setting parents who care enough to discipline them and nurture them with law and gospel, while modeling grace in abundance. These things will be foreign to the home that does not grasp the infinite blessings – literally, by the way – of submitting to Christ. It is everything. 

When we make the connection that submission to Christ has nothing but our best interest in mind, then we can embrace the roles God has given us within the family. Now if we followed Paul chronologically in these verses, we’d start with the wives, then move on to the husbands, and wrap up with the children. But we’re going to start with the role that is foundational to all others: the husband’s role. Why does this matter? Without sounding overdramatic, everything else hinges on how the husband carries out his role. The home in which the husband succeeds in carrying out the essential role God called him to is a home that will thrive. In that home, through the sacrificial leadership of the husband, a wife and children will find the service, security and support they crave to carry out their respective roles. 

To emphasize this, I need to make a rather blunt statement: contrary to what our culture communicates, men and women are not equal.

Now that I have your attention, allow me to clarify. Here’s where they are equals. Though not there yet, men and women should be equals in terms of wage equality – whichever sex is getting the job done should be paid on the basis of job performance and not on the basis of biological sex. Men and women are equals in terms of the blessings they bring to a marriage and to the family. Men and women are equals in terms of sinner/saint status: we are sinners who need a Savior. Men and women are equals in terms of being on the receiving end of God’s love and mercy.

But where mean and women are not the same is in regard to the role and responsibility that God has given to each. Equals can have different roles. Different. Not superior and inferior. Not greater and lesser. Not demanding and demeaning. Just different. 

“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord” (v.22). “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church…” (v.25). “Children, obey your parents in the Lord…” (6:1). If we were just talking about husbands and wives and children as we address marriage and family, it would be one thing. But Christians are never just talking about husbands and wives, marriage and family; we’re always talking about Jesus.

So when we talk about the roles God has given to husbands, we’re doing so in relation to Jesus. When we talk about the roles God has given to wives, we’re doing so in relation so Jesus. When we’re talking about the roles God has given to children, we’re doing so in relation to Jesus. Paul punctuates that point in these verses by anchoring the respective responsibilities of each family member to Jesus! Whenever Paul lays out what we are to be doing within the family, every time he does so with respect to our faith in Jesus! We’re never “just” serving family, but always following and serving Jesus as we do so!

Consider why we are drawn to Jesus when our eyes have been opened to the Bible’s teaching of law and gospel, that we sin and need saving. Are we drawn to Jesus because of what he demands of us or because of what he had done for us? Does Jesus appeal to us because of the obedient life he demands from us or because of the innocent life he gave for us? There is no discussion or debate – we willingly follow Jesus and submit to him because of what he did for us. And both husbands and wives then carry out their respective roles as submissive head and submissive helper, not because the spouse has earned it by perfectly carrying out their role, but because Jesus did. We submissively serve our family because Jesus submissively served us.

Another way of saying it? As we focus on our roles within the family, we aren’t focusing on what the other family members are or aren’t doing to determine how we’ll carry out our roles. In fact, we aren’t even focusing on grading ourselves in carrying out our respective roles. No, we’re focusing on how perfectly and beautifully Jesus carried out his role for all of us, freeing us to find joy – not drudgery – in our respective roles, as we follow Jesus with and through our family. 

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To Give My Best

Dear Lord,
Whatever tasks I have before me today, help me to accomplish them well. While certain obligations may carry more significance than others, everything I do is an act of worship, an opportunity to give my best as a thank you for your never-ending goodness.

For that reason, help me to avoid settling for mediocrity in areas in which I can do better or even excel. Keep me from a “good enough” attitude when a little more time or effort would improve the quality of whatever I am offering or accomplishing. When I give my best not just in the big things, but the little things as well, I reflect your worth to me. As I serve others, remind me that I am serving you, and you always deserve my best.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Faithful Follow Through

As another week begins, there are always tasks to accomplish and to-do lists to check off. Whether big or small, it can often be a challenge to follow through with my responsibilities and commitments. When my thoughts gravitate toward procrastination, replace them with the drive to get things done. Help me finish what I start and not start things I can’t finish. Keep me from spinning a narrative in my own head that attempts to excuse or soften my lack of follow through. Instead, let me be honest and real with myself regarding what I can and cannot take on and accomplish. Make me disciplined in what matters most, especially anything that fosters my spiritual growth. Give me the dedication of Jesus, which he demonstrated when he resolutely followed through with every detail necessary for my salvation. 

In his name I pray. Amen.