DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Accountability and Encouragement

Lord God,
Your Spirit works in me the desire to do your will. My inability to follow through or carry out your will is my fault alone. Give me the humility to seek out a friend and brother in the faith to aid me in my walk, and to provide me with accountability and correction. Where my desire falls short or my discipline is lacking, use this individual to speak the truth in love to me. Establish a trust between us that allows him to tell me what I need to hear, no matter how difficult it may be, and give me the spiritual maturity to receive and accept his admonishment as it is intended: for my good. For such a relationship to bear fruit, I need to be honest and transparent with him. Give me the courage to consider and seek out someone who could serve in this way and bless each of us through this bond.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Lead Others Spiritually

Faithful Father,
You have made us your disciples by your grace, through your Word. Discipleship includes continuing to personally grow in that grace through your Word. And, as men, our discipleship also includes leading our wives and families in their growth, too. I have so much room to grow! Guide and direct me first and foremost to grow in my own personal faith, so that as I do, I am better equipped to lead others. Since discipling includes discipline, grant me the motivation and discipline to prioritize my spiritual leadership. Dispel my fears with faith, and fill me with the Spirit’s zeal and confidence to embrace my call to lead. Where I see my own shortcomings, help me see your strength. Where I see my inadequacy, help me see your infallibility. Build others up through me so that we all may boast more in you.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Marvel at Jesus’ Baptism – and My Own

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. In many churches that follow the pattern of the church year, Jesus’ baptism will be the focus of worship today. At his baptism, not only did you voice your approval of your Son for those present to hear, but the anointing power of the Holy Spirit was also visible in the form of a dove. Armed with the strength of the Spirit, your Son set out to begin his ministry and to fulfill all that was necessary to achieve our salvation. Having accomplished all that needed to be done, he also established the blessing of baptism for us, connecting us through it to every benefit he secured for us. Let believers marvel at Jesus’ baptism, so they are led to deeply treasure their own. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Your Grace and Guidance in this New Year

God of Grace,
On this first day of a new year, as I look ahead, I see so many unknowns. There are plans in place and events scheduled that excite and energize me when I consider them. But there will also be transitions and changes that leave me uncertain and uneasy. Remind me that you already know their outcome, and that you attach to them your promise to bring good out of everything for my benefit and blessing. Therefore, let my goals and plans for the year ahead be less about my desire to be in control and on top of everything, and more about developing my relationship with you and solidifying my trust in you. Take my faith to new heights this year, and use every part of me to honor you and build up your kingdom through my service to others. Pour into me so that I am overflowing and able to pour into others as I strive to carry out your calling for me to make disciples.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Counting the Cost of Carrying the Cross

(Luke 14:25-35)

Ask anyone looking for employment right now and you’ll find that getting hired is not as easy as one may think. There are many factors involved in the process that employers have to consider, as hiring someone new isn’t cheap. The cost of hiring involves much more than just determining the wages. Is health insurance offered or required? Is there any sort of retirement? Is the employee required to be in the office or can she work from home, or some sort of hybrid arrangement? Can AI carry out the work that some employees used to be responsible for? The hiring process is a lot more involved than it used to be.

Jesus’ teaching in Luke 14 almost sounds as if he’s sitting down one-on-one with potential hires, interviewing them to determine their qualifications and whether or not they’re well-suited to for the job. Honestly, if that were the case, his words would be much easier for us to handle – if only! If it was just a potential job, we would have the option of saying no to his ridiculously lofty expectations and continuing our job search elsewhere. 

But Jesus is actually addressing a matter of far greater importance than simply getting hired for a job. He’s forcing us to wrestle with a much more serious question: how much is your salvation worth to you? This is a hugely important matter for us to consider! Because when you don’t value something, you don’t take care of it. When something isn’t worth much to you, you don’t really care what happens to it. So when Jesus invites us to count the cost of carrying the cross, what he’s asking is this: how much does your salvation really matter to you? How much do I really matter to you?

What hits home about Jesus’ teaching is that he’s refusing to let us off the hook by just paying him lip service. We can fool an awful lot of people with what we say, including ourselves. But we can’t fool Jesus. We can tell others how much he matters to us. We can say all the right things. But then when the sacrifices surface – and they will always show up for the Christian, because Jesus promised the crosses would come – is Jesus worth it or not?

Jesus’ pictures about a builder planning to construct a tower or a king planning for battle emphasize the point he’s making: think before you proceed. Did you do that before you signed up for this thing called Christianity? Do you still do it on a daily basis? As helpful as Jesus’ examples are, sometimes we’re so dull and slow that I think we need even more concrete examples of counting the cost of carrying the cross.

For practical purposes, let’s take that a step further and consider it in light of membership in a Christian congregation. When you became a Christian/member of a congregation, did you give much thought to what types of crosses you’d have to bear or what it might cost you? People will typically ask what sort of class or requirements are necessary to become a member, but Jesus pushes us to give much more thought to the matter than that.

For starters, did you know that you’d be expected to actually be involved in carrying out your church’s mission (ours is “Seeking the Lost, Serving the Found”)? Did you consider that disciples should actually read the Bible and study it? Did you know what you signed up for when you married an unbeliever? Were you aware how heavy that cross would be at times? When you took at job that you knew would involve working on Sundays, did you anticipate how heavy that cross would be over time without regular worship? When you racked up a mountain of debt and hear the words of Scripture calling God’s people to grow in the grace of giving, did you factor in the cross of how debilitating that debt would be? The cross of permitting kids’ schedules to put church activities on the back burner – did you count that cost? Friends choosing alternative lifestyles or just rejecting your beliefs in general – did you count that cost? 

Our answers to those questions, and so many others like them, take on huge significance when we look back at the conclusion Jesus drew in his illustrations. What did he finally say about being the builder who blundered on the cost of his tower or the king who carried out a war without considering how the size of his army compares to the enemy’s? He said, “In the same way, those of you who do not give up everything you have cannot be my disciples” (v.33). Jesus didn’t say it would be tough or an uphill battle or the chances are slim; he said you cannot be my disciple! As in, it is not even possible! You cannot be unwilling to give up everything and call yourself a disciple at the same time. It doesn’t work.

And, if you didn’t notice, when it comes to counting the cost of carrying the cross, those examples weren’t the only ones Jesus used. Look at the whole list of disqualifications that Jesus provides to vet potential disciples. Look at the requirements. Don’t hate family? Can’t be his disciple. Don’t hate your own life? Can’t be his disciple. Don’t want to carry your cross? Can’t be his disciple. Not willing to give up everything you have? Can’t be his disciple. At this rate, it’s a wonder Jesus has any disciples! 

Actually, something just like that happened during Jesus’ ministry. Luke introduced this section of his Gospel by pointing out that “[l]arge crowds were traveling with Jesus” (v.25). That was also the case in John 6, where Jesus gave what has become known as his “Bread of Life” discourse. Jesus had just fed the 5,000. Then he turned the concept of physical feeding into a spiritual teaching that essentially told the crowds if they didn’t fill up on Jesus and his Word, they would be lost.

Guess what happened once Jesus used his physical miracle as an introduction to a deeper spiritual truth? “From this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him” (John 6:66). The crowds dwindled. The followers said farewell. It would have been a noticeable difference, too, going from a crush of crowds to just a trickle of disciples.

But it isn’t as noticeable today, is it? Because today it’s much easier for us to fake it without making any real sacrifice. Today we know how to look the part well enough for others, and the more we focus on looking the part instead of genuinely carrying the cross, we actually start to deceive ourselves as well. So who is worse off – the crowds who visibly demonstrated their decision to no longer follow Jesus by turning away, or those today who are good at giving the external appearance of following, but are unwilling to make any real sacrifice (and only end up fooling themselves)?

We can pop in at church occasionally, which of course looks the churchgoing part. Or, we can be sure to let others know our “thoughts and prayers” are with them, which sounds spiritual enough. We can slap a few Bible passages and spiritual-sounding stuff on our social media here and there. We make sure to sign up or participate in stuff at church once in a blue moon, just enough to add to the appearance of being active and engaged. We do these things and “Voila!” – we look just like Jesus’ disciples. 

But all of that misses the point of Jesus’ vetting process: his disciples make sacrifices. Where, in the examples just mentioned, is there any real sacrifice? 

Let’s consider a pretty impressive record of someone who counted the cost of carrying the cross. “I have worked much harder, been in prison more frequently, been flogged more severely, and been exposed to death again and again. Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was pelted with stones, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a day in the open sea, I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers. I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked” (2 Cor. 11:23-27). You know those words as the words of the apostle Paul. Paul didn’t just pay lip service to being a disciple of Jesus; he displayed it sacrificially with his whole life. 

Let’s be honest – there are a lot of Dollar Tree Disciples today, aren’t there? Now that’s not a knock on Dollar Tree as much as it is a harsh reality we need to own up to. You know why anyone shops at the Dollar Tree. They want something for almost nothing. They want a certain item or product, but it’s obviously not something they’re willing to spend a lot on, so they shop at the Dollar Tree to get it.

Isn’t it possible that a lot more of us are Dollar Tree Disciples than we think? We want something for almost nothing. We want all the good Jesus stuff, the forgiveness and grace stuff, the salvation stuff – we want all of that, but we don’t really want to have to give up much to get it. That’s the mindset of a Dollar Tree Disciple.

And you know what makes that mindset so dangerous? It’s actually on the right track.

We want something for nothing, and that’s exactly what we have through Jesus. What Jesus came to bring couldn’t be bought or purchased by you or me. There was no price tag that would ever make salvation affordable for us. There was no option for bartering or working out a deal with him.

No, what Jesus came to bring is entirely free to us. It is a gift. We can’t buy it or earn it – it can only be given. It cost us nothing. So if we want something for nothing, we’ve come to the right place. Forgiveness and salvation doesn’t cost us a dime!

But all of it came at a price. A hefty price. And the price tag is so out of reach for us that only God himself could pay it. And Jesus did. You think Paul had an impressive list of crosses that he bore as Jesus’ disciple? None will ever compare to the literal cross Jesus bore. Consider that the whole reason we even use that term – bearing our cross – is but a poor reflection of the unbearable cross that Jesus bore in our place. Talk about sacrifice – literally! How much did Jesus have to give up? Everything. So he alone has the right to demand the same of us – “those of you who do not give up everything you have cannot be my disciples” (Luke 14:33). 

But unlike Paul, Jesus was not just an example to imitate. Jesus didn’t come to show us how to be good disciples and then plan to seek out those who met his impossible standards, because he wouldn’t have found any – not a one!

No, Jesus came so that only through and in him, we could be perfect disciples. Here’s how Paul described it taking place. “You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:6-8). Jesus came to make us what we could never be on our own: perfect disciples. He sought out everyone, including Dollar Tree Disciples, and by grace he made us his own devoted and dedicated disciples. 

Do you see yourself that way? He does. Because of Christ, God sees his church filled with devoted and dedicated disciples. And you know what devoted and dedicated disciples do? They count the cost of carrying the cross. They think differently about priorities. They make sacrifices that others wouldn’t fathom making in a million years. Counting the cost, they embrace the cross in this life because they know they are guaranteed the crown of life at the end of their race, through faith in Christ Jesus.

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To Be Willing to Count the Cost

Lord Jesus,
You tell me to count the cost of being your disciple. The implication is that following you will not be without its roadblocks. Counting the cost means considering what sacrifices and steps I am willing to take to address those roadblocks. Paying lip service to those sacrifices is one thing; following through with my actions and behavior is another. 

Nevertheless, always keep in front of me that it is not my dedication, my sacrificial living, or my willingness to count the cost of discipleship that save me; that work belongs to you and you alone. And, you’ve already carried it out! It is your sacrifice on my behalf that creates in me the willing heart to live sacrificially for you. So lead me to and not from the crosses in my life. As I focus my attention on your cross, it provides a different perspective on how small my crosses are. As I focus my attention on your sacrifice for me, it provides a different perspective on how small my sacrifices really are. Grant me then, the willingness to sacrifice all things for you.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Complete Commitment

(1 Kings 19:19-21)

Recently I was listening to someone explain what a headache they had been enduring because of recent flooding inside their house. There’s a lot of different types of damage that flooding can cause! Certain personal belongings can be damaged beyond repair. The concern of mold is very real. The challenges of dealing with contractors’ availability and scheduling them to get the work done is a hassle.

But by far the biggest issue in this case was the matter of insurance. Unfortunately, as it turned out, they had been in their home for some time, but as the value of the home increased over the years, the level of their coverage had not increased along with it. So not only were they dealing with the flooding issues, but also the financial woes of being able to cover all of the expenses when their insurance wasn’t current and complete. Whether it’s home, auto, or life insurance, we want to make sure that whatever coverage we have is complete, so we that aren’t lacking anything if the need comes to utilize it. 

While I’m not writing to sell you insurance, I am writing to remind you that God is looking for something else that is not partial or lacking, but complete: complete commitment to him. The interaction Jesus had with several potential followers in Luke 9 showcased what incomplete commitment looked like. “As they were walking along the road, a man said to him, “I will follow you wherever you go.” Jesus replied, “Foxes have dens and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head.” He said to another man, “Follow me.” But he replied, “Lord, first let me go and bury my father.” Jesus said to him, “Let the dead bury their own dead, but you go and proclaim the kingdom of God.” Still another said, “I will follow you, Lord; but first let me go back and say goodbye to my family.” Jesus replied, “No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God’” (Luke 9:57-62).

That is the opposite of this current series theme, “Undivided Attention.” That is what divided attention looks like. That is also what incomplete commitment looks like. It essentially says, “Yes, Lord, I am very interested in following you… as long as it’s OK that you are good with playing second fiddle, because honestly, it’s not always convenient, and I’m always going to have other things to do that will have to come first. But if that’s OK with you, then I’m on board with following you after I get all of the other stuff done.” That’s not complete commitment.

So what does complete commitment look like? There is quite a remarkable incident recorded for us in 1 Kings 19. Outside of the writings of other notable prophets in the Old Testament, Elijah’s ministry and miracles make him the most prominent prophet. In fact, many of those amazing miracles are recorded in the verses and chapters preceding these verses from 1 Kings. They tell of the widow at Zarapheth and raising her son from the dead. We ascend Mt. Carmel with Elijah, where God utterly embarrassed the prophets of Baal in an unforgettably epic showdown. And we see God using one of the creatures of his creation to feed Elijah in an unprecedented way. From there, God directed Elijah to appoint his successor, Elisha, to begin mentoring him for his own prophetic ministry. 

The manner in which he did it seemed rather… ordinary. Elisha was out farming the fields, when suddenly “Elijah went up to him and threw his cloak around him” (1 Kings 19:19c). That was the equivalent of our practice or ordaining a seminary graduate into the pastoral ministry. At that service, the pastor-elect is installed and, for the first time, receives his stole, the colorful strip of fabric around a pastor’s neck, which is symbolic of being yoked to Jesus and his words in his ministry. In Elijah’s day, instead of a stole, his cloak was a symbol of the Spirit’s power being on him, and he was now designating Elisha to receive that power and privilege.

What happens next sounds an awful lot like what I referenced in Luke 9 earlier in this post. “Elisha then left his oxen and ran after Elijah. “Let me kiss my father and mother goodbye,” he said, “and then I will come with you.” “Go back,” Elijah replied. “What have I done to you?” (v.20). Wait a minute. Why wasn’t Elisha’s request met with the same sort of rebuke Jesus issued to his potential followers? We might expect almost an identical response to what Jesus gave: “No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God” (Luke 9: 62). Not only was Elisha making the exact same request to say goodbye to his family, but it was even more appropriate, given that Elisha was literally driving a plow! So why no rebuke?

Because of what happened next.

“So Elisha left him and went back. He took his yoke of oxen and slaughtered them. He burned the plowing equipment to cook the meat and gave it to the people, and they ate. Then he set out to follow Elijah and became his servant” (1 Kings 19:21). Elisha wasn’t distracted; he was determined. His attentions weren’t divided; he was devoted. And he showed it by cutting ties with family, friends, and his soon-to-be former farming way of life. His commitment was complete. 

That kind of response from Elijah to God’s calling may lead you to think of another well-known decision in history. In 1519, Spanish conquistador Hernan Cortez eventually landed in Mexico. Once he and his crew had disembarked, he famously directed them to burn all of the ships in their fleet. At that point, there was no going back; there was no returning. They were committed to their commission to explore and find wealth, glory, and fame. Regardless of how questionable the actions of Cortez were from that point after, no one could question his commitment. It was complete. 

Is yours? When it comes to your calling for complete commitment to Christ, does your commitment measure up? I’ll answer for you, because I know that everyone, including myself, can only respond to that question in one way: absolutely not. Our commitment to Christ is far from complete. It ranges anywhere from curious investigator to actively engaged church member, but no matter where we fall in that range, it’s all a far cry from complete commitment. 

How do we know? You be the judge: what kind of criteria would you expect of a Christian who claims to be committed? Is a believer who only once in a blue moon brings up Jesus in conversations outside of church committed? Is a follower of Jesus whose words and actions in daily life rarely reflect the words and actions of Jesus committed? Is a Christian who hasn’t supported the gospel ministry of Jesus’ church with so much as a dime for years committed? Is the child of God who hasn’t been in the house of God for over twelve months committed? Is the one quick to claim the title of Christian who never has time for Christ really committed?

When these questions are raised, they may cause us to dig in our heels and quickly point out that only God can judge hearts, not us. That is 100% true! But sadly, we don’t have to judge hearts when a person’s words and actions plainly reveal so much… or so little. It isn’t difficult to see when a believer’s fruits are so spoiled or sorely lacking.

There is another reason that God is concerned about our commitment to him. He knows that a lack of commitment to him is not just a lack of commitment to him; it’s also a deeper, increasing commitment to whatever it is we think is more worthy of our time than Christ. And what do you think happens over time as our indifference toward Christ coincides with more time, energy, and resources going toward whatever it is that is keeping us from him? That thing, that person, that priority WILL eventually be treasured more in our heart. And if nothing changes, it WILL completely crowd out Christ. Then we will finally have what we’re after: complete commitment – to unbelief and its final destination: hell.

Do you understand how much Jesus doesn’t want that for anyone? Do you have any idea? Can you comprehend the level of commitment he showed, sacrificing not just himself on the cross – for this we know so well and too quickly gloss over – but also the lifestyle sacrifices he made. Jesus didn’t have his own bed or place to live during his ministry, so there were no visions of dream homes or remodels that he had to busy himself with. He didn’t care about having the nicest ride on the block, whatever that might have been. He didn’t throw himself tirelessly into chasing friendships or looking for that special someone. He wasn’t interested in keeping up with the Joneses or making sure he didn’t miss the latest show everyone’s talking about. He didn’t concern himself with where he was going to go out to eat each night. He didn’t have kids to idolize.

Instead, Jesus, “for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted” (Hebrews 12:2-3). Jesus’ attention was undivided. Jesus’ commitment was complete. He was singularly focused on carrying out every last detail of our salvation. Why? Because he knew the price that had to be paid for uncommitted followers to ever have a place in heaven. He didn’t just know the price; he paid it. Completely. 

So be at peace, for our incomplete commitment is overshadowed by our Savior’s perfectly complete commitment in every single detail and nuance of his entire life. And not just in words and actions, but even in his thoughts and emotions! His commitment to his Father and to holy obedience to his calling provides everything that is lacking in each of us individually. And his commitment to us fans into flame our desire to level up our commitment to him. What does that look like? 

Here’s a question for you to wrestle with: is your level of commitment not where it should be because of other distractions in your life that get in the way, or do the other distractions get in the way because your level of commitment is not where it should be? Get to the bottom of that question, while embracing your Savior’s complete commitment to you, and you’ll be on the right path toward a deeper commitment to Christ. 

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To Love Evangelically

Loving Savior,
This week I ask that you help me better see how to LOVE: Lead Others Voluntarily & Evangelically. When it comes to loving others, you aren’t merely concerned that we love others, but also why we love them. When we go through the motions and treat our service to others like a checklist that needs to be completed or a deed that needs to get done, we miss the point. I want to lead others evangelically – that is, motivated and empowered by the power of the gospel, the good news of God’s grace that we are saved through faith in you alone.

The gospel filters how I view others – as souls for whom you died, and as individuals loved and treasured by you. When I forget this, loving others takes a back seat to serving self. But when I remember this, how can I do anything but love those loved by you? Help me to remember that my loving service to others may be the first step that eventually results in their experiencing your love through the joy of the gospel. Finally, in order to love others evangelically, create in me the constant hunger to be personally filled up with the gospel regularly, so that it naturally flows through me to others.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Love Others Voluntarily

Loving Savior,
This week I ask that you help me better see how to LOVE: Lead Others Voluntarily & Evangelically. While you command us to love others, it isn’t the threat of punishment or the fear of consequence behind that command that drives us, but rather your fierce and freeing love for us that compels us. By your perfect obedience and the outpouring of grace and forgiveness that flows from the cross, we are no longer slaves under the law.

Therefore, in this new life of freedom, I ask that you create in me the genuine desire to voluntarily seek out opportunities to love others. Make my will like yours, seeking to lead others voluntarily in love. Remove from me all reluctance and resentment tied to your command to love others, and replace those sentiments with eagerness and excitement to display your love to others through my loving service. As I voluntarily render this loving service to others, use my example to initiate and inspire waves of love to continue spreading everywhere, so that believers everywhere help make your love become more and more prevalent all over the world.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Love Others (more than myself!)

Loving Savior,
This week I ask that you help me better see how to LOVE: Lead Others Voluntarily & Evangelically. When it comes to loving myself, I’m a natural – I was born into this world thinking that I’m the most important person in it! And, as much as I try convince myself that the reason it’s so difficult to love others has more to do with them, the real reason it’s hard is that I simply love myself too much. Forgive me, and turn my love away from self and onto others, just as you did perfectly.

Leading others in love is truly challenging. It’s easy for me to make it more about how I prefer to show or speak love into them than about what they really need. Help me let go of my insistence on loving others on my terms and free me to better love others on theirs. Whether it’s the biological family under my roof, my church family, or my neighborhood and community, opportunities abound to love others. Guide me to manage my time in a way that allows me to love others whenever doors open to do so each day. Grant me the joy of seeing the impact you can make when you use me to lead others with love. Through my Christ-like love for others, let it also be clear to others that I am your disciple.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.