DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Honor You in My Use of Alcohol

Lord Jesus,
You blessed the wedding at Cana, not just with your presence, but also with a miraculous gift of fine wine. Your Word also speaks positively of wine as a blessing that gladdens the heart and can also address certain bodily ailments or distress. Used properly and enjoyed in moderation, alcohol can be appreciated as the blessing you intend it to be. 

Keep me from abusing it. Guard me from drinking excessively and in excess. Drunkenness is not a gray area in your Word, but is always a sin that dishonors you and my own body. And, since the sin of drunkenness so often multiplies into other sins, help me to always be in control when drinking. Give me the wisdom to know my limitations, and not to be unwise when I have surpassed those limitations. Let me never put my own life or the lives of others at risk regarding my use of alcohol. Instead, guide me to model a healthy relationship with it, so that in a world of so many poor examples, I might be a bright spot. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Light More Candles

(Matthew 4:12-23)

It’s one of those quotes that has been attributed to so many different individuals that it’s quite uncertain who the original author is. I am also quite certain I’ve referenced the quote at some point in a previous sermon or post. Perhaps you’ve heard it: “It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.” If you’re really concerned about determining who ought to be credited with the saying, feel free to research it and let me know. For my part, and for the purpose of this post, I’m more interested in seeing the quote put into practice than I am in knowing who said it. 

Isn’t light what the world needs more of? I don’t think there would be too much pushback if I shared the opinion that the world is a dark place. Regardless of what your views on anything are, you won’t have any trouble on any given day coming across a story or headline that has you convinced things are going in the wrong direction. The world is going down the toilet. The world is dark.

What’s especially sneaky about the darkness is that we tend to get used to it. It’s called dark adaptation. You’ve experienced this when you’ve left a lighted room and entered a dark or poorly lit room. At first, it’s difficult to see where anything is. In a relatively short time, though, one’s eyes adjust and become accustomed to the dark. We can see things clearly enough to get around, and we get used to it.

You’ve experienced the same thing with sin. At first it shocked you. Now… not so much. Initially, it was absolutely wrong. Then, after a while, it became more of a gray area. It was clearly sinful way back when, but if it has become so common and normalized today, can it still be so bad? We get used to the dark. We get used to sin. 

But getting rid of the darkness isn’t a matter of somehow decreasing the dark. You can’t “put out” the darkness. You can’t take the dark away or remove it. Darkness only disappears in the presence of light. When light is removed, that’s when darkness results.

A piece of paneled artwork in a room at our church depicts this. As your eyes scan from left to right, you notice the piece of art starts out completely covered in a golden light. There is no darkness. That was the world as God created it. But when is the darkness introduced? When sin enters the world.

That may give the impression that the darkness, which dominates the nine middle art panels until the final one, is the introduction of sin in a fallen world. In one sense, yes, but as you consider what sin does, what really happened? The light of holiness and perfection was removed. When that was all the world knew, it was covered in light. But once sin entered, the light of holiness and perfection exited the world. 

But, throughout the artwork, a thread of light is woven in the darkness. This is the good news of the gospel, or the promise of purity and perfection restored. The initial step in that promise has been carried out by Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection, which is reflected in the center of the artwork. The final step, when that promise of purity and perfection will be fully delivered – and the golden light with it – will take place in the Revelation imagery when Jesus returns on the Last Day. When he does, complete light is restored, as it is in the final panel of the art piece. The new world ushered in by our Savior will not know darkness because the light of purity and perfection will be all there is.

So as we anticipate that radiant renewal, how do we handle the darkness in the meantime? What is the solution to the darkness we see in the world? When light is reintroduced, darkness disappears. We don’t “fix” the darkness; we shine the light.

Isaiah’s prophecy revealed when that light was going to be introduced into the world. “Land of Zebulun and land of Naphtali, the Way of the Sea, beyond the Jordan, Galilee of the Gentiles—the people living in darkness have seen a great light; on those living in the land of the shadow of death a light has dawned” (v.15-16). The light had come into the world at Jesus’ birth, and it was now beginning to get brighter with Jesus’ ministry. The light would shine its brightest in the darkest moment of Jesus’ death on Good Friday and in the full splendor of the empty tomb. The Resurrection would ensure that the darkness would be defeated. 

But the Messiah didn’t just come to save; he came to proclaim. The Messiah had a message: the gospel. If no one had ever heard the message of the Messiah’s salvation, who would have benefited? No one! The message had to be heard. A fully operational light switch with a working light bulb still needs to be turned on to be effective. So it is with the message of the Messiah’s salvation – it needs to be heard and believed to be effective.

So it wasn’t just the Messiah, but a Messiah with a message. “From that time on Jesus began to preach, ‘Repent, for the kingdom of heaven has come near’” (v.17). Jesus’ message was to turn around, to change your thinking, to realize that the way you were going on your own was only going to result in an eternal dead end. Why? Because a better way – the only way – had arrived. Jesus was there to shine the light of salvation for all. 

The word “repent” tends to get a bad reputation in our day and age. It evokes images of hard-line fundamentalist Christians, protesting and picketing, who seem to find more joy in condemning sinners than in pointing them to Christ.

But another way to think of that word repent in the context of light and dark is simply to acknowledge that we’re in the dark. When that happens, we realize how much we need – and appreciate – the light that has come.

So when we’ve become comfortable in the darkness of sin, we repent. When we see the darkness of sin around us, we repent for simply looking the other way or ignoring it. When we see the darkness of sin in our loved ones, we repent for permitting it. 

And then we’re ready for the light. We’re ready for the light of God’s grace in Jesus to dispel the darkness. We’re ready for the gospel to beam so brightly into our hearts that all darkness is gone. We’re ready for the good news that Jesus preached and carried out to reach our ears, too. Then we see the blessing of being in the light. We see how pleasing and pleasant it is to walk in the light. And we want it for others, too. 

See, it wasn’t just a Messiah with a message, but also a Messiah making messengers. Matthew makes that connection clear for us by first revealing the fulfillment of Isaiah’s prophecy, then choosing to write about Jesus calling his disciples. “As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers, Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. “Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.” At once they left their nets and followed him. Going on from there, he saw two other brothers, James son of Zebedee and his brother John. They were in a boat with their father Zebedee, preparing their nets. Jesus called them, and immediately they left the boat and their father and followed him” (v.18-22). The Messiah proclaimed his message, then he called his messengers. Why? So that more candles could be lit.

It’s easy for us to forget that we are called to light candles. We are messengers. We are the solution to the darkness. We are the ones to spread the light. We are the hope for a world blanketed in darkness. So let’s practice.

Someone brings up the latest crushing headline. We acknowledge it. We lament it. We share our frustration and disappointment over it. But then what? Do we just leave it at that? No, let’s get into the habit of asking each other, “How can we light a candle?” What can we do – because we are not powerless! – what can we do in response to the news just discussed? How can we light a candle to put out that darkness?

I can light a candle by praying right then and there. I can light a candle by ensuring that my children grow up in their faith and develop a relationship with Jesus that I wish I had started earlier. I can light a candle by bringing Jesus into the conversation with my friend who is going through a divorce. I can light a candle by making a difference in my neighborhood simply by getting to know my neighbors and building bridges to Jesus. I can light a candle by volunteering and supporting good causes in my community. There are countless ways for us to light a candle daily!

Call out the darkness. Identify it. Name it. But don’t waste your time or energy cursing it. Ask how you can light a candle instead. When that happens, darkness is replaced with light, and others can see its source – Jesus – more clearly. Brothers and sisters in Christ, “[we, too!] have seen a great light; on those living in the land of the shadow of death a light has dawned” (Mt. 4:15). Let’s light more candles! 

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To Live in the Joy and Peace of Freedom in Christ

Precious Redeemer,
You have set me free! Because my sins have been forgiven and I am yours, I am free from the guilt of all my own wrongdoings. I am free from the terror of your wrath or retribution. I am free from being helplessly enslaved by Satan and his hold over me. I am free from the fear of dying and death. I am free from the futility of endlessly pursuing my own perfection or any other impossible standard that I’ve established in my mind. I am free! Grant me, I pray, the daily joy of believing it and the peace of mind that accompanies a life lived in freedom. And, as I embrace this freedom that is mine in and through Jesus Christ alone, use that to propel my whole life as a constant expression of gratitude and thankfulness in every way.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Trust You Wholeheartedly

Providential Father,
Your promises, which are always trustworthy and true, assure me that you will provide for all of my physical and spiritual needs. But, even though I believe it, I still struggle to trust it. Doubt and worry come so naturally and so easily to me, prompting me to think I’m just better off taking matters into my own hands and controlling the outcome on my own. This usually results in my experiencing the all-too-familiar lesson of how foolish it is to pretend I could care for or provide for myself better than you. Therefore, I ask you not to improve my prowess in providing, but rather to increase my trust. Steer me away from self-reliance and toward a deeper confidence in you. Lead me to lean on you not hole-heartedly, but wholeheartedly.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Those Contemplating Suicide

Author of Life,
Although they may have figured out how to mask it on the outside, many are desperately hurting on the inside. For a number of them, the struggle is so severe that they have even considered suicide as an option. Intervene, Lord, especially in the lives of those who have gone so far as to plan out how they would end their lives. Protect their lives by frustrating their plans and making others aware of the gravity of their situation. Compel those with suicidal thoughts to be proactive and ask for help, and when they do, provide it. Let those struggling in this way know that others love them and care for them, and that their lives really do matter. And, if that is difficult for them to grasp or believe, open their eyes to see that they are so valuable to you that you were willing to give up your only Son for them. Please extend their time of grace and restore meaning and purpose to their precious lives. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Let Your Light Shine Brightly

Light of the World,
You came into the world to shine the bright light of your glorious salvation through your holy life, your undeserved death, and your magnificent resurrection. Now, you rule over all things and work them out for the good of your church. Nevertheless, so many who are outside the realm of your kingdom still don’t know the light of salvation. Use me to light a candle and make your gracious forgiveness known. Shine the joy and certainty of salvation through me as I witness to others. No one needs to remain in the darkness of unbelief and sin, since you came to undo their permanent reign. Light up the world, and use me to do it.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To See the Darkness in the World and in Me

Light of the World,
The world is a dark place. It is steeped in the darkness of sin and unbelief. I see this darkness in headlines and breaking news far too frequently. But, even more troubling than that, I see it in myself as well. I am no stranger to the shadows, since they emanate from within me. Though I am forgiven and set free by your grace, I still battle against the sinful flesh that craves to cover the world in darkness. Help me to see myself through the lens that is the light of your salvation, so that I become more and more interested not in dispersing the darkness, but in dispelling it. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Families with Little Ones in Worship

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. But worship is a unique challenge for parents with little children. Thank you for the Christian parents who prioritize bringing their little ones to worship. Some mornings, before they even pull into the church parking lot, they have already experienced a day’s worth of stressful wear and tear. Provide them with the strength and determination to follow through with worship, and through it, rejuvenate their spirits. Fill the members of their church families with compassion to know when to lend a helping hand to frazzled moms and dazed dads. Direct congregations to consider how they might become more family-friendly. Give parents the discernment and discipline to raise their children to view worship with reverence and respect. Through these formative years in church, lay a solid foundation in children that paves the way for a lifetime of faithful worship attendance, so their hearts remain saturated by the gospel. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Accountability and Encouragement

Lord God,
Your Spirit works in me the desire to do your will. My inability to follow through or carry out your will is my fault alone. Give me the humility to seek out a friend and brother in the faith to aid me in my walk, and to provide me with accountability and correction. Where my desire falls short or my discipline is lacking, use this individual to speak the truth in love to me. Establish a trust between us that allows him to tell me what I need to hear, no matter how difficult it may be, and give me the spiritual maturity to receive and accept his admonishment as it is intended: for my good. For such a relationship to bear fruit, I need to be honest and transparent with him. Give me the courage to consider and seek out someone who could serve in this way and bless each of us through this bond.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Enough

(Colossians 2:6-15)

We want more. More of everything. We’re discouraged from “settling,” as more is usually reasonably within reach. Products and services are peddled effectively by promising more than whatever the competitor is offering. And why is it that we want more? Because we’re convinced we don’t have enough.

We don’t have enough saved up for retirement. We don’t have a big enough house or yard. We don’t have enough time to get that done today, too. We don’t have enough bandwidth to have that conversation. We don’t have enough… 

The words from Colossians smash that silliness of needing more by reminding us unequivocally that we have enough. Paul was writing to people who thought they needed more. They were being taught by others, “sure, you have Jesus – but you need more.” You need Jesus and this law or rite or ceremony. You need Jesus and to live this way or that way. You need Jesus and this enlightenment. Jesus is fantastic, but he isn’t enough. You need more. 

Paul responded with this: “For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form” (v.9). Fullness. What does that word mean? It’s another way of saying “enough.” There isn’t “more,” because there isn’t even room for more. That’s what full means!

In this day and age, when gas pumps automatically shut off, it’s really hard to overflow your tank with gas. But it can still be done.

I know.

When you’re used to filling up your gas tank, you know how many gallons it can hold. Not too long ago, as I eyed the pump while refueling, I knew it was nowhere near how many gallons the tank could hold. So, I was getting frustrated that the stupid pump kept clicking off every time I insisted on pumping more into the tank. Finally, when a little gas started spilling out of the tank, I got the message. That’s when I remembered that the tank wasn’t near “E” like it is almost every time I fill up, but was already half full. So, once the tank was filled up, the pump was doing exactly what it was supposed to do: shut off. It was letting the operator know the tank is full. It cannot hold anymore. It will overflow if you keep pumping gas. 

If Christ is all the fullness of the Deity, then he lacks nothing. There isn’t room for more. He is fully God. He isn’t a stand-in. He isn’t merely a representative or a replica. He isn’t a part of the whole. He is the fullness of God in the flesh. All of God, living and breathing, walking and talking with mankind as man himself while here on earth. 

Since Christ is the fully-in-the-flesh God, he has actual power. “He is the head over every power and authority” (v.10b).

That kind of power means Christ can accomplish what he claims. Anything less than a fully-in-the-flesh God would leave us doubtful. We’d lack certainty. But because Jesus Christ is really God, he has real power.

Fans of the show, Survivor, have become accustomed to contestants constructing their own elaborate immunity necklaces. Through these fake immunity idols, they hope to fool other players into thinking they have real power. But as real as those necklaces may appear to other contestants, if they try to play them to avoid getting voted out of the game, they end up looking rather foolish. That’s because the fake necklace doesn’t offer real immunity from a vote. It’s merely a look-a-like – not the real thing. It has no real power.

But since Christ, the fullness of the Deity in bodily form, has real power, then you can be sure that “in Christ you have been brought to fullness” (v.10a). As such, we have all that we need, or “fullness” in Christ. If Christ were not fully God, not the real thing, then we could not be brought to fullness “in Christ.” Rather, we could only have been brought to fullness in Christ and this or that other thing. But not just “in Christ.”

Yet that’s exactly what Paul writes. We have been brought to fullness in Christ, because Christ is fully God. 

But while Jesus is enough, it isn’t enough to know about Jesus; we have to know how he achieved that fullness for us. Paul covered that. “When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your flesh…” (v.13a). You and I were dead. Dead in our sins.

People struggle to realize or believe the Bible’s teaching that no matter how good we may think we are, the reality is that we are dead. We are the walking dead. We’re dead in sin. Why is that so hard for us to naturally accept or believe? 

Yes, we are exceptional at downplaying and diminishing our sin as not being all that bad. But, there’s more: sometimes the last thing sin feels like is death. Right? In fact, if anyone reading this has sinned (and I think there are a few…), you know from experience that sin is so deceptively destructive because in the moment, we experience the rush of feeling very much alive!

After all, isn’t that what makes sin so appealing? It makes us think we’re missing out on something, and so we go through with it to experience whatever rush it promises, and then… then, we crash and die. Like a skydiver without a parachute, sin provides the rebellious rush of jumping out of the plane, but with no parachute. And the end result will always be the same: death.

The rush of rebelling against parents or anyone in authority and living life my way. The euphoria of sex on my terms whenever I want and with whomever I want outside of marriage. The satisfaction of roasting someone else. We feel so alive in the midst of our sin! But the end result is always the same: death. The promised rush was never real, but an effective scheme of Satan used repeatedly to lead a lamb to its slaughter. That’s all sin can do. It condemns. It kills.

But now, “God made [us] alive with Christ” (v.13b). Could this really happen? How did this happen? “with Christ,” Paul says. Did God really raise Christ from the dead? Yes! Then God can make alive, because Christ lives! If Christ, who died, lives, then you have really been made alive with him!

And here’s how he did it. “He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross” (v.13b-14). He forgave our sins, not just because he’s a nice guy or wanted to change his mind, but because he paid the price. He nailed our sin to the cross with him, so everything we owed because of our sin has been cancelled and forgiven. And if it was that sin that killed and condemned us, but that sin no longer remains, then we are no longer dead, but made alive with Christ.

In Jesus’ case, the cross was not for a criminal; it was the podium on which the victor was displayed. The cross didn’t mean death and defeat, but victory! And not just for Christ, who did not need to win anything for himself, but a victory he won for us! And he didn’t hesitate to make that victory known, but displayed it clearly for Satan and all who oppose him to see. “And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross” (v.15).

Most trophy cases have plaques and medals and ribbons, but Christ’s has a cross. Just think of how Satan despises that cross around your neck, displayed on your wall at home, fixed in the front of churches! They serve as a constant reminder of our victory and his defeat!

We know who Jesus is – the fullness of God. We know how fullness in Christ is found: through the cross. When, though, does it become ours?

In baptism. Paul wrote, “Your whole self ruled by the flesh was put off when you were circumcised by Christ,  having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God, who raised him from the dead” (v.11b-12). In baptism, you were buried and raised with Christ. In baptism, God cut out the old self ruled by the sinful flesh and raised up the new child of God. 

Do you feel alive? You are, in Christ. What now? In this new year, you don’t need more – at least not more of the same old stuff you’ve chased after in the past that has gotten you where you are today. If you’re still chasing after more in this life because you don’t have enough, then maybe it’s time to start pursuing more of the One who is enough. How? “So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness” (v.6-7).

Maybe your life doesn’t feel like enough because you’re not continuing to live in him. Maybe your life doesn’t feel like enough because your roots are too shallow. Maybe your life doesn’t feel like enough because your faith is so weak. Maybe your life doesn’t feel like enough because you’re not very grateful. 

Do you want to live your life in him, deepen your roots, strengthen your faith, or grow in gratitude – but you don’t know how? If that’s the case, you’re in the right place. Start here! Dig into the Word – and get into God’s house. Find a local Christian congregation that unapologetically proclaims Christ.

Whatever you’ve told yourself to keep you from being at church – discard those lying, deceitful reasons! If Christ is enough – and he is – church is where Christ is proclaimed. And where Christ is, that’s where roots deepen and faith is strengthened. Where Christ is, is where thankfulness begins to overflow. 

More than likely, there’s going to be a need to establish some new habits. Research shows that success in achieving goals and growth doesn’t most often come the way we might think it does: with big, sweeping, radical changes that completely transform our lives. Rather, lasting success comes from very small choices or habits carried out consistently over time.

Another popular way of expressing this principle is the one percent rule. If you focus on getting just one percent better each day and carry it out repeatedly, those efforts will compound over time into something bigger. Put your dish in the dishwasher daily instead of on the counter. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. One serving of dessert. You get the point. 

Doesn’t it seem like Paul understood this? He didn’t write to the Colossians, “Oh, Jesus Christ is your Lord? That’s great, then you’re good to go.” He wrote, “continue to live your lives in him.” Continue. Consistently. 1% every day. One Bible verse on your phone daily. Say a prayer first thing in the morning. Thank God for one blessing every day. One act of service for someone daily. Some of you might need to start with smaller, weekly steps. How about one Sunday a week at church? 🙂 Whatever it is, don’t stop. Continue. Consistently. Because Christ. Is. Enough.