DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For the Courage to Seek Reconciliation (Part 2)

Spirit of Peace,
Regardless of the reason, whenever there is an issue between another believer and me, I pray that you provide me with courage to seek reconciliation. When my words or actions have been the cause for concern, and someone else desires to speak with me about it, let me be willing to, whether I feel it is necessary or not. In those situations, I may either be blind to the damage I may have done, or be unaware of how my behavior affected another person. Or, I could be aware, but feel justified on my end and stubbornly try avoid the other person. This is not loving to them, and will only cause more hurt. Make me always willing to listen, quick to accept responsibility, and eager to apologize, whether it is for my own sake or for the sake of the other person. Whenever this process happens, usher in your peace, and heal any hurts or hangups with your gift of reconciliation. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For the Courage to Seek Reconciliation (Part 1)

Spirit of Peace,
Regardless of the reason, whenever there is an issue between another believer and me, I pray that you provide me with courage to seek reconciliation. When I perceive another person’s words or actions to be the cause of discord, guard me from gossip, so that I don’t make things worse by fueling the discord even more. Instead, as soon as possible, enable me to address my concern with the individual with humble confidence. Let me be firm, but gentle, never seeking to get even or repay for some wrong, but to seek healing and restoration. When repentance is called for, let it be received well and allow it to bring about the confession and absolution that is necessary. Whenever this process happens, usher in your peace, and heal any hurts or hangups with your gift of reconciliation. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Multiplying Division

(Luke 12:49-53)

Before applying the cotton ball soaked with rubbing alcohol to the freshly scraped knee, a mom warns her child, “this is going to sting a bit.” In trying to determine the extent of the injury, whether it’s a sprain, a break, or something else, the doctor grabs hold and twists this way then pushing that way, all the while asking his patient to “tell me if this hurts.” Days or weeks of underlying tension between a husband and wife culminate with the words, “we need to talk.” Real pain is being experienced in these examples, whether it’s physical, emotional, or even spiritual.

Yet, while none of those examples are pleasant experiences – for the person on either end – they have in common that the end result is intended to make things better. The hurt happens so that healing can follow. One of the biggest lies we tend to believe is that our problems – and the hurt that goes with them – will eventually just go away if we avoid them. Rather than bring up an uncomfortable topic that will likely involve some tension or conflict, we just avoid it and convince ourselves that doing nothing is the better way. What we’re saying is that we prefer to avoid the hurt of a challenging encounter or conversation by riding it out until things improve.

But tell me, if you can, how many times things have ever actually improved, how many times healing has actually taken place, with that approach. Almost never. This “Wounds that Heal” series may be a tough one for many, but it’s essential that we understand that even when Jesus’ words hurt, that hurt is the necessary precursor to healing. So we pray that this series will be for us like making your way into the ocean on a beach day. At first the water feels cold and uncomfortable, but once you’re in, it feels invigorating and refreshing. May Jesus’ words in this series hit us like that.

The wisdom of Proverbs also provides helpful insights to our understanding of this series. Proverbs 27:6 says, “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” The words of a friend may hurt or sting, but when you consider the source, you know they are being candid with you for your own benefit. An enemy, on the other hand, will schmooze and sweet-talk all day long, not because he’s interested in building you up, but because he wants to soften you to eventually serve himself. If wounds from a friend can be trusted, let’s go into this series remembering that we have no greater friend than Jesus, and trust completely that even when he speaks words that hurt or are hard to hear, his goal is always my healing and growth. 

We start off this series with words from Jesus that will hit home for some of us a little more than others. “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division” (v.51). How do we handle these hard words? When we address what looks like a contradictory statement compared to the way the rest of Scripture speaks, we’ll better understand what Jesus is saying. Then, as we do, we’ll start to see how his hard words actually help and heal us. 

Let’s address some of the passages that come to mind when we hear Jesus and peace in the same sentence. Right away, many of our minds likely go to one of the most comforting lists of titles given to Jesus that we associate with Christmas. Isaiah 9:6: “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” It seems like even more of an odd thing for the one called the “Prince of Peace,” to say he didn’t come to bring peace, doesn’t it?

Then there are also the words out of Jesus’ own mouth that he spoke: “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). “In me you may have peace” sounds about as 180º from Jesus bluntly saying that he didn’t come to bring peace, but division! What gives?

The reason is really quite simple: we’re dealing with different understandings of peace. Take an example from the sporting world. Why will fans and analysts always debate about who is the greatest in any given sport? Why will that always be an ongoing debate that can never be settled? It’s because we aren’t working with the same definition of “great.” We can’t agree on a GOAT if we can’t agree on what greatness is. Does greatest mean the most championship rings, because there are plenty of players who were not superstars, but who had the privilege of being shuffled around and playing on championship teams. Does greatest mean the best statistics? If so, which statistics matter the most, and what if someone has great statistics but no rings? Does greatest mean record-holder in any given statistical category? What if a player dominates in only one statistical category, but is mediocre at best in others? And what about sports where different players play entirely different positions – a great lineman on the football field cannot be compared to a great quarterback by using the same metrics for greatness. 

Just as rabid sports fans will become rather unruly when discussing who is the greatest, should it surprise us that Jesus guarantees that division will come about as a result of the peace he came to bring? How does one define peace?

Ask yourself what most people on the planet have in mind when they think about peace. What does “peace” mean to most people? Tolerance? It means unity. It means we don’t let our differences divide us. It means we all get along. It means the absence of conflict. It means you don’t force me to share your views or opinions. You might have a few more thoughts to add to the world’s view of peace, but these about capture it, don’t they?

Now, what is God talking about when he speaks of “peace” in the Bible? We don’t have to wonder or guess, because he tells us. “He was delivered over to death for our sins and was raised to life for our justification. Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand” (Romans 4:25-5:2). The phrase we need to hear to get to the bottom of all of this is “we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.” That’s the peace Jesus came to bring: peace between God and men.

So what we’re talking about is not the same thing at all, and realizing that gives us a better understanding about the apparent contradiction in Scripture. It all depends on which peace we’re talking about: the world’s varying definitions, or Jesus’ definition? Jesus came to bring the kind of peace we need, but not the kind of peace the world thinks it needs or wants. And, sadly, until anyone sees the need for Jesus’ peace, they’ll look in vain for it everywhere else. 

Their search for peace ends up looking like a guest trying to figure out the lighting in an unfamiliar room. If you live in or have stayed in a place with a room that has outlets controlled by a light switch, that can serve to help us understand Jesus’ words this morning. If you don’t know the outlets are controlled by a light switch, think of all the steps you’ll first take to address a lamp that doesn’t turn on. First, you might check the obvious to make sure there’s a bulb in the lamp, maybe even changing it if there is. If that doesn’t do the trick, then you check to make sure it’s plugged in. If it’s plugged in and still doesn’t light up, you maybe start to wonder if the lamp is just broken and needs to be replaced. So you spend all this time on the lamp, when all you really need to do is flip the light switch when you enter the room and it gives power to the outlets, turning on the lamp.

By nature, without Jesus, we all do the same things to address division – or a lack of peace – in our lives. We try to fix all of the symptoms without realizing the real problem: a lack of peace between God and me. So I work on this symptom and that symptom. Nothing improves – and often it gets much worse! – so I try a different approach with no luck. And on and on. 

It isn’t until the light switch is flipped on – which just so happens to apply perfectly to Jesus, the Light of the World – that the peace that is lacking in my life now starts to flow from the peace I have with God into all other areas of my life. We try to manufacture a horizontal peace when the solution is the vertical peace we receive from God in Christ Jesus. Only from that peace does the world ever receive what it’s actually looking for.  

That’s the irony, isn’t it? The world would have much more of the peace it is looking for, if only it pursued more of the peace Jesus did come to bring. But until it does, there will be division. Some will long for Jesus’ peace; others will dismiss it in frustration, demanding that an all-powerful God cater to their whims and provide their version of peace. And that is the reason for the division.

But the source of that division is also the solution to it. And we have it. Yes, these wounds that heal us mean that we need to expect they’ll do the same for others, because it is an undeniable reality of the ministry of the church. We are called to bring peace, yet God prepares us for the hard work of ministry by telling us that our efforts will result in even more division. So we aren’t surprised when we see the peace we pass along result multiply division.

But there is no other way. We cannot change doctrines or teachings for the sake of getting along better with other churches who do. We cannot ignore or avoid parts of the Bible which cause people offense. There is no other way. And those who think there is are not only fooling themselves, but also compromising the real peace Jesus came to bring, the real peace every man, woman, and child, needs: peace between God and man.

Yes, it will mean that our mission will multiply division. The ministry of the church will increase division in the world. But more importantly, it will also increase the number of souls that are saved. It might hurt to share it, but the best kind of healing will follow: the kind that provides the permanent peace our hearts crave, and can find nowhere else but in Jesus. 

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

For Your Peace to Fill the World

Prince of Peace,
You came into our world to bring peace. But the peace you came to bring doesn’t align with the kind of peace the world wanted you to bring. You brought peace between God and man; the world only cares about peace with the rest of mankind. Therefore, there will always be division. Nevertheless, we must continue to point others to you, for yours is the peace everyone needs. Make us bold to carry out your mission, even though we know it will result in division. Why? Because it will also result in salvation for many. Use me to fill the world with your peace.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Treasure That Satisfies Your Heart

(Luke 12:22-34)

What picture comes to mind for you? The default image that I equate with the word treasure is an old chest filled with gold coins (with pictures of pirates not far behind, of course). Maybe you think of the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow (with pictures of leprechauns not far behind, of course). Those of us who grew up with Scrooge McDuck cartoons probably have the image of him swimming through his pool of money in his bank vault. I think associating these types of pictures with the word treasure is pretty common… but I’m not sure they’re really that helpful as we consider Jesus’ words from Luke 12. That’s because “treasure” as Jesus is teaching about it here is not at all limited to money or gold coins.

What does it mean to treasure something? Jesus provides for us a pretty good understanding of what it means. We can find it out by connecting the dots if we take note of where the word heart shows up in his teaching in these verses.

The most familiar verse of this section is the last one, verse 34: “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” But don’t miss his other use of the word heart. Look again at verse 29: “And do not set your heart on what you will eat or drink; do not worry about it.” Can we replace the phrase “set your heart on” with the word “treasure”? So then, we could summarize what Jesus is saying this way: “Do not treasure what you will eat or drink. Whatever you treasure, that is what has your heart.” So I treasure what my heart is set on. Whatever receives my attention, my focus, my time, my energy – that is what I treasure. 

Another way to think about it? Treasure as Jesus defines it is really a matter of our personal values and priorities. With that understanding, we see that treasure can refer to just about anything under the sun. To what – or whom – do I attach the most value or worth? What is my greatest priority? The answer to those questions reveals where your treasure is. And, by extension, your heart.

Jesus highlighted two examples of what can fall into that category: food and clothing. “Then Jesus said to his disciples: ‘Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. For life is more than food, and the body more than clothes’” (Luke 12:22-23). In these two examples, Jesus also reveals a simple indicator that will help us identify where our treasure is: worry.

In fact, we might be more used to this section of Jesus’ teaching being used to address our preoccupation with worry. These verses are very often referenced as much-needed reminders to us that worry is a waste of time because God will provide for all of our needs. That is absolutely true, and will always serve as an important takeaway from this teaching. But if we pull back the curtains on “worry” a little bit more, the connection between worry and treasure becomes even more clear.

What, after all, do you worry about? Do you stay up at night worrying if your neighbor’s landscaper will do a good job on his yard? Do you fret about the grocery store receiving its deliveries on time? Have you been beside yourself wondering about the new server hired at the local restaurant who seemed to be a bit behind in his training the last time you ate there? Are any of those things unimportant? No! Someone thinks that every one of those things is important.

But not you. Why? Because you don’t attach much value or worth to them. Because they aren’t priorities for you.

But you worry about your children. You worry about work. You worry about making ends meet financially. You worry about your health.

Why do you worry about such things? Because you attach value or worth to them. Because they are priorities for you. Because you treasure them. So if you’re struggling to get to the bottom of what you really treasure in life, ask yourself what you frequently worry about, and you’ll get closer and closer on your own personal treasure map to where X marks the spot for you.

But worry does more than just reveal where our misplaced treasures are; it also reveals a pretty embarrassing faith. After pointing out how God masterfully cares for nature in ways that never even cross our minds, Jesus arrives at a very pointed and convicting conclusion about us when we worry: we are “of little faith!” (v.28).

Ouch. Worry isn’t just a normal part of life. Worry isn’t just a harmless fixation on worst-case scenarios. Worry in any measure is a lack of faith. It is more a reflection of being a child of unbelief than it is a child of God. 

Think of it – faith itself is a gift of God, something undeserved, something we do nothing to receive, yet we even dishonor and dismiss God with that very gift when we worry. And, when allowed to continue unchecked and even to multiply, worry can result on unbelief. Jesus illustrated this with his parable of the sower and the seed when some of the seed was choked out by life’s worries.

So if there’s on thing we ought to worry about in life, we ought to worry about unchecked worry in our lives – it can lead to devastating results! Yet, while our own worry will help us identify what we treasure, and sadly, how lacking our faith is, we need more than that. A scolding and a slap on the wrist not just won’t cut it.

So here is something you’ll never need to worry about: how much God treasures you. Jesus may not have made a big, splashy statement to that effect in his teaching here in these verses, but that’s because it’s woven consistently throughout them. It’s a given. It’s the norm. It’s unquestionable and unchanging: God treasures you!

See how Jesus made that known when he used illustrations from nature about how God provides for the birds. “And how much more valuable you are than birds!” (v.24b). And, what’s more, God wasn’t reluctant or hesitant to call us into his kingdom and entrust it to us, but note how the Good Shepherd speaks tenderly to his sheep: “Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom” (v.32). 

Look also at Jesus’ own words about hearts and treasure once again. “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (v.34). If one’s heart is where there treasure is, then find all the validation and worth you could even need in the beauty of Christ’s incarnation.

God took on human flesh and bones. Why? Not just because he wanted to experience what it would be like. Not just so he could say, “been there, done that.” No, he became man to live with man, to dwell with man, to rescue and save man. His heart – quite literally, along with the rest of his physical body – arrived on this earth so that it could be where his treasure was: mankind. You. Me. All people.

No degree of worry you could ever express, no amount of treasuring the wrong things in your life, could ever forfeit or cancel out how much God treasures you in Christ. He literally brought his heart to live and dwell and be with the human beings he treasured so much!

What on earth could ever provide you with that measure of being valued or loved? Who on earth could ever treasure you that much? No one. Not even close. And if we are treasured that much by God, then he alone is worthy of having our hearts in return. Yes, we need the Jesus who treasures us beyond our comprehension to properly direct our hearts to what he would have us treasure. And he does just that. 

Jesus directs us to, “seek his kingdom” (v.31), and maybe we do well to bring Matthew’s emphasis into it, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness,” (6:33). What is Jesus telling us to do? Treasure his kingdom. Attach your value and worth to that. Make that your priority. 

The added bonus? There’s no worry attached to that treasure, because it’s guaranteed and never runs out. And it’s always at work. If you treasure your daily bread, which is silly because the Lord promises to provide it, you will always be plagued by worry. That’s the nature of treasuring the stuff of the world. You’ll keep worrying about it. Always. You won’t ever escape some degree of worry, and worst-case scenario, it can even choke out your faith. So seek his kingdom instead.

Eli Stanley Jones did just that with his life. The American missionary, known for his extensive mission work in India, suffered a stroke at the age of 88, which left him significantly impaired. Nevertheless, even though he was limited in sight, hearing, speech, and movement, he was able to dictate into a tape recorder his final book, called The Divine Yes.

It was in that book that he used a mountain climbing rope to illustrate his personal situation. Rope that is used for mountain climbing has incredibly strong strands in its center. So even as the outer layers of the rope rub and fray against the rock, the rope is still able to hold the climber because of its strong center. E. Stanley Jones said that to him, Christ represented that center strand. Even as his stroke damaged the outer strands of his life, his center, his heart, where Christ was, held strong.

He wrote, “Many of the strands of my life have been broken by this stroke, for I can no longer preach and I cannot write as my eyesight is so poor that I cannot see my own writing. I can only dictate into a tape recorder. The things that were dear to me, for the time being, are broken. The innermost strands belonging to the Kingdom and the Person of Jesus and my experience of him holds me as much as the total rope, for the innermost strands are the strongest. I need no outer props to hold up my faith, for my faith holds me” (E. Stanley Jones, The Divine Yes [Nashville: Abingdon, 1975], 64). 

Maybe that should be our picture that comes to mind when we think about the word treasure as Jesus teaches it: mountain climbing rope. And we don’t even have to be world-renowned evangelists for it to apply. We simply treasure Jesus and his kingdom above all else. We pursue the gospel and everything about its work in our lives and in the lives of others, and we won’t ever be let down. He will hold us fast. His treasure alone will truly satisfy our hearts.

DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Replace Unnecessary Concerns with Contentment

Loving Savior,
When you exhorted your disciples and followers not to set their hearts on earthly concerns like clothing and food, their worries at that time were of a different nature. Their concern was based on quantity – whether or not they would have enough of the basic needs of life. 

We, too, are concerned about things like clothing and food, but not for the same reasons. Very few of us have to worry about quantity – about having enough clothing or food. Instead, we focus on quality. We take for granted that we have enough and worry instead about having what is best or new or trendy. How easily we forget how blessed we are that we seldom have to worry about ever having enough! Nevertheless, when our hearts are attached to the stuff of this world, they will always find cause for concern or worry. Free me from that. Let me trust you to provide and bless me not with “more” or “newer,” but with contentment.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Those Living in Fear

Faithful Father,
So many people live in fear. Some may deny it or try to hide it, while others are more open about it. The sources of their fear vary widely. Financial fear of being let go at work and/or falling behind on bills and piling up debt. Physical fear of sickness, injury, or death. Fear of being found out as a fraud or a fake in some area of life. The fear of not being good enough. Fear of letting others who are depending on you down. Fear of the government. We face so many fears that we have specific names for them all!

Yet repeatedly throughout your Word, you implore us not to be afraid – and with good reason! You promise us your peace in the place of any trouble we could possibly ever face. Our hearts need not be troubled, for you have overcome the world. Whatever fear we face – it will pass. Even a worst-case scenario as long as you are by our side is manageable. For those who do not know you, lead them to you so that they can experience a life free from fear. For those who know and believe in you, yet are still crippled by fear, draw them closer to you and to your promises so that you can fill them with the faith needed to deflate their fears.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Learn to Relax

Dear Rest-Giver,
In a culture that prides itself in productivity, busyness, and putting the pedal to the metal non-stop, some of us lack the ability to relax. We have hard-wired ourselves to either be on the go or on our phones, so that our stress and anxiety levels actually rise when we are faced with unscheduled time and/or detached from a screen. This behavior is not sustainable physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Help me break away!

You won rest for us, a real rest from the stress and worry of our wrongs and failed righteousness. Your gracious forgiveness calms us with a peace that cannot be found anywhere else. Let that peace flow into my daily routine and schedule, so that I can learn to relax in the rest I have in you. I don’t need to – nor can I! – control everything around me. Keep me from getting sucked back into the endlessly spinning hamster wheel of life, and lead me to lean into your rest and both embrace and excel in the art of regular relaxation.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Believers to Help Heal Our Nation

Dear Lord,
As our nation adjusts to a new administration governing our country, there is a great deal of both hurt and happiness at the same time. Send an extra measure of your Spirit into the hearts of believers to powerfully equip us to be peacemakers. Help Christians to look beyond party affiliation and see neighbors to love and care for, regardless of how they cast their vote.  Forgive believers when we are judgmental, brash, or abrasive with others regarding their political stance. Give us instead a gentle and patient spirit.

Let us take the lead in helping heal in every way possible. Grant us sensitivity and understanding regarding the views of others, and accept any differences with civility. Let us pray for all politicians and government officials across the board, so that they can be unified in their goal of seeking what is best for our country. Bless us with a genuine desire to seek not our own self-interests, but the interests of the greater good. As we let our light shine by loving our neighbors, let it attract many souls to you and the light of your salvation, thereby unifying us in the best way possible – as loved and forgiven saints.  

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Advent Peace

Savior Jesus,
Advent fills us with hope, peace, and joy. I thank you, Lord, for a peace that surpasses all understanding. In addition to prophesying Bethlehem as your birthplace, Micah also prophesied that you would be our peace. The peace you came to bring, announced by the angels and spread by shepherds, is for all people. It is not a promise that our world will be free of war or that conflict will disappear from our lives. It is, however, the assurance that our sin does not estrange us from you. The ultimate blessing of your birth is that it set in motion your holy life and innocent death that would cancel out our sin and reconcile us to you again. Since our sin no longer separates us from you, we have your undeserved favor resting upon us now and forever. There is no greater peace than that! 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.