DAILY PRAYERS FOR GUYS

To Appreciate Extroverts and Introverts

Wonderful Father,
Each of us is fearfully and wonderfully made. That means we are not clones of each other, sharing the same personalities, abilities, and interests. Some of us are very outgoing extroverts, while others are keep-to-ourselves introverts. Rather than being frustrated by these differences, help us to embrace them and even celebrate that uniqueness.

You often use the outgoing nature of extroverts to make new introductions and connections with people. Introverts, on the other hand, while not eager to step out of their comfort zone to make those initial new connections, can be amazing at developing those one-on-one relationships more deeply. Extroverts may unintentionally speak without considering how their words might be received by others, while those who are more reserved may have more of a knack for reading the room and being socially aware. While we understand that these generalizations can’t possibly apply to everyone in the same way, they help us to appreciate that you have wired us differently. Rather than seeing these differences as deficiencies, help us to marvel at how you can use everyone in specialized ways to bless and build up each other. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Be More Kingdom-Minded With My Possessions

Loving Savior,
You praised the shrewd manager who made the most of his situation and worked it to his own advantage. Your praise, though, is not intended to compel us to follow in his footsteps concerning his pursuit of personal gain. Rather, we can imitate his shrewdness in a spiritual sense as we consider how our station in life and the connections we have could be advantageous to the kingdom.

You place worldly resources all around us that can certainly be used in support of gospel ministry. Grant me greater awareness of my own personal connections and the resources at my disposal that can be utilized in kingdom-minded ways. Expand my view beyond the local ministry of my own congregation to also consider how I might be in a position to help facilitate the ministry of other congregations or organizations, on a larger scale or in different ways. Shift my perspective more and more to see all that you have entrusted to me as a means by which your gospel reach can be extended.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Support Kingdom Work with My Gifts

Gracious Gift-Giver,
All that we have is yours. All that you have entrusted to us is intended to be a blessing to us and/or to others. Help me see all the ways I can use all that I have for good in this world and for your kingdom. When my hands and heart are inclined to clutch on to my belongings as if they’re mine, let your grace loosen my grip. Guard my heart from greed by filling it with a spirit of generosity. Move me to eagerly help and support others when I have the means to do so. Lead me to regularly reflect on the offerings I give back to you, and open my eyes to see how I can facilitate and support the work of your kingdom. Grant me the joy of seeing how generous giving can enrich and extend your kingdom, and use the gifts of your people to seek out the lost and serve the found.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Don’t Mistake a Warning for a Challenge

(Luke 16:1-13)

“Betcha can’t eat just one!” One of the most enduring and successful ad campaigns came from FritoLay back in the 1960’s. Initially featuring the actor who played the Cowardly Lion in the Wizard of Oz, the ads invited consumers to try and stop at just one of their popular potato chips. They knew that if they could convince potential customers to try even just one, they wouldn’t be able to stop there. So they issued the challenge, “Betcha can’t eat just one.”

Jesus’ final words in this section from Luke 16 almost come across like a challenge. He says, “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money” (v.13). Hmmmm… sounds kind of like a challenge, doesn’t it? “Betcha can’t serve both!”

Here’s what’s tricky: we know better. We know Jesus is giving a warning, not issuing a challenge. And as the statement stands, we know what Jesus is saying and we totally agree with him on premise. We know it would be foolish to think we could put God and money on an equal plane and serve them both. It can’t work, just as Jesus stated. 

But that doesn’t keep us from trying to make it work, even if we may not always realize we’re doing it. No, it’s not like we actively plot and lay out a concrete plan as to how we can serve money while also serving God. Actually, though, that’s just the point: when we don’t lay out a plan as to how we’re going to serve God – yes, including with our money – then we inadvertently end up trying to serve them both. 

Consider how this works. Here is some food for thought. Let’s compare two things: our giving and our spending.

When is the last time you thought about your giving? To clarify, I am referring to the offerings believers give to Jesus through their local congregation (offerings are given not earn salvation, but in gratitude for it). So, how frequently do you think about your offerings? Is your giving sporadic, random, or even… non-existent? Or, do you have a plan for your offerings? If it’s guided by God’s Word, then it involves planning, it’s consistent, proportionate, generous, and giving is cheerful. Do all of those apply to your giving? Some of them? Any of them? Chances are, if your giving isn’t planned or thought about regularly, then it’s either not happening at all, or at least not as God encourages it to.

But how about your spending? Whether you follow a budget or not, spending is still going to happen, isn’t it? And, it probably happens whether it’s planned or not. And, it probably happens at a level that would actually surprise us if we tracked it more carefully. Why is that?

There are plenty of reasons, but I think one big one is that we don’t exchange cash like we used to. And, since we don’t literally see the cash leaving our hands as we give it away, we have a different relationship with money. I just Venmo you the money, and either the money is merely a number taken from my Venmo balance or it is just drawn from the bank. I am shopping online, and I just click the button without a second thought, as everything is already connected directly to my bank or a credit card that I may or may not pay off each month. In the store with no cash, checkbook (yes, some still use those), or credit/debit card – that’s OK! I just pull out my phone and hold it next to the reader and “voila!” – my purchase is paid for from some account somewhere – I’ll figure it out later. 

Do you notice the primary difference between the two, giving and spending? One is going to keep happening whether I think about it or not, because of course we won’t stop buying stuff we want. The other, though, is unlikely to happen if we never give it thought. So when Jesus says we cannot serve both God and money, we unknowingly live as if he’s challenged us and we’re trying to prove him wrong on a daily basis. 

But Jesus even pointed out what should be the clear evidence or proof of living such a lie. He said, “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own?” (v.10-12). If we spend without giving, should we wonder why it’s so tough to make a living? Jesus is telling us to stop thinking we can have it both ways. If we can’t get our spending under control, if we can’t pump the breaks on purchasing and squandering what we have, why would God entrust more to us to squander away?

Or, another way to think about it – why would God enable us? Why would he willingly serve as an accomplice to accommodate our desire to serve a false god? That hits a little differently, doesn’t it? We need to see the word “consume” inside of “consumer” and be aware of when our spending is consuming us. Can you say no to spending? Can you go without purchasing or buying what isn’t planned out ahead of time? Are you controlled by impulse buys? Do you justify buying this, that or the other thing, because “you’re stressed,” or “it’s a gift for someone else,” or you “need” it, or “it’s so cute,” or… the list goes on. Justify it however you want, but when we are enslaved by spending, we need to call it what it is: idolatry. And the Bible is quite clear on what happens to idolaters.

Don’t miss the other important connection Jesus made with these words. He tied the physical to the spiritual, indicating that our management of earthly stuff is a test to determine the degree to which we will be entrusted with “true riches,” as Jesus calls them. In other words, the spiritual stuff. If we can’t manage our physical blessings, don’t expect God to heap on us the spiritual blessings, the stuff that is actually valuable. Why would he do that if such blessings will only end up mismanaged or under-appreciated?

And let’s not forget what it took for God to be able to extend those spiritual blessings to us. Paul described how those blessings came to us through Jesus. “For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sake he became poor, so that you through his poverty might become rich” (2 Corinthians 8:9).

Jesus’ parable of the rich man and shrewd manager was just that – a parable. But what we have in reality is a rich Savior who didn’t merely reduce our debt or leave us on the hook with some payment plan to secure our salvation. Instead, he gave himself up, becoming poor so that we through him might become rich.

And that is what we are! Rich in grace and forgiveness, so much so that we never have to worry about our account running dry. Every sin on our ledger is crossed out and cancelled with more grace! Every compulsive purchase, every greedy grab, every single cent that we have spent in service to the idol of money – all has been forgiven through the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ. We are free from slavery to spending. We can say no to impulse purchases. We can save. We can bless others. We can give. We can turn the idol of money into our servant, using it to serve our Savior and his purposes.

The parable Jesus told guides us in how to do that. He told the parable of the rich man and his manager. The rich man discovered that his financial guy was crooked, so he canned him. “There was a rich man whose manager was accused of wasting his possessions. So he called him in and asked him, ‘What is this I hear about you? Give an account of your management, because you cannot be manager any longer’” (v.1-2). The guy suddenly found himself without a job, and of course, when you get the pink slip for being dishonest when managing finances, who else is going to hire you? No one! So, knowing that his job prospects were very slim, he made the most of his current situation to earn favor with others who could then end up as valuable assets for him in the future. He reviewed their accounts and slashed what they owed by fifty and twenty percent. 

The real shock in the parable, however, isn’t found in his actions, but rather in the commendation of his manager, and ultimately, of Jesus. “The master commended the dishonest manager because he had acted shrewdly. For the people of this world are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the people of the light. I tell you, use worldly wealth to gain friends for yourselves, so that when it is gone, you will be welcomed into eternal dwellings” (v.8-9).

Is Jesus praising or advocating dishonesty here? No. But he is encouraging us to be opportunistic. And no, not just to advance our personal financial portfolio, but to advance his kingdom. That was clearly what Jesus had in mind by his reference of being “welcomed into eternal dwellings.” So Jesus laid out one of the many God-pleasing ways to manage his gift of money: to be resourceful with it in seeking to build up his kingdom, to extend the reach of the gospel, and to see a population increase of souls saved as a result of spiritually shrewd efforts. 

Do you see the double benefit of being spiritually shrewd in managing God’s gift of money? One, it curbs us from falling into serving the god of spending. Two, it can do exponentially more eternal good when we are deliberate and opportunistic regarding kingdom-minded ventures. 

Jesus’ words to us today aren’t a challenge, but a warning. We can’t serve both the god of spending and the God of our salvation.

But we can serve the God of our salvation with his gift of money. 

Indeed, let’s shift Jesus’ final words around just a little bit, and we see another side of what Jesus is encouraging. Rather than, “you cannot serve both God and money,” let’s rephrase it into a challenge: “Betcha can’t serve God with money.” By God’s grace, that’s a challenge we can accept! May we eagerly accept that challenge and marvel at how God is able to bless our handling of his gifts for his kingdom.

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To Pursue You Rather Than Possessions

Precious Lord,
When you stated that man cannot serve both God and money, you were not issuing us a challenge, but rather a warning. You know the gravity of the warning because you know the powerful pull money can have on our heart. You also know how deceitful our hearts are, which makes it even more dangerous for us to fall for the allure of money and possessions. When we find ourselves drawn to possessions, counter those temptations in us with a spirit of contentment. Steer our focus away from stuff and onto our Savior. Redirect our passion for pursuing possessions toward a deeper desire for you. As we make you our greatest priority, bless our focus by opening the eyes of our hearts to more fully see how truly rich we are in you. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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To Build Relationships With My Church Family

Heavenly Father,
Sundays are sacred. Worship is the highlight of the week in the life of a believer. Through the proclamation of your Word as it is sung and spoken, you speak to our hearts and nourish our souls. In the Sacrament you feed our faith with forgiveness and fuel us for Christian living.

Yet, while your Spirit works on each of us and nurtures us individually, you never intended for our personal growth to remain private. So when we gather for worship, help us to be mindful of how we help each other grow as a community. While we may not all be extroverted, lead worshipers to be intentional about trying to connect with others and build relationships within their congregations. As these friendships are established and strengthened, let them be a means by which believers experience love, care, and support. Use these relationships to meet one another’s needs, to put faith into practice, and to experience the joys of ministry as you bear fruit in their midst. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Dealing with Difficult Church Members

Lord of the Church,
You call us to gather together and unite with fellow believers to carry out our mission and ministry together. When this happens at the local congregational level, you use us both to be a blessing to others and to be blessed by others as the body of Christ. Thank you for the many influential believers you have brought into my life through my church family.

Yet, just as in all other areas of life, church is not without difficult people. While this doesn’t surprise us, knowing your church is made up of sinner saints, it can be a unique challenge because believers are called to hold each other to a higher standard. Forgive me first of all for the many times and ways I’ve personally fallen short of those standards and been difficult for others. Let me extend to others the same grace and patience that have so often been extended to me.

At the same time, don’t allow others to mistake that patience for permission when they are in the wrong or need to repent. Help me distinguish between spiritual immaturity and obstinance, and to separate ignorance or eccentricities from deliberate disobedience. Lead me to assume the best of all of my fellow church members, especially the particularly difficult ones. Guard any differences from becoming divisiveness, and continue to build up your church through the unique members of the body of Christ.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Dealing with Difficult Coworkers

Dear Savior,
Ever since the Fall, sin has tainted your blessing of work. Even when we are fortunate enough to be able to do what we love and are skilled at, still there are frustrations in even the most ideal situations. Sometimes those challenges stem from the responsibilities of work itself; other times our struggles have more to do with people. 

When faced with the issue of difficult coworkers, help me to navigate the tension that can exist between my own morality and ethics, which are established and guided by your Word, and a different moral compass by which the world and secular workplace often operate. Let me speak up when I see conduct that is not condoned or endorsed by my place of employment, since I have a responsibility to uphold the name and reputation of my workplace. When lazy coworkers take advantage of the strong work ethic of others by unfairly assigning them heavier workloads, bless the solid coworkers and rebuke and correct the lazy ones. When coworkers refuse to honor appropriate boundaries with others, let it be known and addressed. When/if I come under fire for my faith, let me stand firm and let my light shine as I am able to in keeping with the established policies. When I am feeling overwhelmed by the burden of difficult coworkers, give me the peace of mind and heart in remembering that I am working first and foremost for you above all else. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Dealing with Difficult Family Members

Loving Father,
Family relationships have the potential to be among the most treasured connections we have, as well as some of the most challenging. Since we generally tend to be as close to our family as we are to anyone else, that tight bond can amplify both the best and the worst of any relationships. Give me the awareness to recognize family members who manipulate the shared bond and twist it to induce guilt or shame on other family members. Grant me patience with difficult family members, as well as the courage to lovingly call them out whenever necessary. Let me be unafraid to call believing family members to repentance when they have sinned, and also unashamed to evangelize unbelieving family members. While I cannot change or control the behavior of my biological family, I am responsible for how I respond to them and handle them. Let me do so with a balance of firmness and grace, seeking always to do what is in the best interest of their eternal good.  

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

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For Dealing with Difficult Friends

Friend of Sinners,
Friends are a special gift through which you provide many unique blessings. They can protect us from isolation and loneliness, we can enjoy events and experiences with them, engage in rich conversation, and share a variety of passions and interests together. Thank you for all that they bring into our lives.

Friends, though, like so many others in our lives, can also be difficult. Some struggle with confidentiality, passing along to others details of conversations that were shared in confidence. At times they can be unreliable, struggling to follow through or keep their word. There are also some friendships that are challenging because they tend to be very one-sided; we invest far more into them than we get out of them. When friends maintain destructive habits, reject our advice to their detriment, put us in bad situations, or tarnish our reputation, sustaining the relationship can be difficult. Give us patience and discernment when dealing with difficult friends, to know when we can make a sacrifice on their behalf, but also to avoid enabling them. Give us also the wisdom to be aware when it might be best for us to reconsider the friendship for our own good, and maybe theirs, too. 

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.