DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Be Real About My Sin and Your Grace

Forgiving Father,
There is no greater blessing than the assurance of salvation and knowing that it is a gift from start to finish. Sometimes, however, I allow that assurance to morph into overconfidence or arrogance, leading me to trivialize or downplay my own sin. When the certainty of my forgiveness convinces me to think that my sin is no big deal, I end up diminishing both grace and the gravity of your Son’s sacrifice for me. Let each of these be true: you loathe sin while also delighting in forgiving it. Guide me to have the same perspective, so that I despise my own sin and genuinely desire to overcome it, while also treasuring your generous, limitless grace and forgiveness.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Water

(John 4:5-26)

The Word of God can be a challenging book to read. It can be difficult to see the big picture of how it all fits together. It can be frustrating to wrestle with why God thought certain sections were worth including in Scripture. Remembering where a certain narrative is recorded or which book includes this verse isn’t always so easy. Struggling with doubts about why the Bible is the one religious book we can trust, while all the others are man-made fabrications that lead people astray. It can all be overwhelming.

This is why it is good for us to sit alongside Jesus and the woman at the well. It’s as if we are right there with them, longing for a rest, taking some time to slow down, pause, and recover with the refreshing interaction between Jesus and the Samaritan woman. After all, to make sense of the Bible, to sort it all out, is to see Jesus and spend time with Jesus. Only when we know him do the pieces of the puzzle start to fall into place. Through time spent with Jesus, we get a glimpse into the window of the very heart of God.

We see a Savior packing all of the work of soul-saving and salvation into his short, three-decade-long life, taking time out of his ridiculously busy schedule for just one soul. To see him care so much, to be so invested in one heart, to cast aside all cultural taboos and any faux pas because the eternity of even one soul matters more to him than the opinion of others and how he comes off – this is to know God as he wants to be known. So let us enjoy our time together as quiet bystanders in awe of Jesus’ love for people, for individuals, as he provides exactly what this woman – and we – need. 

First things first, how and why did Jesus get to this point? Our account begins rather abruptly with a “so,” leaving us wondering what preceded. What preceded was an explanation of why Jesus had to be on the move. He had been in an area with a high population of religious leaders. They were starting to take note of Jesus’ influence, which was surpassing that of John the Baptist. It may have been that Jesus didn’t want to draw more of their attention and have to worry about more frequent interactions with religious opposition at this point in his ministry. It may have been that Jesus didn’t want to lend to the perception that he and John the Baptist were rivals. Or, since it wasn’t going to be too long before John the Baptist would find himself in prison, Jesus may have left to avoid a similar fate. 

On top of all of those considerations, geographically speaking, there were other roads Jesus could have traveled to avoid going through the heart of Samaria. Many Jewish people would do just that to avoid the unfavorable shadow of a “purebred” Jewish person having to have anything to do with a “mutt” Samaritan.

But right before this interaction, John records for us, “Now he had to go through Samaria” (John 4:4).Had to,” didn’t mean there were no alternative roads he could have taken to avoid Samaria, because we know there were. No, “had to” means that this encounter was divinely appointed. It was slated to happen on God’s eternal planner that Jesus would radically impact not just one woman’s life, but, as a result of this very encounter, that many in the whole town would eventually come to call him their Savior by faith.  

She was slow to get it at first, as we all are. But, given the circumstances, it’s understandable that she was not expecting any conversation to unfold with this weary traveler by the well. Not only did the man initiate the conversation with a woman, which was culturally uncoomon on its own, but she recognized, likely by his dialect, that he was a Jew, prompting her shocked response at being asked for a drink. “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.) (v.9). No upstanding Jew would have been willing to drink from the bowl or cup of a Samaritan. 

Take note, however, of how Jesus responds – not just to this inquiry, but to each concern the woman expresses. Rather than diving into a treatise on the past and present relations between Jews and Samaritans, Jesus begins to direct the conversation to the one thing that mattered most. She needed to understand and ultimately believe that he came to bring her not what she thought she wanted, but what she needed: eternal salvation. 

Even as Jesus steered the conversation toward the spiritual, referring to the “gift of God,” making mention of who was asking her for a drink, speaking of “living water,” and finally even mentioning “eternal life,” still her reply demonstrated she wasn’t tracking. “The woman said to him, ‘Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water’” (v.15). Figuratively speaking, she was still looking down into the well, when Jesus was leading her to look up to the heavens. She was stuck on the physical and temporal, while Jesus longed to turn her attention to the spiritual and eternal. 

You ever have that kind of frustrating conversation? The one where you are gradually trying to ease your way into a tough or challenging discussion that needs to happen, and the other person doesn’t pick up on what you’re really talking about? More often than not, those situations are our own fault, because we’re not speaking clearly and we’re expecting the other person to do the heavy lifting in the conversation. We’re trying to avoid saying what we should actually just come out and say and hoping the other person picks up on it and connects the dots. Then we’re the ones who get angry when they don’t, when it’s really our fault that we aren’t communicating clearly. 

This case, though, was not one of Jesus lacking clarity in his communication; rather, it was an example of the chasm that exists between fallen sinners and a righteous God. If you need a reminder of how wide that chasm is, just look at how thick the Bible is! We’re so obtuse and spiritually clueless that God needed to record one account after another to show us our lost condition. He needed to cover every possible path someone might think they could pursue, only to arrive at a dead end every time.

In its simplest form, God’s law is easily summed up with the word “love.” “Love me,” God says, “and love your neighbor.” That’s it! But for us to see how miserably we fail at it, God records take after take throughout history of people failing at loving him and others perfectly. To our shame and embarrassment, he has to spell out specifically the countless ways we violate his command to love.

Jesus’ next request of the woman shows just that. “He told her, ‘Go, call your husband and come back’” (v.16). In an effort to officially shift the conversation into the spiritual realm, Jesus brings up her current living situation, knowing full well it will raise the issue that needs the most attention: the condition of her heart. That’s what God’s law does. It reveals what we think is hidden. It shows what we think can be covered. It displays what we feel can be tucked safely away unnoticed. And she realized it.

Her reply shows that her awareness has shifted from the physical to the spiritual. “‘Sir,’ the woman said, ‘I can see that you are a prophet. Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem’” (v.19-20).

Some take the view that the woman was attempting to change the topic away from the matter of her adultery. However, it seems just as plausible that she realizes the conversation is a spiritual one, her sin has been exposed, and now she is naturally focused on what to do about it. So she asks about the right way to worship, presuming that must be the way to go about it. She wants to see if this man, who is obviously a prophet, may have insight into the right way to worship. 

By nature, that’s how we operate, isn’t it? In some way or another, when we do wrong, get caught or called out, or just plain feel guilty about it, we naturally resort to thinking about what we must do to make everything right. Indeed, though it may not revolve around a building or a Sunday morning service, for many, that’s really their understanding of worship, isn’t it? Many view worship as the required activity that we have to keep up with to counter all of the ways we’ve violated God’s law of love. We want God to just tell us how to make things right so we can carry on with our lives. 

But Jesus shoots down that idea when he explains to the woman that she’s asking the wrong question, and that worship isn’t about finding the right location, but about something else entirely. He explains that “salvation is from the Jews” (v.22), and as such, what matters far more than location, religious rites, or even right behavior, is worshipping “in Spirit and in truth” (v.22 & 23). In other words, worship that is pleasing to God is not a matter of doing the right thing, but of having the right heart. And Jesus qualifies that by adding that it’s also a matter of truth. Because without the truth, our hearts would only succeed in driving us further away from God. 

So what is the truth? Jesus made it known to the woman with his final big reveal. The Messiah – the Savior – she was waiting for, was the very one to whom she was speaking! He alone could promise to satisfy not just dry lips and a parched throat, but a dehydrated soul, with his living water that wells up to eternal life. Jesus could provide what none of her past or current relationships ever could: a heart cleansed and purified by the living water of salvation. 

Friends, it isn’t easy. We are tired. We are worn out. We are thirsty. But don’t make matters worse by seeking to satisfy your thirst with worldly stuff that will only leave you in a worse condition. Drink up. Guzzle in all the grace you can. It will not run out. It will not fail to quench your thirst. It will not disappoint. It will leave you, too, with a clean conscience and a heart that is whole. Less of what will only leave you thirsty again and more of what will never leave you thirsty. More of Jesus and the living water only he can provide. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Rely on Grace Plus Nothing

Loving Redeemer,
Your Word clearly teaches that we are not saved by works, but by grace, through faith. Although we know and believe that, we can so easily slip right back into our own self-righteousness. We cannot rid ourselves of that part of us that yearns to make our salvation a combination of grace PLUS something – anything – on our part. But if salvation is by grace AND anything else, then we are robbed of the certainty of our salvation! Our best efforts bring us no closer to salvation than the most vile deeds of the unbeliever. The work of salvation is yours alone. Give me a faith that clings to that truth, rejoices in it, and finds peace in it. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Salvage Struggling Marriages

Gracious Savior,
Marriage is filled with wonderful blessings for husbands and wives, but it isn’t without its challenges. While every marriage needs your guidance and grace, be present especially in those marriages most at risk. Give spouses in those seasons an extra measure of patience and grace for each other, driven by a renewed determination to devote themselves to doing whatever it takes to save their marriage. Grant healing and recovery to the hurting spouse, and a humble, repentant heart to the spouse responsible for the hurt. Whether the issue at the center of their struggle is a series of smaller ongoing concerns or one or two more substantial matters, help them see a path forward that fills them with hope. Turn Satan’s efforts to destroy marriage against him and revive marriages on life support so that they thrive once again. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Palm Sunday Worship

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. While Christ-centered worship is always edifying, some Sundays of the church year highlight the especially significant events of our Savior’s life and ministry. This morning is one such Sunday, on which we remember and celebrate the Triumphal Entry into Jerusalem. Thank you for the Son’s humble service and selfless spirit, being willing to arrive in the very city that would sentence him to death. Today marks the first day of the holiest week of the year. Bless Palm Sunday worshippers everywhere who gather today to follow the Savior in faith to the upper room, to the cross, and ultimately to the empty tomb. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Prioritize Growing in My Faith

Holy Spirit,
Prompt me to prioritize my spiritual growth. As with any growth or learning, spiritual growth doesn’t happen accidentally or unintentionally. If I don’t plan for time to read, study, and apply your Word, it’s rather foolish of me to assume I will grow in my faith. Guide me in sorting out my schedule so that I eliminate distractions and hindrances, including anything that may be harmless but not productive. Help me set up boundaries to protect my intentions to deepen my faith. Fill me with the necessary self-discipline to move forward in setting up and establishing these paths for pursuing your righteousness.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Gospel-Centered Marriages

God of Marriage,
Your gift of marriage is not only a sacred institution, but also a high and holy calling. It is also one of the most unique and special blessings mankind can experience. Thank you for this special bond that is also intended to guide husbands and wives into a deeper appreciation for the gospel and the sacrificial love of Christ for his church. When your grace and forgiveness are the foundation of marriage, couples have what they need to flourish and thrive in marriage. Through a regular diet of law and gospel, strip spouses of selfishness and replace it with the genuine joy of putting each other first. Bring about this godly desire in marriage partners by clearly making known to them your sacrificial and unconditional love for them. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Christ to Be Exalted Through Places of Worship

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. When believers gather in church for worship, they experience so much that points to Jesus. The means of grace – the gospel in Word and the sacraments of Holy Communion and Baptism – will always remain front and center. But do not let the richness of liturgical worship or the design and details of the worship space be lost on worshippers, either. Bible stories stained in glass help us fix our thoughts on Jesus. The placement of the baptismal font reassures us that we belong to your family through baptism. The cross and the altar lead us to recall your precious sacrifice for our sins. Christian symbols on display help cement Christian doctrine and teaching. May churches always give thought to the rich variety of ways Christ is proclaimed, and may worshippers always be edified and drawn closer to their Savior through them.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Keep Christ at the Center of My Faith

Holy Spirit,
The work that you do in bringing people to faith, growing them in their faith, and keeping them in their faith is all carried out in the same way: through Jesus. While all Christians will agree, not all Christians are discerning enough to be aware of how much “Christian” content lacks Christ. The Scriptures have so much to teach us about doctrine and Christian living, but never apart from Jesus. Since the Bible is a testimony about Christ, whatever media and content we consume ought to also point us to Christ. Make us aware of his absence in anything that passes itself off as Christian, and equip us to either correct it or avoid it altogether. Feed and nurture our faith by keeping our faith focused on our faithful Substitute and Savior.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Be More Patient With Myself

Patient Lord,
The life of a believer is a life of patience. Ever since the Fall in Eden, your people have waited on the perfect timing of your promises. Yet our patience runs so thin, not just with others, but also with ourselves. Even when we struggle with patience for others, we will know how necessary it is, but we don’t always allow ourselves the same latitude. We get frustrated with ourselves when we repeat the same mistakes, when we forget things we should have remembered, and when we don’t make progress in an area of our lives as quickly as we’d like. Help us, Lord, not just to be patient with others, but also with ourselves. Let us not be so hasty to beat ourselves up over shortcomings. Lead us to give ourselves grace – since you already have! We aren’t perfect, but we have a Savior who is. If you are patient with us (and have every right not to be!), then enable us to be more patient with ourselves as you grow us. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.