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Listen to the Shepherd’s Soothing Voice

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(John 10:22-30)

It may crack a little bit more frequently. It eventually becomes significantly softer. It struggles to convey the confidence, clarity, and coherence it did for so many decades. But even with those changes, whether drastic or subtle, you recognize your mother’s voice. It is so strongly imprinted on many of us that long after she may have passed away, you can still hear in your mind the unique sound of your mother’s voice.

For many of us, that special voice leaves or has left such an impression on us because we associate it with the characteristic care and compassion so often connected with mothers. They nurture(d) us, took care of our day-to-day needs, shuttled us here, there, and everywhere, and regularly check in on us to see how we’re doing. So when we hear her voice, we treasure it because it evokes all of those caring qualities. 

Yet not everyone can relate to this experience. For some, sadly, the voice of their mother, if ever heard again, would be too soon. It is a voice that evokes anything but pleasant emotions or memories. Abuse. Ridicule. Impossible standards. Never good enough. Or, it may be an unfamiliar sound altogether for those who never knew their mother after being given up for adoption, abandoned, or neglected in one way or another. To some, a mother’s voice is the sound of pain.

But there is another voice. There is a voice to be treasured even more than a mother’s voice. It is the voice of the Good Shepherd. Hear his voice on this Mother’s Day and always: “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand” (v.27-28). What is so special about this voice? What is it that draws sheep to hear it? Why can we never get enough of it? 

Jesus says “I know them.” Think of how much that means to us. I was just reminded of this recently after worship. Extended family members had come along to church with one of our repeat guests. After I asked about how the family members felt about the service, guess what stood out the most? The music? Nope. The sermon? Nope. It was that I happened to remember their names after the service. It matters to us to matter to someone else that much, doesn’t it? When someone remembers our name, it means they took the time to know us. And who knows us better than the Good Shepherd? That’s part of why we long to hear his voice.

It’s also because “they follow me.” When you decide to follow someone (not in the social media sense), when really wanting to imitate or learn from someone or become like them – we are putting a lot of trust in that person. To willingly follow someone means I am trusting that person to not lead me astray or put me in harm’s way or lead me down some regrettable path. Since we don’t extend that level of trust to just anyone, it results in a deeper connection with those to whom we give it; those we willingly choose to follow. Since we trust the Good Shepherd enough to follow his paths for our life, we long to hear his voice.

And because we don’t just follow him for this life, but for eternal life, we long to hear his voice even more. “I give them eternal life,” Jesus said. We find that nowhere else! Search and study as much as we might, we will never find the guarantee or assurance of eternal life anywhere other than through Jesus. Why? Because only Jesus “give[s]” it. It is unearned. It is a gift.

We are naturally drawn to giveaways and to free stuff. Think of the last time you were at a community event or a farmer’s market. Your group split up and someone returned with a snack or a sample that they’re raving about. You ask how much it was and when they explain it was a free sample, a giveaway, you immediately ask where they got it from. We love free stuff! How much greater is the free gift of eternal life! And since it comes only through the Good Shepherd, we long to hear his voice.

But not everyone is interested in hearing that voice. Some wish to stifle it, as was the case on that winter day as Jesus walked in the temple courts. “The Jews who were there gathered around him, saying, ‘How long will you keep us in suspense? If you are the Messiah, tell us plainly’” (v.24). To be sure, they did their level best at trying to mask their intentions, but Jesus saw right through them. He knew they weren’t curious seekers in search of salvation, but that their intentions were quite sinister. They weren’t looking to hear words of life from the voice of their Good Shepherd, but rather the incriminating piece of evidence to put the final nail in the coffin of their case. They wanted to hear Jesus plainly claim to be the Messiah so they’d have all they needed to justify their pre-determined conviction of blasphemy. 

It reminds me of a humorous clip I’ve used in our membership class before. In it, Rowan Atkinson, the actor who plays “Mr. Bean,” recounts an incident in which someone out in public approached him to tell him that he looked an awful lot like the actor who plays Mr. Bean. Well, the more Mr. Atkinson claimed to actually be the actor, the more the individual refused to believe him. While he couldn’t get over how much they looked alike, the fan absolutely refused to believe that he could in fact be the actor who played Mr. Bean.

Jesus’ Jewish enemies tried and tried to get him to plainly claim to be the Messiah, yet even as he pointed to all the evidence that supported and proved that he was actually the Messiah, they refused to believe it. Why? Why were they so indignant, so set in their stubborn refusal to entertain that Jesus could, in fact, be the Messiah?

Jesus explained it for them (and for us!). “Jesus answered, ‘I did tell you, but you do not believe. The works I do in my Father’s name testify about me, but you do not believe because you are not my sheep’” (v.25-26). The problem was not with the voice, or even the Good Shepherd who was speaking, as if he had been unclear or mumbled or anything like that; no, the problem was on the listening side of the communication. Unbelieving ears are uninterested in the Good Shepherd’s voice. They aren’t his sheep.

What would happen if you ignored your mother’s voice? Typically, it does not end well. Either we find out the hard way through personal injury or the trouble we end up causing that we should have listened to mom’s voice, or mom has her certain disciplinary consequences that later on underscore that we would have been better off listening to her voice. Either way, although some are slower to learn it than others, we grow up learning that it is generally unwise to ignore mom’s voice. 

What happens if you refuse to listen to the Good Shepherd’s voice? If we aren’t being led by his voice, then we’re being led by someone else’s. And, although some are slower to learn it than others, we find out the hard way that ignoring the Good Shepherd’s voice results in a lot of unnecessary pain and hurt in life. Addiction. Adultery. Divorce. Rage. Bitterness. We don’t arrive at these things overnight, but get there by listening to other voices. The voice might belong to the world. The voice might be my own internal voice. It doesn’t matter – if the voice does not belong to the Good Shepherd or echo his, it will lead us down the wrong path of sin, away from the Good Shepherd and into danger. Every. Time.

And beyond just the worldly, temporal consequences of refusing to listen to the Good Shepherd’s voice, there are ultimately even more significant consequences. What’s the opposite of what Jesus’ sheep receive, the opposite of being given eternal life? Eternal death. What is the opposite of never perishing? Perishing in hell. Isn’t that the fate of all who are not Jesus’ sheep? If only the Jews who had approached Jesus believed the eternal warning attached to the words, “you are not my sheep!” If only people today realized the eternal consequences of those words, “you are not my sheep!”

But hear the Good Shepherd’s voice shine through in these words to his sheep. His voice isn’t filled with ultimatums for his sheep. It does not include veiled threats. It isn’t the voice of a bully or a goon coming to shake you down or manipulate you through fear or intimidation.

No, it is the tender voice of reassurance for the sheep, reassurance that sheep not only long to hear, but need to hear, because sheep are, well… sheep.

What an accurate picture for us! Sheep. How dumb we are! How slow to learn! How ignorant to think we know better! How foolish to repeat the same mistakes over and over again! How lost we sheep would be without the voice of the Good Shepherd! 

He speaks to his sheep the words we hear nowhere else. “I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand” (v.28-29). Perish? Never! Snatched out of his hand? No one can – not even the devil himself! . 

But don’t take this assurance as license to go back to being a dumb sheep who thinks there is no danger in running astray! No, stay by the Shepherd’s voice. Follow it. Be a smart sheep. Be a sanctified sheep that cares more about always being within earshot of the Shepherd, never too far away to hear his voice. Let his be the soothing voice of safety, security, and salvation.

Thank God for mothers who guided us to learn to hear his voice. Thank God for mothers who care enough – no matter how old we are! – to make sure we are still listening to the Good Shepherd’s soothing voice! 

God Calls Me a Dedicated Mom

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(1 Samuel 1:21-28)

What is “my calling.” That might be a good Jeopardy response if a contestant chose “Vocation for $500.” Simply put, your vocation is your calling. Today we begin a series that will clarify what our calling is and guide us in carrying out. While some talk about discovering their calling or feeling a calling from God, it’s actually much simpler than that. Your calling is the role God has given you to carry out right now where you’re at in life, and to carry it out in a way that serves God and others to the best of your ability with the unique gifts and responsibilities that God has given you. Are you a student – that is your calling. Employee? So is that. Single? Coach? Church member? Community volunteer? Instrumentalist? Sibling? Yes – each of these, all of these, some of these – any combination of these and so many other stations in life are what make up our calling. This morning we focus especially on one vocation: motherhood. And one doesn’t have to have children for this vocation to be worth our consideration, because none of us would be here today if not for mothers. So we appreciate the calling of motherhood from God.  

Hannah isn’t a bad mother to look at. Sadly, part of the reason she appears especially godly is because the men in the account don’t! Her own husband, well-intentioned as he might have been, comes off looking rather insensitive in his poor attempt to console her at her inability to have children. He points out that she shouldn’t be taking it so hard, because he should mean more to her than not being able to be a mother. Husbands, that’s how not to do it! Then the priest Eli, when he witnesses Hannah pouring out her soul in prayer to the Lord for the gift of a child, wrongly presumes she’s been drinking. Eli, who fails miserably at managing his own sons, assumes the worst of godly Hannah praying for a son of her own! So in stark contrast to the less than stellar examples provided by others in the account, Hannah’s godliness stands out. Her relationship with the Lord was not an afterthought. It wasn’t a means to an end. It was a priority, and it showed itself especially in the realm of motherhood.

It’s rare to see anyone with that kind of a dedicated faith-focused relationship with God. Moreover, mothers especially have the unique challenge of Satan pitting the blessing of children against God. One of the most subtle idols in our culture today is the devil’s elevation of children. While not a shock in the world, do not be naive and suppose that only the world struggles with such an idol as a child. Do not presume it is such a large leap for a child to jump from being a gift from God to becoming a gift over God. Now none of us would be terribly quick to admit that we can allow our children to become idols in our lives, but then, are we terribly quick to admit any idols in our lives? Isn’t that often the criteria that applies to something being a dangerous idol – we aren’t even aware that it is crowding out or already has crowded God out of our hearts as our first love? Or, we’re very aware of it, and will guard it tenaciously!

Children become our idols when our worlds either intentionally or unintentionally revolve around our kids. It happens when we are concerned more about their friends, finances, and future, than we are their faith. It happens when we allow their sports and their social schedules to push aside our Savior and our own spiritual growth. It happens when we spend more time worrying about their temporal life than we do praying for their eternal life. 

That’s a real danger, mind you – the idolatry of allowing our children to hold the primary place of importance in our lives. It’s one that God helped Abraham be aware of. Remember how God finally granted Abraham his own son with Sarah? That promise was a long time coming! All of God’s future promises hinged on that one child, and God finally granted him Isaac. Then, in a demand that knots up our hearts, God commanded Abraham to slay his own son and kill him. Why such a gut-wrenching request? God knew how easily a parent’s love for a child can replace a parent’s love for the Lord. That experience not only made it clear to Abraham, but it also was an opportunity to put his faith into action and demonstrate that Isaac had not replaced God as number one in Abraham’s heart.

How did Hannah – whose desire for a child was no small thing! – guard against her child, young Samuel, replacing God in her heart? She gave him away. How does a mother do that? She realizes her child is not hers; her child is His. Like absolutely everything else in this world, children belong to God first and foremost, and like everything else with which God blesses us, they are gifts on loan to be managed well. Her dedication to the Lord first and foremost was evident by her willingness to dedicate her own son in service to the Lord. She was so filled with gratitude at the gift of a son God had given her that in thanksgiving, she gave him back. It is not an easy thing to send a son or daughter away to high school like CLHS or MLS or LPS or college like MLC for possible service to the Lord in ministry, but it is one way to reflect that children are God’s gift on loan to us, and to dedicate them to possible future ministry is no small sacrifice. Hannah would have agreed.

But it isn’t just idolatry that mothers have to worry about. There’s another struggle that goes on in a mother’s heart, one that may not be so obvious to others: guilt. There is constant comparison to every other mother with children, and a natural tendency to zero in on the one other mother in the store or at the park who seems to effortlessly execute her mothering skills and ought to be teaching a “Momming 101” class somewhere. Or, when a mom thinks she may just be getting the hang of the motherhood thing, her own mom or mother-in-law deflates her with an observation or offers a “helpful” suggestion on how to handle something differently. Or, if she feels like a rockstar mothering and managing the children, feelings of failure in the marriage or neglecting her husband or not getting a job or some other perceived deficiency settles in. Guilt for mothers, whether self-imposed or brought on by others, can be crippling. So it isn’t the weight of a stroller, a diaper bag, or her child’s backpack that is the heaviest burden a mom often bears, but rather guilt. Guilt can easily outweigh them all.

Want a real solution to the danger of idolatry and the dread of guilt? Let’s talk about identity on Mother’s Day. If you are a mom, it’s easy to see that as your identity. It’s who you are. It’s where your focus is. It’s what you do around the clock. You care for your kids. You meet their needs. You schedule their appointments. You drive them around. You bandaid their scrapes. You grab their snacks. You wash their clothes and fold their laundry. You pack their suitcase. You make their bed. You do it all – you’re their mom!

But all moms are something else before they are mothers: they are daughters. And I am not talking about daughters to your own father and mother; I mean you aredaughters of the Lord. You are children of the heavenly Father. You are his. Before even the first thought of a name for your child crossed your mind, the Lord knew your name from eternity as his. Before God ever blessed you with the joy of holding a nursing infant in your arms, he held you in his heart. He chose you to be his long before ever blessing you with the status of motherhood. In Isaiah 43 he says as much: “But now, this is what the LORD says – ‘Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine’” (v.1). 

And he went to the greatest of lengths to solidify your relationship with him! He himself was born of a woman so that he might redeem women, mothers included. He perfectly honored and respected his own mother in a way no one else ever has or could, so that his keeping of the Fourth Commandment might count as our perfect track record. He loved his Heavenly Father with a holy, perfect love. He never allowed another idol to displace that love in his heart, so that his pure heart would count in the place of our own idolatry, whether a mother’s disordered love for her children before God or any other idolatry that takes root in our heart. Finally, he bore all the sin, and all the shame and guilt along with it, when he was pierced for us, crucified, and gave his life not just for his own mother, but for every mother – to guarantee that every failed mother would be first and foremost his prized daughter.

And oh, how he cared! Even in the midst of unbearable suffering and pain, his heart went out to his own mother, as we were reminded in the Gospel for today. Even then he cared for Mary, not just as his mother, but as a daughter of the Lord. He looked after her. He cared for her. He cares for you, mother. Even when your own children do not appreciate you. Even when your husband doesn’t support you. The Lord cares for you and always will, for you are his daughter. 

The right relationship with the Lord allows mothers – and all of us – to have a right relationship with others. When the Lord is our first love, we are freed to be more concerned about our child’s faith than our child’s future. My child doesn’t need me to make sure that he’s never bored by ensuring around-the-clock entertainment – my child needs Jesus. Planning birthday parties and play dates aren’t priorities – Jesus is. Coordinating amazing experiences and unforgettable family vacations for my kids right now does nothing for my child in eternity the way Jesus does. The best thing a mom can do for a child is repeatedly point that child to Jesus and Jesus’ love for their child. That way everyone wins. The child will come to love Jesus more and more, which will in turn result in the best kind of love a child can give to a mother. Mom, help your child love Jesus more than your child loves you. They’ll love you for it. They’ll get a sample in you of the dedication the Lord has for them. And they’ll see you the way Jesus’ perfect life and payment for your sin has made you to be – as a dedicated mom. Happy Mother’s Day.